My wedding is next Sunday and my sister how was suppose to me my matron of honor is not going to be able to do it. (She has a son who is in a wheelchair and she decided that she doesn't want to leave him alone.) I have asked one of my fiance's cousin to come out in the wedding as a brides maid, she said yes. Now my fiance's sister is asking who will be my maid/matron of honor...I really don't want to give that honor to any of my brides maids. Do I have to have a maid/matron of honor?
2007-11-02 10:33:52 · 15 answers · asked by butterflyesie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should do whatever you feel is right. Some people are so picky about weddings being exactly according to tradition, and that just doesn't work for everyone. Some people will question it if you don't have a maid/matron of honor, but they're just inflexible. My husband had his sister be a "groomswoman", for instance. It's your wedding; make it fit for you and your family. If you like, parcel out the "matron of honor duties" evenly to your bridesmaids.
2007-11-02 10:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by xerenity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the maid/matron of honor and the Best man are the witnesses to the signing of the registry. In other words, she is one of the bridesmaids who has the special "honor" of being the official witness. So - on your programs,,just list your "Bridesmaids" and "Groomsmen" - and,at the wedding, two of them that you have asked to sign, will sign. Period. The registry/license just states "Witnesses". It does not call them other titles. This especially works when there is a second wedding and the bride and groom want their kids, not yet legal age, to be their "Best Man" and "Maid of honor". the kids have the title but adults sign as the witnesses. Do what works for you! You could be really thoughtful and in your programs mention your sister as " Our matron of honor,(her name) could not be here due to a family situation but we know she wishes us well!"
2007-11-02 10:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a witness sign the marriage certificate, but I don't think specifically Maid/Matron of Honor is necessary if you feel that the person you would assign that role to cannot be present.
For instance, my mom passed away earlier this year, I'm not going to be naming my step-mom as the mother of the bride, that's just ridiculous.
2007-11-02 10:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all sorry about the situation you're in. :-( It must be very frustrating to not have an honor attendant so soon before your wedding. However, you must respect her wishes.
So do you HAVE to have one. Yes and no...I can understand how hard it is to pick one bridesmaid to step up...but you do need that one person their beside you as a witness who will sign your marriage certificate.
So in short...you don't NEED a maid/maitron of honor...but you do need 1 witness that will sign the document along with you, your new husband and the best man.
Hope this helps! CONGRATS! and good luck with everything!!
2007-11-02 10:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't. Your sister can still be considered Matron of Honor, even though she will not be there.
One my friends was unable to be a bridesmaid for me, after she had already bought her dress,etc. because she had to have back surgery. We put up a framed photo of her at the reception with a story inside it saying that she was "the missing bridesmaid" and that she had to have back surgery and we were thinking of her on our wedding day and that she was missed.
2007-11-02 10:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your sister just decided this? wow.. but anyway, the purpose of the maid of honor is to plan the things like the shower and bachelorette party.. and to help you with the important things like picking out your venue and your dress and stuff.. hense the word "maid"... so since it is this close to your wedding, there is absolutely no purpose for you to have one.. so just do what you want.. it IS after all YOUR wedding!
2007-11-02 10:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will assume that the woman standing closest to you in the line is the Maid of Honor, so it doesn't really matter what label you give them.
2007-11-02 11:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by monicanena 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have a maid/matron of honor, but you do need to pick the order they will walk down the aisle. Whoever immediately preceeds you will be considered your maid/matron of honor by anyone in attendance.
2007-11-02 10:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by J M 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Nope you don't have to. Just have the first bridesmaid in line be the witness who signs the marriage license. No one needs a specific label.
2007-11-02 10:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you do not need to have a MOH.
The ONLY must haves are:
Bride
Groom
Officiant
Two adult witnesses.
2007-11-04 07:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋