my girl and i have been togehter over a year. problem is that she has a child with another guy but they have been seperated for a long time and dont talk. he doesnt pay any support but last april he joined the army and now she sees it as a god way to make him pay. my question is, is it a good idea that she marries him? well she already did but what im asking is was all this needed. her family isnt the greates and she pays half to all of the rent in her familys house and doesnt really have enough for her son. so she did this really for him. but i want to know from anyone does she have to stay married for six months or is it longer. help me please. as for me im crushed but i c it as good because its for her son who is only 3, i mean he shouldnt have to suffer. I am only 22 and im in school with a fulltime trying to make endz meet. she means well but at the same time i just dont like it. should she think for her son? me or both of us becuase we love eachother alot as well as her son
2007-11-02 03:51:34 · 18 answers · asked by mIK M 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If he's on the birth certificate, she didn't have to marry him to get benefits for her son.
2007-11-02 03:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl S 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If he is military and his name is on the birth certificate, they do not have to be married for her to get benefits for her son. She should go to family court and file immediately for child support and health benefits. Once it is awarded, provide copy of the court order to the baby's father, his command and the military pay office...they will automatically deduct the child support from his pay each month and be sure it gets to her through the correct channels. The child will also be covered under military health insurance and can have access to commisaries and base exchanges (an ID would be needed for that..since the child is a minor, the mother would be issued an ID as well but only to accompany the child on base). If they are still married, she would be eligable for health benefits as well. However, if she and the military do not live together, eventually there may be some questions. Also, if they divorce, she would no longer be eligable for health care or privelages for herself. Spousal support would be determined by the state. If they are not currently married, I would advise not doing so. Her son is entitled to support and health benefits, she simply needs to go about getting them. However, if she marries him the only thing she may get is health coverage...and the possibility of him using the "unofficial"nature of the relationship against her at some point. Go with what is legal...
2007-11-02 04:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you found a real winner in this girl. Reality check, she's not that into you if she even has this thought in her mind. Do you know how many times we see this kind of crap on active duty? Everyday. These poor guys and girls find the ho chic from their past lurking for benefits and they trap the military people into doing stupid stuff like "your girl" has in mind here. She still has feelings for this smo that can't even pay for his own kids. Kick her to the curb and find yourself a nice girl that doesn't have nasty baggage like she does. If you guys were really in love or a real couple YOU TWO would be discussing YOUR future together which would thus include her child. She isn't going that route because she still wants the guy that knocked her up and left her. Seriously, let her go. You have already wasted one year of your life, stop the waste now and try a girl that has similar goals to you. Find a nice girl at school that doesn't want to get pregnant and have a child until you guys are done with school and can actually support a child the right way as a married couple. Run buddy, run!!! 22 is WAY to young to get stuck with this kind of trash. You will live if you break up with her, it may hurt now, but looking back you will be thrilled that you got rid of this chic. Good luck, seriously!
2007-11-02 04:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't have to marry him to get benefits. The child gets the benefits regardless. All she has to do is go to military legal department with his social # or some proof that he is the father and request he be made a dependent of his. If there is a problem with him adding the child himself.
She can get an annulment and have the child to will still be covered in the annulment. Then have the benefits come directly to her from the military.
2007-11-02 08:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are with a married woman? She obviously doesn't care about you (sadly) because she wouldn't have married him. I am surprised you didn't realize that you can sue someone for child support, especially with them being in the military. It would be easier to track them, and get their wages garnished. You should end it with her. If she is paying all of the rent and bills at her family's house, then she needs to move out and find a small, affordable place for just her son. And why isn't she living with her husband...this all sounds a little fishy to me..could you be a troll?
2007-11-02 03:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your girl loved you a lot, she wouldn't have married someone else. And you don't just go marrying people you haven't talked to. You're being played, more than likely. If your girl just wanted child support, all she'd have to do would be establish paternity with the state and they'd garnish the guy's military pay. Run, far away, from this girl.
2007-11-02 04:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Denise S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the child qualified for benefits without them being married. If she married him to get bennies for herself, that is FRAUD, and she can get into a LOT of trouble with the military because of it. So can he if he knew about it.
Oh yeah, and if she divorces the guy,all her bennies END the day the divorce is final, so if she thinks she can just stick around for 6-12 months and then keep her ID and medical insurance, she has another thing coming.
as for you, she just seriously disrespected you and your relationship by doing this. She has NOT respect for you whatsoever, and if I were you I'd move on. she's a user and a leech and she is only out for herself, as evidenced by her actions.
2007-11-02 06:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something that I'm not sure of.
But he wasn't in the army when all this hap pend, He may end up paying child support but this will haft to be settled in Civil court.
As for benefits, she is married to him ,so a
civilian couldn't collect spouse benefits,
there's a thing called fraud on her part.Marriage
to defrud the goverment.
2007-11-02 04:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok. Listen to me. I have a child with a military man and we are not married. My daughter has FULL medical and dental, as well as receives child support monthly from his paycheck.
The only benefits that I would receive if we were married are benefits to myself, such as medical and base privileges. If she really does love you and has a brain whatsoever, she'll get her OWN medical insurance and realize marriage is a big deal...not something you should do out of convenience.
2007-11-02 05:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by saxcat00 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-23 06:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if it's meant to be it will. Don't try to analyze bulllshit. Take the pic for what it is. also let her know she can receive back pay in child support too.
2007-11-02 04:00:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋