Isn't this selfish?
2007-11-02 08:47:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
BTW THis isn't about me. Its my husbands nasty cousin
2007-11-02 09:16:37 · update #1
Yes, mom should have made sure that her family would be a FAMILY before getting married.
After having kids, your happiness is secondary. She should have considered her daughter when trying to move on with her relationship.
Something similar happened to my mom. My gramma kicked her out when she was 13 because she "didn't want to deal with another teenager." She had 2 grown children as well as my mom, and she remarried a man with a young daughter. My mom was devistated and never forgave my gramma. I never forgave my gramma either.
2007-11-02 08:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Without being in the Mother's shoe it would be difficult to decide. The daughter needs to learn the rules of the house and realize she is the child and has parents in her family. But if the guy is a jerk maybe her attitude is justified. The Mother need to talk with the daughter and find out what her problems are with him and try to make the child understand that this "wonderful" guy loves the Mom and wants to be a good parent and is willing to work and spend his time and money to furnish this brat 12 year old a home and clothing and food.
But then again if he is not a wonderful father....the Mom needs to deal with that. Daughters should come first.
2007-11-02 09:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally
2007-11-02 08:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to let the child spend time with them and do things together.She has to get use to the idea that her Mom has a new husband ,The child is bring rebellious as she doesn't like the change in her life.Give her some time and try to make things easier for her and let her know she is loved.She has to know that he is there to stay and should try her best to make the effort to be friends with her step dad.Sometimes it is not easy for children and I hope she comes around.Taking her to someone else's home will only make the problem worse
2007-11-02 08:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with that mother, you chose to have that kid first she should be your priority. And if she keeps on separating them two they are never going to get along cause they will never try to talk to each other. She is VERY selfish, and if the kid doesn't like the guy its for a reason maybe he tried to hit up on the little girl. Or maybe he is different when they are alone.?!
2007-11-02 08:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by you suck. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get me started. Every time I hear about a b**** that puts their husband before their child, I just want to scream. Yes she is not only selfish but she also every other negative word in the dictionary......I hate her already, and don't even know her. Don't call her a mother, that gives all us good mothers a bad name. Oh yeah, she is a mother alright..... a MOTHER******. (excuse my french)
2007-11-02 09:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong. Why would you marry someone who isn't compatible with your children? You should always choose your child first. The poor girl is going to have all kinds of emotional problems from this. I am a single mom, and my boyfriend of 4 years is a single dad. We love each other very much but we would not be together today if his kids didn't like me and my son didn't like him. You can choose who you date, but your kids can't choose their parents. It is a parent's responsibility to love and care for their children no matter what.
2007-11-02 09:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, totally selfish! Moms are not supposed to chose a man over their own child.
I am a mother and I would never choose a man over my child. Kids come first.
Cheers
2007-11-02 08:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
selfish yea your daughter needs you more then your husband she soon to be in her teens ...drop husband off at the bus stop spend time with your daughter before its to late and she turns into a terrible teen...
2007-11-02 09:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by just bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the most selfish act
2007-11-02 08:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋