Okay, men never seize to amaze me.
I was on the phone with my boy and somehow we started talking about sex. Now I have no idea how but the subject about this guy I had sex with all the way in March came up. Now, my boy and I were just friends in March so it's not like I cheated on him or anything and actually he had sex with someone in April. I mean we weren't together so why even bother with it. Well, he got extremely mad and blew his freakin top. He started yelling and telling me that I really don't care about him and I was just "running game", and he went on and on about how stupid he felt and how I was just a liar and that I really didn't have feelings for him. OMG,, We weren't even together and get this.........when I said "well what about you and the girl you had sex with in April"..he replied with......."I'm a man, it's different"
LOL....no, he's a jerk. so here's my question...
What in the hell is wrong with men?
2007-11-02 07:27:38 · 22 answers · asked by Tnisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats not a man thats a boy. Real men don't act like that. He's got some growing up to do.
2007-11-02 07:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Liberty against the NWO 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple...
Men are very primal. And not only are we territorial, but we are also very posessive. Especially when it comes to women. We like to think that the women that were are with are ours and ours alone. We hate to think that you have been with another man because you are ours, and you are not to be shared. Also, jealousy comes into play. I hate to say it, but it's true. Even though you two were not together at the time, in a way, he thinks you were cheating on him. Weird but true.
I too have had this bit of mental breakdown before, and I am sure there are a LOT of other men who have gone through the same thing. However, if you ask him to look at from your perspective, hopefully he will realize that he is acting irrational and he will come to his senses and appologize for his ways. If not, then he is the type that will never let that sort of thing go and you need to let him go.
2007-11-02 07:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by miranti2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reality of it is that most of us are very insecure, especially when it comes to women. Just by bringing up a previous relationship, let alone a sexual encounter, immediately puts an insecure man into a competition with the previous lover in a contest for your affection and adoration. By bringing up the previous encounter, what he hears is "I liked the experience with the other guy enough to compare it to you" even if you don't really say anything to that effect. This is predicated on the insecure's belief that you can be with anyone you want and that he is in constant competition to ward off other men and even other thoughts of men that may occur to you. Basically, he is jealous and afraid that he is going to lose you, but is incapable of articulating these emotions and thoughts to himself, let alone understanding these feelings. He doesn't feel his past love affairs 'count' because he knows his own feelings toward you...meaning that he is showing that he values you over that other person.
He just needs to know that he is the dominant male in your thoughts and that you are with him because you choose to be with him and that you really like him. Other than that, he needs to figure it out on his own and there isn't much you can do about it.
Sorry and Good Luck.
2007-11-02 07:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by sinisterphoenix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men have they're stupid Opinion about what they can do...
they think that since they're the "Man" they can do whatever the hell they want. And that they control the woman they are with. So they can sleep with who ever they want and it's okay, but if his woman does, then it's considered cheating, no matter when she slept with the other guy,
even if she did it before they started dating....
So i'd say, just forget about him, because he's trying to make you fell all bad about sleeping with that guy.... he is just a jerk, and you shouldn't waste your time with him!
2007-11-02 07:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, for starters, YOUR man is a cretin.
Next, I assume you haven't dated every man on the planet so please do not lump me and every other guy in the same category as your simpleton, half-wit boyfriend, lest you too are a simpleton, at which point, you may only need to reevaluate your situation.
However, if you are a reasonable person, you will drop this imbecile immediately. The "I'm a man" mentality is an especially common defense of cheaters as well. Expect him to pork some skank in the next week or so.
2007-11-02 07:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with men is that god gave them two heads and they try to think with the smallest of the two. My husband throws things up in my face that happened almost 20 years ago when we fight and when I call him on it he gets so pissed off. So I can feel your pain sister. And when I ask him why he does that he tells me that if I didn't fight with him he would not have to do it so it is like my fault. And it gets worse when he has more than a few beers in him. It is true what they say "You cant live with them and you cant shoot them."
2007-11-02 07:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by iceprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl nobody really knows what's wrong with men but as far as him geting mad about something you did in the past shows his level of uncetainity he needs a reason to break-up and a petty fight is the easiest way yo do that!
2007-11-02 07:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by realsexykia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to understand about men is this, they realize we have dated before them, however, they do not want to believe it. They like to think they are the only one. So even though it was brought up in regular conversation, and even though you were not with him, he is still jelouse. HOW CUTE. Just try super hard not to talk about past relationships that is always bad, mark my word if you continue to talk about the past one day he will begin to throw it in your face and you will wish you had never told him anything from before him. And if he asks, just simply explain you are with him and really dont want to talk about something that is over.
2007-11-02 07:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by TAB~loves~ZACK 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most men are pretty stupid.
but then, I have found the same to be true about women...
Shrug. Stupid people. Just look around as you drive down the road, and watch the stupids.
Someone told me about her brother the other day. He was driving down the road, talking on the phone, WITH A LAPTOP OPEN ON HIS LAP, WORKING ON THE COMPUTER WHILE TALKING AND DRIVING.
Grrrrrr. Stupid people.
Or the woman who forgot her baby in the car all day while she went into work AT A SCHOOL.
Whatever.
2007-11-02 07:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Larry V 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
u know whats worse? dating a girl. no, men think that just bc they are all stereotyped to think with their penises that its an excuse for them to do so. tell ur man that him actin like that will not be a good way for him to keep u and if he flips like that again for no reason u might have to go "run ur game" on someone else. lol
2007-11-02 07:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by AmicaBella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋