::i posted this already, got a few good answers, but not that many:::why would a guy constantly try to flatter you when he knows you're taken. this guy tells me all the time my guy is lucky to have me, that he likes to look at me, cant stop thinking about me, and that he hope he's not "scaring" me off. he follows me around or is nearby somewhere. ive only seen him a couple time though, but everytime i do see him he acts kinda persistant and wont stop complimenting me. and he wants to know what days i come by(he didnt tell me why he wanted to know).
what do you think his motives are for the way he acts? perve? lonely? obsessed? does he think all his flattery is going to get him into my pants?
2007-11-02 11:06:06 · 23 answers · asked by HerR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
captain just confirmed my theory:) thats exactly what i was thinking
2007-11-02 11:15:03 · update #1
he told me my man should tell me all the time how prettyi am--i told him he does and im very spoiled, thanks:) that made it worse a\
2007-11-02 11:17:52 · update #2
Because he knows that eventually you'll give in and get laid with him. Statistically it happens 9 out of 10 times.
2007-11-02 11:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by GQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda weird. You might want to explain to him you appreciate the compliments, but you have a bf and it makes you uncomfortable. He might just be trying to get in your pants. He also could be some weird freak that could turn into a stalker. Just incase he is a little on the crazy side, you should definitely express you are taken, ect. That way he can't say you led him on or anything. I would be careful though.
2007-11-02 11:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by BoredinVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely wants you....that's for sure. There are some guys out there that think that tactic will actually work! That you'll want to leave your boyfriend because he's better.
It's all in the way that you handle it that will dictate what he does next. You can nicely, but straightforwardly, let him know that you like being friends with him but you won't be able to if he continues to pursue you. You're taken. If he genuinely cares about you, he'll stop doing that and will able to be friends with you.
Besides, if things didn't work out with your fella - wouldn't you be more impressed or inclined to date him if he did back off?? (oh yeah, don't tell him that!) :)
2007-11-02 11:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy who is coming on a little to strong, is just that...coming on too strong. he is interested but feels that he can treat you better than your current guy. that is his thought process and what he feels. but if you make it a point to not give him that much attention and keep him at arms length away from you, then he should start getting the message loud and clear.
he is probably lonely and looking for any kind of affection from any where. so with you being nice or doing whatever you are doing, you have to make sure that you are not leading him on. not to mention that you are probably already doing this with out realizing it. so, you have to basically back off from him and try to make it obvious that your not interested.
he is a lonely guy who probably doesn't know how to right around you or come correct. if you work together, you better get HR involved to make sure that it at least stops at work.
hope this helps - get ahold of me if you need any more help.
2007-11-02 11:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by reborndrummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an honest answer from a guy, most guys will go as far as you allow the conversation to go. If you give him a wondow of opportunity, he will take it. if you arre not interested, then tell him. It seems to me like you are curious and want some answers to your questions. And thats what he wants, this kind of guy preys on the fact that something could go wrong in your relationship and you being vulnerable at that moment. be careful, good luck!
2007-11-02 11:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by eric r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know this guy or is he random? If you don't really know him, I'd be worried that he's lonely and kinda creepy. If he's a friend or acquaintace, it sounds like he is interested in you. If you're not interested in him, I'd just gently let him know that although it is wonderful to receive compliments from him, they make you feel somewhat uncomfortable given the fact that you are involved in a relationship. Perhaps you're misreading it...?
2007-11-02 11:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to get into your pants. He has only seen you a few times and says he can't stop thinking about you. Nobody can like someone that bad if they hardly know them. Don't let his flattery get to you and when ever he compliments you tell him your boyfriend also thinks that about you. Ex. "Oh you are really pretty". Your comeback should be " Oh my boyfriend thinks I'm pretty too, thanks." He will most likely get uncomfortable and not complement you again.
2007-11-02 11:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hoping your guy has fallen into the typical guy trap (which I'm happy to report isn't that "typical" anymore) of taking you for granted and allowing things to get stale....so that, yes, this flattery will impress you into getting busy with him. At least, that's the plan. (Though I'm sure he would've worded it a lot better).
2007-11-02 11:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you and when you accept his comments you are letting him know it is ok that he is talking to you like this. You need to tell him you love your husband very much, that you are really very happy in your marriage and would appreciate it if he kept his comments and the like to himself and to stop trying to woo you because you are already taken and not on the look out for an affair.
2007-11-02 11:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Dazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to all of the above. Some men don't give a crap that you are taken, especially obsessive lonely stalker perverts!
2007-11-02 11:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋