i am pregnant, my boyfriend said if i was hed leave me, should i tell him or just leave him and go at it alone

Answer 1

Tell him. That puts the ball in his court. If he leaves you then there can be no doubt that he's the jackass.

Answer 2

well I think that you should do what will be good for you because having a child is hard w/out help. No excuse for what decision he has made. I think you should tell him and if he leaves, then file for child support because if he didn't want to be dealing with such a burden, then he should have made sure he was protected. Now your faced with this decision that will leave you in thinking which answer won't be a mistake. The only mistake was the choice in being with him. A real man would stick w/ you and help make the decision easier. It's like he's sayn' the baby or me. You should check with family and see what kind of support you'll have so you wouldn't have to be alone if you decided to keep your baby.

Answer 3

Absolutely tell him! He has the right to know! If he denies (like they all do) it is his.. then tell him that you are not the kind of person to be sleeping around different guys. I assume that you still love him.. so IF you want him to be a big part of you & your babys life then yes my dear do tell him. You don't DESERVE to have this baby alone. If he does not want to be a father to your baby then seek child support!! I'm sure you have many friends & family who would help you. In the meantime just be strong & don't keep thinking of negative things.. remember that you are pregnant !! You wouldn't want your baby to feel what you're feeling. I am a single mom of 4. My ex left because he didn't want to be responsible anymore. We got divorced then I met someone & we had a baby. Unfortunately I don't live with her dad. I'm raising 4 kids all alone & thank goodness I can do it ALONE. Just be strong & PRAY TO GOD that he will be there for you no matter if you are religious or not. JUST IGNORE all that BAD answers you've been getting here. So Please Take GOOD CARE of YOURSELF. I'm sure that in the end your baby will be worth it. TAKE CARE!!

Answer 4

♥ Whether you tell him or leave... it sounds like he's not interested in being part of the child's life. My suggestion... tell him that you are pregnant and you already know how he feels and you are prepared to not be with him & raise the child alone and leave it at that. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to make him man up. Is there anyone you can talk to about this? Close friend? Family member? etc. Having support around you is vital at all times, but especially at times like these. Good Luck hun and Congratulations on your pregnancy! :-)

Answer 5

Oh hunn, damn! I have been right were you are..What to do?

Well, I was in the same situation and I resolved the issue by thinking of myself, my health, my well-being. I could not count on nothing from him, bc he had already made it quite clear that he did not want a child. I expected just what he gave me-nothing. I wanted to leave but my heart could not get in sync with my mind.

So, I became more practical with myself. I mean what would I be gaining trying to "make" him love me? I realized I had some other resources to like my mother/my grandmother/a few good friends and most of all ME. I realized that the decision to tell him I was pregnant was just his right to know--that's all. It's his conscience that he hears, not mine.

I also soul-searched and understood that this would be the biggest challenge of my life. I came to find that I was stronger than I knew. As I accepted his selfishness--after all, we were having sex unprotected. The possibility of us getting pregnant was uh-100%!--and self-absorbed attitude, I drew strength out of my sheer determination to survive.

I am 40 years old now, my son is 21. I want you to know this get' s better. You can do it little sister. Hold your head-up and face him. Tell him straight-up: "I'm pregenant". You already know what the outcome will be. Cry your tears, bc a womans heart is deep baby--then carry on..you can make it, I did..

Answer 6

You might as well tell him. It sounds like the end result is going to be the same - you're splitting up either way this plays out.

At least by telling him, you are making him aware that you are pregnant with his child. This might help in the future should you decide to go after child support money from him.

Answer 7

He has a right to know if he's going to be a father.
If he wants to abandon you and the child, then he's a jerk and that's his problem, and you're better off without him.
Tell him that if he has any sense of honor, he'll take responsibility for his own actions and at least help support the child financially, even if he doesn't want to be a parent.

Answer 8

1. leave him

2. Contact an adoption agency so your child can be raised in a loving, intact family

3. Get some counseling so you can understand why you choose to have sex with boys (notice I didn't say men) to whom you are not married.

4. Ignore or punch anyone who uses the word "abortion" in your presence.

Answer 9

Tell him. Don't let him off the hook. Make him decide to leave and don't do it for him. At least give him a chance to do the right thing; to be a real man. If he runs then it's entirely on him.

Answer 10

Hi, do not try to go at it alone...this is both of your responsibility; if you want to keep the baby he needs to help you out and if he doesn’t want to you need to take him to court.

Please make sure you know what you want…if you have doubt about keeping the baby seek help either from parents, friends or doctor, you have tons of options. My personal recommendation if you are young (15-21) is to get an abortion, having a baby changes your life for ever. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 11

Leave him. Why should you stay with a person who respects your decisions so little? It's obvious there is no LOVE there. What could he bring to the home your child will be in, besides MORE misery???

It will be rough on your own, but in the end, your child will be better for it. And you still have all the oportunity to encounter the RIGHT person to be with, who will cherish both you AND your child.

Peace.