Im really in love with my boyfriend and he is really in love with me.... we want to live with each other like 5 months after he turns 17 next nov... ill be 18... weve been together 1 year on nov 8.... we really want this.... he wants to get married when hes between 18 and 20.... serious answers only plz thanx....
2007-11-02 10:44:00 · 6 answers · asked by ♫♪Expecting #1!! ♫♪ :} ♥june 15, 2011♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEY IM SOO TIRED OF PEOPLE SAYING I DONT LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!! SO STOP WITH THAT!! but his older sis is 20 and her FIANCE!! is 18 and still in high school.. and they have a 1 yr old kid and another on the way and they live together.. so people plz stop putting me down.. all i think of is the future.. cmon..
2007-11-02 11:17:15 · update #1
I think you should wait about another year to move in together. See what type on job you guys have and if your going to college. Think about the future not the present on this. And about getting married, do that after you see how you guys live together. Love is a strong thing, to move it to fast just wouldn't be right.
2007-11-02 10:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young and trying to rush things. Try to take more time because rushing things only gets young people into trouble. take it from an old bird that's been down that path when I was your age. Take time go to college if you can, if not get some help with learning how to apply for grants and go get yourselves a degree, any degree in something is college better than nothing. Further your schooling and boost your earning potential 10 fold. Money matters when raising a family. No Dough = crappy family life. both you and your boyfriend should get some better schooling. I never did and now I am worse off because of it, trust me when I tell you this. Stop being so rebellious and pay attention to what your being told
Period. Your still going through what's called the rebellious years. When your a little older you will understand this, even though now you may not like it, it's the truth. Haste makes waste of Work, Marriage, Lives, Love, Children, Friends, you've not heard a thing that I have written to you have you?
sorry Lord, for Christs sake pay attention!!!!
Your so busy asking questions that you've failed to listen to before,
start listening and stop flapping your gums.
( One of the Ten Commandments. Honor Thy Mother & Father.) If you do not heed my warnings on this, you shall be the one that loses. Your parents have already been down the road you've just begun, don't you think you owe it to them to listen to their advise? These questions you ask online are for your parents!!!!! Not to be asked to an open forum of people
on yahoo questions and answers. Put your faith in your parents answers, take time on dating untill your sure you and he can make both finacially, emotionally. = 2 great careers,
not jobs that you will quit without having another one first.
Is this getting through to you? E- Mail me directly if you have any questions
2007-11-03 11:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by reds1051964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that is not smart. what about the rest of your life. if you get married, it's not just about being with someone you "love" (which i highly doubt you love him..) for the rest of your life, it's also about compromise and considering someone else in every decision you make. what's wrong with just dating him until you get some education and a job? it's not just about that either, don't you want to go have fun and discover yourself while you still can? Being together for one year is not that long. compare that to being tied together for the rest of your life, which in your case, i'd estimate about another 70 years. Don't even live with each other, yet. you dont know him.. i know you're saying you do know him, and i dont know you.. but trust me.. no one can possibly get to know all they would need to know about another person in order to live the rest of their life with them.. within.. a year...
why do you have to live with each other? live down the street, live next door and you can be over at his house 16 hours of the day.. while the other 8 hours you're sleeping at your place.. trust me.. that's not the same as living with each other with shared responsibilities such as bills, household chores and a relationship on top of all that to always be discussing, thinking about, fixing.. yes, fixing. if you live together, you might have a relationship to think about fixing all the time. think about this from a rational standpoint.
2007-11-02 17:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by J. Eyre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not especially smart, but I can't expect you to take my word for it since I did the exact same thing when I was 20. It wasn't a disaster; we stayed together for 12 years, but we might've been able to really go the distance had we not gotten married so young...we could've prepared more. Yes, we're still best friends, but that wasn't our goal at the outset. Protect your goal by preparing yourselves...don't marry too young.
2007-11-02 17:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should wait, are you going to college? If so it will be extra hard for you to pay bills work and school. If not then you have to work very hard at being in love so young. You really do change as you get older. Try to wait before you take such a big step.
2007-11-02 17:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea to live together before getting married.
2007-11-02 17:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋