every time my &i are out he has to check out every chick in the bar& leaves me sitting by myself for such a long time, then i find out he's talking to these women. don't you think that is disrepectful? can't he just talk to me and be with me his girlfriend. also found phone numbers so what should i do, even though he says he loves me. i'm so confused he's been doing this for a long time. should i start looking at other men &flirt with them? leave my b/f sitting by himself for a change or should i finnd a man who knows how to treat a women? i need advice now thank you
2007-11-02 07:35:37 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh honey, there is no question about it, DUMP HIM!! He doesn't love you, he loves the situation you have created...he is able to go out and do whatever and act however he pleases, and still have you there! If he meets someone new, GREAT, and if not, then he still has you there! You should be able to see from your own question what you need to do...if you were reading that information on someone else's question, what would you tell them to do?? You know in your heart what you should do, don't be afraid of being single for a little while...it is better than having someone who treats you like that! Demand better for yourself! If you stick with this guy, do you honestly think he would ask you to marry him?? And even if he did, do you think marriage would change his behavior, NO!!...then you wind up a married woman whose husband is having affairs behind her back...would you have children with this guy?? Would you allow him to act like that in front of your children?? If you had a daughter, would you allow some guy to treat your daughter that way?? If the answer to all of these questions is NO, then what are you keeping him around for?
2007-11-02 07:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by ataman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi SnowRose-
You need a man like me.
I will:
Walk hand in hand with you in the mall so everyone will know what a lucky guy I'am to have such a beautiful woman.
Take you on a long walk in the cool, autumn afternoon and kiss you under a maple tree alive with the colors of fall.
Sneak up behind you and silently kiss you on the neck.
Introduce you to everyone I know so I can prove that there is such as a thing as a angel.
You catching me giving you a warm smile across the room.
If we run upon you ex-boyfriend I will simply say, "She will never fear of falling again. I'm the wind beneath her wings."
Gary
2007-11-02 07:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Gary U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, life is too short to tolerate men with no respect or manners, dump him. I know it's easier said than done but honestly you deserve someone that wants to be with you, not random girls in a bar!
When you've let him go, make a list of all the things you will NOT put up with from your next guy (keep these things in mind to remind yourself of what NOT to look for) then flirt, date, weed out the problem men and find yourself a good guy!
Good luck!
2007-11-02 07:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Excellante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he takes you out, his attention should be on you not the other chicks in the bar! this is what i did, when my boyfriend does the same thing, i start a conversation with the guy next to you, even if he isn't cute, the point is to make your boyfriend jealous, flirt with him and work your stuff and get him to buy you a drink, when your boyfriend sees that ur having fun without him, i can guarantee he won't leave u alone again, if u don't get a reaction from him u probably need to take a hint that he's not into you!
2007-11-02 07:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by gurlynmgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course leave him. Respecting you is pretty much the most important thing in a relationship. If you don't have respect, then what kind of relationship is it? You can't give more than you take. It has to be 50/50, and he may just be telling you he loves you so that you stay with him and keep thinking, "Well if he loves me, it doesn't matter if he does that, right?"
2007-11-02 07:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to let him know what time it is. Let him know that he makes u feel like crap. Then tell him that if he REALLY loved u he'd change his ways. Give him a month to change his ways, and if he doesn't kick is @$$ to the curb and get u a new dude that's gonna respect u. Because in the end if you don't respect ur self no one else will. And self respect starts with not putting up with disrespectful bull crap.
2007-11-02 07:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by atlchick1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need to understand something... You put up with this for so long and now you want out? Sweetie, you should've been gone!!!The best thing you can do is don't say anything (silence is a killer!!) and not let it bother you and just go your own way. You are a child of GOD and you need to be shown some respect. BUT... It's up to you to decide that enough is enough.
2007-11-02 07:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning his motives and what he is doing behind your back I think you know what the answer is. If you feel like he is disrespecting you and you have talked to him about it before it's silly to keep putting yourself through that.
It's one thing for guys to have other female friends but if it is outward flirting and exchanging phone numbers etc., I say talk to him about it and if it doesn't stop, he's not worth your time.
2007-11-02 07:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by leannerexia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disrespectful, disreputable, egocentric; these would be the words I'd use to describe your 'boyfriend.'
If this is the way he treats you, he sees you only as some sort of trophy to show off to his friends. Dump the moron and move on. Find someone who truly appreciates you.
2007-11-02 07:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lonnie P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask? What will it take for you to know what to do, him having sex on a table with one of them in front of you?
Unless you enjoy this treatment, leave him. But if you pick another guy who hangs out in bars do not expect anything better.
2007-11-02 07:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋