My daughter has changed.She is lonely and often times in our desire for people and love we make bad choices.Well she has and she has declared war against me.She says I must respect her. It sometimes becomes physical and results in injury. I do not what to hurt her but she wants to lay hands on me. She went on a vacation with these girls and they ended in a fight because the girl accused her of taking her money.Yet the maid found her money.My daughter wants friends so bad that she is looking over their faults.But she is not seeing my situations when she gets angry. She has a boyfriend that cheats.She ask me to tell her what she should do and when I do it only gets worse.Then she talks about me reading the Bible and saying things I know nothing about. I know it is a spiritual attack against me.I need help to pray about this. I try not to say anything,then she says negative things. She does not live with me.Yet since these friends she demands to stay upstairs.She hears things,scarysounds.
2007-11-02 11:52:32 · 15 answers · asked by God is love. 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I live in a duplex and she lives down stairs. I am just asking for prayer not see what you think. We all have issues. God knows us. I need prayer not advice.
2007-11-02 12:06:49 · update #1
My daughter is 24 years old and a nurse.When it comes to life and adult hood she is not very aware. She was a good girl and in the church.She read the word of God.What she is asking of me I am not sure. I am not saying I am perfect but I have no time to play this is a serious situation. She went to Mami with them and now she is going the New York with them. I do not need any counciling God is on may side. But I will not allow anyone to hurt me. Not physically. So she can say whatever she wants. She is in the wrong crowd. I do not have to question her she tells me every thing even things I do not want to know. The word of God says we are not to talk about anothers ways not even in secret.She frightens me. So I pray,who knows maybe it happens just so I can stay on may knees. God allows and we respond in prayer.
2007-11-02 12:53:19 · update #2
I will pray for you and your daughter. I pray you will be led by God, and have peace. I will pray she turns from her ways and comes back to God.
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2007-11-02 13:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are projecting your fears into manifestation on her. Fear is not a good motivator for any child. Don't let her be abusive to you, but realize, you are not the victim, so this is not an attack on you. Your daughter is confused, in pain and totally lost. Young people identify themselves according to their friends. Since she has no friends she has no sail to guide her. She feels like she is hanging in the middle of space with no where to land. Love her and talk with her. Let her understand that while in your home she will treat you with respect and love. We have to teach our children how to love. Or, they grow up selfish and uncaring about the needs of others. I have been here twice with 2 daughters. I hope for the best for you. The only real answers for you lie within yourself. You need to step back from the picture and see the whole situation. Religion on your daughter will only make things worse right now. This is about you and her only. Bringing in any other parties right now would threaten her relationship with you. Trust your instincts when dealing with your children.
2007-11-02 12:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
you are obviously a mother in turmoil and i feel for you. however, your message has very strong overtones of 'brainwashing by organised religion'. I can only imagine this was how your daughter was brought up - to fear God and all that nonsense! it's no wonder she is throwing the bible thing back at you! that kinda upbringing would drive anyone crackers. it sounds to me like she has been restrained all her life and is now rebelling. Obviously, i can't change your religious views, they are well embedded now, however, although i believe in God, i do not need a middle man to secure my relationship with him. I think your daughter has realised this and is rebelling. By all means practise your own beliefs, but allow your daughter to find her own path in life and just reassure her that you respect her and no matter what she does, you will always be there for her. good luck, bringing up kids is very hard, but it is harder to let them go and make their own mistakes in life too. they have to do this though so that they can grow stronger in themselves.
2007-11-02 12:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by j c 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Looks like she is frustrated with something you already know, or if not, please try hard to know the reason. There must be some reason, because of which, she has changed. Probably she feels, to some extent, you are responsible for her frustration. I feel, only prayers by others will not help.
2007-11-02 15:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Gee Waman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider therapy together from a licensed Professional counselor or A licensced Marriage and Family Therapist.
I tend to recommend to people to avoid the Christian ones unless they are from a mainstream backgound like Episcopalian, Lutheran, United Methodist or the like.
Fundamentalist Christian Counselors tend to lay too heavy a burden on troubled clients at times, especially when a human ear may do more good to those in pain. Prayer is good too, but God gave Counselors those skills to help people without burdening them with overly legalistic guilt, when they already have issues.
She will feel less threatened about going if you go to and if it is getting physical at all, you both will benefit from an LPC or LMFt.
Most ministers are not trained in therapy and good ones will know this and recommend a professional with an open mind. Ministers are professionals and Counselors are too, but a minister not trained in a broadly based program can do great harm.
You will be in my prayers, but seek and LPC or LMFT to help. Check the yellow pages in your town or the nearest large town.
Your question has the tone of seeking advice, if you do not want it have your church pray for you, and i will as i said, but GOD helps those who help themselves and counselors were put here to help. you should not chastise well meaning folks on here who try to help. Also if your daughter is 24, no matter what she shares with you it is just that, sharing. She needs to be allowed to live her own life and make her own errors, then there will not be conflict.
Asking for prayer here is OK but this is a question answer forum not a prayer line my friend. it is natural for those of us who agree to pray to also try to help you sort out things. Most people are giving you advice because it seems you are both seeking it and need it.
You are right that we are not to talk about others shortcomings, but you shared a lot of detail about you and your daughter, so you are doing just that and God does not care if you are seeking help. You surely don't think God put teachers, therapists, doctors, nurses and the like here on earth to not help do you. He wants us to seek help from people in the helping professions.
please consider this and how you may be part of the problem too. When two people conflict it is never only one persons fault.
FINALLY: when women share and tell us things they seek understanding and empathy not advice!
2007-11-02 12:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
God bless you dear, and your loved ones!!
The most lovable quality any human being can possess is tolerance. …. It is the vision that enables one to see things from another’s viewpoint…. It is the generosity that concedes to others the right to their own opinions and their own peculiarities….. It is the bigness that enables us to let people be happy in their own way instead of our way.
Numbers 14.18-19 says, "The LORD is longsuffering, and of great mercy, forgiving iniquity and transgression, and by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation. Pardon, I beseech thee, the iniquity of this people according to the greatness of thy mercy, and as thou hast forgiven this people, from Egypt even until now."
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2007-11-02 12:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will pray for you. It sounds like you are going through a very dark time right now.
2007-11-02 19:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by prairieprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I claim to be no saint, but I will pray for you and your daughter. Try to listen to her and what she is saying,not what you are hearing. Listen with no judgment. Let her have her say, let her down load.Ask how you can help, and be supportive.Don't be critical or demanding or judge mental. Remember she is your child, always will be, and you will always love her. With that said, I suppose a good dose of reality is in order. Drug test may be in order. Friendships may have to be curtailed. Reality check in...... If in school...Up your grades. No job...get one. Be productive...be proud of what you do...and you will be prosperous.
2007-11-02 12:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by charlie e 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe some good outside help.
Family, Friends, Therapy.
May GOD Meet your Needs in this Situation in The Name of Jesus.
Lead and Guide them Father to the Help that they Need.
Thank You Father.
2007-11-02 12:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you read the Bible then you know to trust in God. He knows the beginning from the end. Remember the protocol son? All is not lost until we finish the race.
2007-11-02 12:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋