My son got school suspension for drawing a gun with another kid's name on it.:( principle said this will be a permanent record and police will have a copy too..I know what my son did is wrong.and he should get certain consequences. But I also worry about this impact on his future? Do anyone know if this will have any impact on his future like college admission? Many thx!
2007-11-02 07:50:02 · 32 answers · asked by bhjv 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My son came home just now. And he said the girl sits next to him always tells when he doodles. Today she wiped out what he drew on the the white board in Math class. He was annoyed and drew this two boxes gun pointing to a stick figure. The girl asked who is that? He said "you!" ..The girl then told the teacher..and that's what really happened. He didn't have the name on it..Principle called and said he is suspened from school this coming Monday:( My son said he tried to explain but principle wouldn't listen..:(
2007-11-02 11:07:22 · update #1
I doubt it will affect his college apps.
I do agree that the suspension is a bit much
2007-11-02 07:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The media these days is ridiculous, and they show guns all over t.v., movies and video games. How do people really expect kids not to learn from the media if all they see on t.v. are shows where people get murdered? But you never know these days, with all the school shootings and murders. Just explain to your child why it was so wrong, and explain to him what's right and what's wrong. He'll understand but I don't think this will affect his college admission. What a mean school giving the copy to the police and the principle... It may seem really bad right now, but it should get better when time has passed. And later when he is getting into college, they will judge him on his knowledge, test/school scores and what kind of person he is in the future. They should judge him on the person he is, not the person he was.
2007-11-02 10:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is one thing to draw a gun on paper, but to write another child's name on it? Did anyone ask the boy why he put a name on it? There has got to be a reason. This is the behavior that leads to devastating school shootings. Remember that after the fact in many school shootings they found drawings and writings that for told the children's plans and how they were feeling. Since this is your son, you are prone to think that he could never do something so serious, and I hope that he is a good boy and never would. I can understand your concern for his future. You should be concentrating on what you son is feeling and why he would draw something like this. It may have an impact in reference to schooling, but I doubt it will go as far as college.
2007-11-02 08:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rainfall 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It won't affect college or anything. Schools have to cover their butts when it comes to anything violent. Treat the situation with him as fairly as you can. Acknowledge that what he did was wrong, but don't make him feel like he's an awful evil person. Talk about what he could have done and what he can do in the future when he's frustrated. Have him write an apology letter or something to the girl. It'll help you save face, and it'll help him build some character. Again though, don't worry about it affecting his future. It's just a suspension.
2007-11-02 17:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love people that comment on your kid and having guns in the home, have obviously never raised a son before, buys will be boys and play with such things, that is why toy guns are made to attract children. Unfortunately your son made a bad choice and that is all.
Talk to the principal and ask what the long term effects of having this on a permanent record means,.
2007-11-02 07:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by A***n G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not likely any consequences for futhering his education. HOWEVER I would wonder WHY he drew the gun and put the kids name on it...what's this kid doing to him? Your son must be ticked off about something. With all of these shootings in schools that have gone on the system has gotten tougher on these issues...some maybe very innocent and some aren't. They have to take precautions.
2007-11-02 10:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this at 10 years old? Good lord, I was sketching Uzi's and turning tinker toys into dangerous projectiles with rubber bands and pencil sharpners at that age.
I might have even shot a kid in the back with a slingshot, clipped somebody's foot with an old metal tipped yard dart, and had BB wars often.
Thank God we came out okay and survived our youth, but this is an extreme knee-jerk reaction to all of the school shootings and gun violence.
Tell them the guns dont' kill people, BULLETS do. I would be more scared if he drew a BULLET with the kids name on it.
Stupid government! Ban weapons and ammo, or at the very least ammo. Big gun manufacturers pay big $$$$$ for lobbyists to keep preaching our 2nd amendment...Blame them and put them on suspension.
Thanks for letting me vent...Your child will be fine and hopefully not climb a clock tower and snipe out people later on...I'm doing just fine! :D
Bullies these days don't use fists and kids don't fight back with fists anymore, they go for weapons and it can be deadly, so I would ask your son what's going on at school.
What would make him draw this? Anger, rage, some confrontation brought it on, but YOU need to talk to your child and find out, not the authorities.
2007-11-02 08:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the world coming to? The system is failing our children and labeling them as well. My nephew drew a gun in middle shool on his notebook and got suspended to. My son, 10 years ago was in a minor fight with another boy. Police came, boys had to go to court. My son had an assault and battery on his record. He is now a correctional officer. You must have his records sealed at age 18. It just doesn't seal automatically. Ya know, when my boys were really little, I wouldn't buy em toy guns because I "thought" it would be best. But ya know, those boys used everything from sticks to fly swatters to pretend they were guns anyway.......
2007-11-02 07:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by zen 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My children? They both had someone to pick up after them and now they leave everything as it falls... I think my daughter is a little better. That pair have had everything handed to them - more overseas trips than I've had - and I'm not sure they were done a favour - both need to get their priorities right and get their own homes instead of waiting on Mum and Dad to cark it...their grandparents lived to be nearly 100 on their mother's side....
2016-05-27 01:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by helena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The punishment seems a little extreme. Why not a warning first? The so-called permanent record in school doesn't really affect your future or college admission. Good luck!
2007-11-02 07:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
to be honest, that sounds like a little bit of overreaction on the school's part. what was their grounds for suspending your son?
i understand that the gun with another child's name is a scary thing. BUT doesnt the school think that counseling and/or therapy may be better for your son rather than suspension? did they even speak to your son about it?
this may not affect college admission because he is only 10, kids often need to express themselves in other ways to let their anger, stress, or depression out. Art may be one of these outlets for your son.
i hope that he has a way to express his inner worries to relieve any stress he may be feeling.
hope things work out..and good luck to you and your son.
2007-11-02 09:27:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋