so i shouldn't laugh but its weird thats all i can do. or be mad but thats not good.
me and my ex go to the same college and see each other quite often, (though i try to avoid her, mainly because i want her back but don't want to smother her) so tend to see each other in the day between monday to friday. outside of those hours she only works on a saturday where as i now work every evening except monday and tuesday and all weekend. so when im at work she and her friends are always out with my friends to, i get back from work and want to go out with my friends but i know she'll be there. if im honest i dont want to see her, i do want her back, but not being with her has turned from being upset/sad to angry.
what should i do about my friends? go with them even if she is there, or get new better ones?
2007-11-02 10:49:56 · 14 answers · asked by James G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she does have her own friends but since we've been together the seem to have all formed a group. all the friends that true that i know would choose me if it came to it are either across the country at university or travelling the world.
we're all adults, but this is a problem a 10yr old would have
2007-11-02 10:56:26 · update #1
im trying to get over her. but everytime i see her or speak to her i turn to jelly. i think i have it bad.
2007-11-02 10:58:39 · update #2
You should not alienate your friends because of fear of seeing her. They were your friends first. It is ok for her to be friends with them too. If you want to get back with her, avoiding your friends isn't helping. You may or may not be able to get back together. It is ok for you to make new friends too. Don't forget your old friends. You can invite them over sometime and you don't have to invite the ex. Their are ways around it if you really do not want to see her.
2007-11-02 10:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing this because she thinks it'll make you squirm.
She's bitter about the break-up. Even if she broke up with you, or you broke up with her- doesn't matter.
She thinks taking your friends away from you is funny and clever, but it's not. She knows you don't want to see her, so she's going to your friends so that you can't see them because she's around.
And to that I say, uh, what a hoe!
Thing is, your friends probably aren't on to her little game. That's the problem. I say call them all up someday and arrange a day without her. Then they'll realize that the group works better without her in it because you're able to hang out with them again.
As for her?
She needs to find her own damn friends.
2007-11-02 10:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start hanging out with your friends and face your issues head on. tell your ex how you truly feel about her and see what she says and if she says no then let it go and continue to hang out with them and find you somebody else. If you worry about this you are only hurting yourself and you will grow bitter towards her and your friends and they ain't losing no sleep over this situation so neither should you o.k. so be cool and deal with it alright!!!
2007-11-02 10:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Prechaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are YOUR friends then talk with them. tell them how it makes you feel weird that they are hanging out with her and that when you want to go and hang with them, you cant! i'm sure they will understand, if they are your friends. And if not, then go hang out with them and act like her being there doesn't bother you. Be the bigger person :) good luck sir!
2007-11-02 10:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends and if she is there so be it. the two of you can be friends. There is nothing wrong with this. If the two of you cannot be friends then some one has a problem.
2007-11-02 10:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't leave your friends cause of her. Ask them to hang out with you sometime without her if they truly like you they will. Don't mind her and she might want you back.
2007-11-02 10:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by krixty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about if you have true feelings for her and really wanna go back with her stop trynna avoid her and thinkin ur smotherin her. tlk to her and see if she'll consider goin back out with you. and if yes then all yall can hang out =]
2007-11-02 10:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with her and your friends unless your "on" her you won't be smothering her good luck =)
2007-11-02 10:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by ichyleg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are your friends too, you have every right to hang out with them when you want. Who cares if she's there.
2007-11-02 10:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by mmcnum1fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooo she doesn't have her own friends ??
thats sad ...
the thing is u want her back so u can't relly tell her to F@#$ off ~
just hang with your own friends and totally ignore her existance. ..
2007-11-02 10:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋