Here is my problem I have a boyfriend that I have been with for a year and a half. When we began dating I had just gotten out of a tough relationship where we lived together. My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 3 months, and I have also been talking with my ex who I was with in high school for 3 years. We were on and off after Hish school and now I think I like him again. But I still love my boyfriend alot and still want to be with him. But I also feel since we are not married would it be ok to continue this so called relationship with my ex? Please help!!
2007-11-02 07:53:19 · 22 answers · asked by bunny45989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK let me clarify!! I have not done anything with my ex. I feel in a way that he still likes me because he texts me and does things like call me cutie and baby but I get confused. We broke up because in High school all his friends told me he was cheating on me so I figured that since it came from them it had to be true so I dumped him I couldn't go to school for a week and couldn't eat or come out of my room.
2007-11-02 08:10:23 · update #1
The problem is that my family loves my current boyfriend and hate my ex. I do love my current boyfriend he is the best boyfriend ever but I can't help how I feel when I think about my ex.
2007-11-02 08:12:49 · update #2
Ok you people don't understand you are so quick to call me a cheater but you haven't even read my whole situation........I have not done ANYTHING with my EX!!! WTF do you girls go off saying that I'm wrong. I am confused. WHICH is why I'm getting your advice!!!
2007-11-02 08:52:46 · update #3
What i would do, is stop for a second and think about how you feel about both of them, what made you break up with your ex. and how do you feel currently with your new boyfriend. Ask yourself the questions also ask your ex do you see us back together in a relationship wait and see what he tells you and then decide if he is the right guy to be with also ask your current partner and ask him were do you see the relatioship going to. Ask question, get clear answers and say the truth and this problesm will go away soon. well good luck and wish you the best
2007-11-02 08:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by gomez27985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you young? Plan on marrying your current boyfriend? Would you regret not pursuing the relationship with the ex and later on have bitterness towards your current boyfriend assuming that you will continue to date, maybe marry him? Is the love you feel for your boyfriend the real deal...if your have any doubt then you know your answer.
The mechanics of breaking off with your current boyfriend will be difficult, but don't let that influence any of your answers. Be honest with yourself and fair to your boyfriend. If you love your current boyfriend and plan on marriage, then give up the desire for your ex...as tempting as it may be, just take a moment, think about the person you wish to be...and be that person. You'll make the right choice.
2007-11-02 08:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by billy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell the person that you're with the situation. That happened to me, my boyfriend and I broke up, so I got together with an ex, but was just trying to pretend like I was over it and get someone new so maybe I wouldn't think about it and stuff, but in the end I still wanted so badly to talk to my ex and tell him how I felt, which was unfair to the guy I was dating at the time so I just came out and said I feel as if this is wrong of me to date you and you like me but I only have feelings for my ex.. and now my boyfriend and I are back together. You should just tell him that because you wouldn't want someone to date you yet have feelings for the person that they were with before you, ya know?
2007-11-02 07:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure i consider he cares approximately you however otherwise than a person must. You can be married and emotionally connected and he almost has the thought he can cheat on you all he wishes. If he does it brazenly now, he's going to easily consider you'll enable him to brazenly do it extra. If I had been you I'd plan to get out of there. If you can not have the funds for it I could determine an extra process that could enable me to have the funds for it or seek for yet another room mate. Don't allow him realize you're watching for different choices till you have got them determined and aquired already. He's controlling and can manage or control you into staying or make you think like you wish to have him emotionally as good. He can not emotionally manage what he's doing is incorrect. Good Luck!
2016-09-05 08:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - tough love
Get over it or get out! You're doing neither yourself nor your CURRENT boyfriend anything but a disservice as long as you can't make up your mind! When you make up your mind about what you want then go for it. Until then, either drop the ex COMPLETELY or do your current boyfriend a service and dump him. You'll only cause him pain - do you want that?
FP
2007-11-02 07:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT ok to continue anything with the ex while with your current bf like this. I understand you are not married to your current bf...but if you love your bf the way you claim to, then you know it is wrong to still have anyting to do with the ex.
But of course you already know this and probably came here hoping someone could help you justify your desire to screw around. Well, you won't get that from me. Thanks for the two points, though.
2007-11-02 07:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is: stop living with people you're not married to. Living together is a commitment that isn't easy to get out of. So, if you're not sure about your feelings for the other person, don't live with him! It sounds like you'd really benefit from living alone. You can date who you want, when you want on your own terms and have your own home, until you're sure you want the commitment of living with someone else...Also, you sound like you're very young and not sure what you want. So, find out for yourself by standing on your own two feet!
2007-11-02 08:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Mimsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl grow up will you, or do you just like having 2 guys wanting you. That is cheating, mean, & low to play them both like that. I think you need to leave them both, you don't deserve the bf you have now, do you think he is thinking about getting back with his ex, or still having contact with her?
2007-11-02 08:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not cool to do that to your guy, would you like it if the roles were reversed?pick one.
didnt say you "cheated" but texting and calling and keeping up what YOU said is a so called relationship isnt fair to your boyfriend. i bet you anything you would be mad if he was talking to his ex behind your back.
2007-11-02 07:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by brians girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you must stop with the ex unless you and your current lover have an open relationship.
2007-11-02 07:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by J B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋