He's 44, I'm 39 been living together 1 year. His kids call me mom.
2007-11-02 11:08:11 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Id say a year. If he doesnt know by now he never will. He has what he wants so he may not want to ask. Men dont need the security that women do so hes thinking he has it made and not thinking what you need. You need to lay it on the line for him.
2007-11-02 11:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only been one year. asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is a big step, one that too many people jump into way too fast. There is nothing wrong with taking time making a decsion as big as this. Just not too much time. The fact that you are living togather is good, you get to really see what you are getting. If he doesnt ask you within the next year and a half then I would start to worry. In the meantime, have you talked to him about where he wants this relationsip to go? Maybe now is the time. You may find out you want different things. If so, then nows the time to get out of this and find someone whos on the same page as you or accept it and continue to live as you are.
2007-11-02 11:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by weez713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he ask you?
I mean think about it.
He has ALL the sexual benefits of a wife WITHOUT having to commit!
If you do things to make him mad out you go, if you dont keep house like he wants out you go, if he finds something better ,out you go.
This is why women should DEMAND marriage before sex and living together.
If he hasnt asked you by now, chances are he wont unless you badger him into it then he will do it grudgingly and then become bitter about it and divorce you later.
Tell him your moving out and that if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you he will propose and you will be married BEFORE you move back in.
2007-11-02 11:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is.. Does he WANT to get married. To men, the next logical step in a relationship is not always marriage. Has he been divorced? Maybe he is gun shy. You should ask him is it an option on the table? Then you'll know..
2007-11-02 11:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your 1st mistake was probably moving in with him.
It sounds like he wanted a mommy.
Probably the only thing you could do at this point is move out and tell him you can see that the relationship isn't going anywhere and you want more (as in a ring and a date, but just let him figure it out, don't come right out and say it) and that you were wrong to move in and let his kids get attached to you before the relationship was more permanent.
I am assuming that you moved in with him, but if he & kids moved in with you that will be a bit tougher to kick them out I guess, but it's still the right thing to do.
2007-11-02 11:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how bad his first marriage ended..and how the finial divorce part went..i would give him at least 3-4 years..how old are his kids, and is his ex still involved with there lives.? there are many attributing factors that could be holding him off to take the plunge
2007-11-02 11:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is about the time if he wants to but most men linger on the idea, they wait longer to do things just to make sure it wil all go as planned. If he doesn't in a few months you might want to talk to him them.. tell him you are wanting to settle down... make it blunt, but sweet.
2007-11-02 11:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right time...I personally don't believe in marriage but if he's not ready to ask then he's not ready. He might be a little hesitant because of the first marriage or something. But if your really eager to get hitch then you ask him.
2007-11-02 11:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you think at your assets and personal belongings are not affected by your marriage, I think you could of gotten marry with in 3 months of starting your relationship.
2007-11-02 11:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jesse F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't sweetie. If you getting free milk then why marry the cow? Hope he changes his mind.
2007-11-02 11:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by SUMMERWE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋