AS a Parent would you want your childs nanny ,of more than a year ,to tell you if she felt that your child had some learning/social issues?
2007-11-02 06:17:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, because they spend more time with the child than the parents in a lot of cases and the parents might not realize that the child is struggling. It is better than not getting help for the child.
2007-11-02 06:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let the parents know what is concerning you without labeling them as social/learning issues. If you straight out tell them you think that he has learning/social issues they may go on the defensive and fail to hear your concerns. Maybe describe a particular situation (i.e. Little Johnny was playing at the park the other day and he didn't respond to a peer/walked a way from a peer who was talking to him/played alone and ignored the other children/had trouble responding to a peer's questions or statements/ etc.) and ask if they have noticed similar things when they have been caring for their child. They may have noticed the same things but may need their observations to be reinforced by someone else. You should definately approach the subject lightly.
2007-11-02 06:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ann W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if the nanny spends a lot of time with the child that means you dont, no offense, and they know the child best. If they dont tell you, you would have to find out the hard way.
2007-11-02 06:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she/he have any training on child development or is she just the person whom you pay to take care of your child?
If it's the latter listen to her concerns and bring this up with your family doctor.
However is she has training on child development I would listen to her concerns and then bring it up with your family Dr.
Well meaning advice (when it's not warranted) can cause harm to you child, if they aren't careful and projecting a disability on a child who may or may not have that certain disability could again cause undue stress to the family.
Make sure you let the nanny know that you appreciate her concern and that you are going to bring up the concerns to your family doctor. That way in the future when more things arise as they tend to do with children she will feel like she can talk to you about those concerns without intruding on your ability as a parent.
Blessed be,
Duchess
2007-11-02 06:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised the child's doctor has not mentioned it to the parents..? If I was the parent, I would want you not only to tell me what you think the issues are, but also recommend a plan on how you and I can work together to help the child overcome the issues. If you are not trained/qualified to put a plan together, I would be concerned about your ability to diagnose, but would still want to know your concerns so I can confirm them with my doctor at the next child wellness appointment.
2007-11-02 06:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure, I would have no problem with someone offering their opinion. I think it is important to look at things from all angles and be open to other people drawing our attention to something. The only thing I would have a problem with is if they did not drop it after offering their input. If they pressed, and insisted, and kept saying that there is an issue after I have listened to that input. They should know that once they gave that opinion, it is in the parents hands and should be left up to them.
2007-11-02 06:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by iamhis0 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be especially difficult to take the opinion of your nanny especially when it comes to your child's ability to learn. However, every input we receive in life should be taken as an opportunity to learn and grow.
2007-11-02 06:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would want any concerns about my child's development brought to my attention. I would hope that the nanny would do so in a calm, civil manner, and have several incidents to support her concerns.
2007-11-02 06:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by tamitofu1930 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds kind of sticky, obviously you think so too if you're asking. Maybe instead of coming right out and saying, "I think Timmy has a learning issue," you could say, "I've been trying to do 'this' with Timmy and he just isn't getting it, do you think that I'm pushing him too hard or not presenting it in the right way?" or, "I've read that kids Timmy's age do this, have you seen him do it?" or "it was so impressive when little David did "this" when he and Timmy were playing the other day."
2007-11-02 06:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by dontdoubtit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes- if the nanny is tactful, she should tell any concerns she has for the child, it is part of her job.
2007-11-02 06:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋