see want stop nagging me if was to keep on would u keep going to her house to her home i go there everyday to keep her company . why is a nag for even tho she is 89 steel not right i am 37 years old i dont need help crossing the road.
so if she keeps on should i keep going to her house she makes me MAD everytime I am going over there so should i keep going to to see her ?
2007-11-02 11:57:14 · 5 answers · asked by Rodney C 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell her how you feel about the nagging. She is older and may be old fashioned and can't let go of her old ways. If she is repetitive, she may be heading to senility. I know she is a pain in the butt, but I wouldn't stop visiting her. I would just agree if my grandfather stared with his old fashioned beliefs and not take it personal. If you don't react to her nagging, she may lay off because she is getting no reaction from you. Don't let her know you are mad. You know that you are an old enough, responsible adult, so try not to let her get the best of you. She is probably showing she loves and cares for you even if she is driving you crazy. I wouldn't recommend staying away because you would break her heart and of course when you did see her again, boy would you get a nagging. On a serious note, just try as hard as it might be to not let it get to you.
2007-11-02 12:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a sudden change for her, I'd take her to the doctor because it could be a sign of a health problem. If she's always been like it, I doubt that an 89 year old is suddenly going to change. But have you told her how you feel? I don't think you should just stop going to see her, but I also don't think you should have to put up with her abuse. It really is different if this is brand new, because if it is not her usual personality, then something is wrong with her. But if she is just a nag, go visit and the second the nagging starts say, "Grandma, I came to keep you company but I am not going to listen to you nag me. If you want company and you want me to stay, then let's find something better to talk about than what's wrong with me." If she keeps it up, then say you'll be back tomorrow and she can think of something better to talk about than your flaws in the meantime. Then the next day do the same thing. She'll get the message quickly enough.
2007-11-02 19:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by je9je9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all they know. Alot of nags in the older generation. They think that's how a person cares for someone and they may be jealous of younger people's especially females rights and freedom while they had to obey and not allow to work. It can be excess held in resentment that makes her nag. Tell her you love her and want her to stop nagging.
2007-11-02 19:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not eating your vegetables, are drinking alcohol, are staying up too late and sleeping in, not going to church every Sunday reading your Bible daily and saying your prayers at night and your room is a mess? Listen to her and straighten yourself out. It is true you need help "crossing the road". If you showed her you had corrected all these discrepancies she might praise you and give you a cookie instead of chastising you. Learn to control that anger!
Good luck with your elders, good mental health, peace and Love!
2007-11-02 20:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to mind her own business, some older folks are nosy and its annoying as hell. Say I love you but you are killing me woman lol
Peace--dont stop seeing her or you'll regret it.
2007-11-02 19:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by poison_angel32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋