I think this is the Christian thing to do, but it is trying my patience. Help!?

Question

I've been at a new job and another lady started with me recently. She lives on the way to our job and told me that her car has been repossessed so she has to take the bus, but asked if I could drive her to and from work. It really isn't out of my way at all, but we may be at this job for a few months. I know that Jesus says to help the needy, but I work with her all day long and she always feels like she needs to talk to me and tell me what she's doing every minute of the day. I also feel like she is leading me into inappropriate conversations about things that I don't want to talk about really. I have tried to ignore her and be quiet and just do my work, but she keeps prodding me to talk etc., like I'm giving her an attitude if I ignore her. I don't know what to do. I feel if I stop giving her a ride, it's not the Christian thing to do, but it is trying me. Any advice from other Christians on what to do? I just want to go to work and do my job quietly and not get into trouble.

Answer 1

Don't be a doormat. just politely tell her that it is no longer possible for you to give her a ride any more. You don't need to tell her anything more than that, and if she presses you just tell her that there are personal reasons you'd rather not go into.

You've told the truth, you've treated this lady gently and respectfully, and you at least tried to help her. After all, God helps those who help themselves; that holds true for you and her...ultimately you may be helping her to be more independant in the long run.

Answer 2

Seriously, tell her what you wrote (your question) or something similar. My friend had the same problem, and she told the lady that she was driving around that she just couldn't drive her around anymore. It really depends on the person though, like the lady that my friend drove around smoked and my friend was pregnant, she constantly cussed ( My friend and I do not cuss), and she played guilt trips which made taking her to places depressing. She'd always talk about her problems and expect you to agree with no matter what. But like I said it really depends on the person. Now, I know Jesus said to help the needy, but why was her car repossessed in the first place so she ay not be the best person to do things for. I'm not saying that she's a bad person, but you might want to watch out.

Answer 3

Tell her that you don't like some of the subjects she speaks about and tell her that you don't feel right talking on the job, you are there to work.

While you should help others in need, you shouldn't be a doormat either. What is she doing to help herself to have a perm. ride to work? Thousands of people take the bus or train, even by choice. There are many more things out there that would more acurately describe needy. She just doesn't want to spend the money for the bus to pay her on way, she'd have to buy her own gas for her car, right? Don't be so hard on yourself!

Answer 4

Look at it from the other perspective. Would you consider her actions to be Christian? Does she offer to pay for your gas or provide some other compensation for your help? Or is she acting like a parasite and sucking as much help from you as she thinks she can get away with while returning nothing?

From your question, it sounds like she is a parasite. Animal parasites are dangerous to your long-term health. Human parasites are no different.

If she doesn't learn to change on her own, then you should help her do it by refusing to coddle her. She has no right to connive you into being her unpaid chauffeur. You are demeaning both of you by allowing her to do so.

Answer 5

If she is leading you into inappropriate conversations then maybe you should let her know you are not comfortable with this and that you would not be comfortable riding to and from work with her as long as this behavior continues.

It's hard sometimes to know what the right thing to do is. God knows your situation far better than I do so ask him for his advice. He also know the intentions of your associate whether they are good or bad.

Jesus once said "I will never leave thee nor forsake thee even unto the end of the world." Ask him for his guidance. He will know what to do.

Resist the devil and he will flee from thee!
Shannon Stacy

Answer 6

How about doing the human thing and engaging in a two way conversation with this woman.
I feel bad for your co-worker. I'd be mortified if I thought my being talkative and friendly was causing someone so much angst.
Sheesh.

Answer 7

I think you should talk to her as soon as possible. If you keep on bottling things up, it'll only get worse. Be honest, but tactful and polite too.

Here are some verses that might help;
Proverbs 13:10
Proverbs 15:1
Proverbs 15:23
Proverbs 16:24
Ephesians 4:31

Answer 8

The best way to handle that situation is to put yourself in her place. Think long and hard how would you feel. Now ask yourself this question. How would you want her to turn you away that would be acceptable to your feelings, and you agree to it with no hard feelings. Then that's what you should tell her. Do unto others as you would want others to do unto you.

Answer 9

did no longer your attempt to persuade human beings only the different day which you have been a Republican? So are you attempting your guy or woman endurance? Or are you what everybody suspects a mendacity liberal, atheist.

Answer 10

Just tell her to stop talking to you so often, tell her that she needs to be very professional at her job! If that doesn't work then just ignore her. sorry if you don't like my advice.