I was wondering how it all works. How do they determine who gets him for how long? The father was charged with domestic violence last year. Does that hurt his chances? And I have no record. He only asks to see him like 1 time a month and he usually asks like 10 minutes before he wants to visit. I told him to ask the day before so I am prepared and not busy. But he is dumb and cant get it throught his head. Unless he trying to just make it seem like I dont let him see the baby. I have told him a bunch of times he can see the baby whenever he wants just let me know ahead of time. Someone help me please...im going crazy thinking the father is going to be the main parent. He doesnt deserve it. I only want him to have supervised visits, because of his temper.
2007-11-02 03:32:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to talk to a lawyer so that you can get some peace of mind. This man has no chance to get your son, and with his history may not even get supervised visits. You should be protecting your son by filing for support for him, and its possible that your ex will have to pay and won't have access to your son. If you can't afford a lawyer, then go to family court and ask them to appoint one or go to legal aid. You might also see if the company you work for has EAP or Employee Assistance Program, which will give you some legal assistance free of charge. Bigger companies have this benefit, but ask.
Your ex is controlling you by his drop in visits, and threats. Stop letting him do that. Decide when you want him to visit, and then tell him. If you can be more flexible than that, tell him you want a 24 or 48hr notice and if he doesn't adhere to that, you will not allow him to see the child. And then stick to it. Call the cops if he threatens you or your son in any way and NEVER EVER LET HIM BE ALONE WITH YOUR SON OR ALLOW HIM TO TAKE THE BABY ANYWHERE. You stand the very real possibility that he will kidnap your son under those circumstances.
I'm sure you are aware of this but keep in mind that you thought enough of this guy to sleep with him unprotected. Don't make that mistake again.
2007-11-02 03:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't been around the child he can't get custody right off. He would need to first get court ordered parenting time and be able to prove that you are keeping him from seeing the child.
Then if the parenting time is ordered by the court they may require that it is supervised because I'm sure the baby isn't to familiar with him.
He would also need to prove that you are an unfit parent and don't care for the child properly.
Chances are if he's not in the child's life then he has no knowledge of the kind of care he gets and he's not spending time with him so I don't think he would get custody.
2007-11-02 03:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, in addition to his record and not taking up regular visitations, he also doesnt pay child supprt, let him ask for custody. The judge will fix his wagon. And its a good idea to ask for just supervised visitations to make sure your child is safe.
2007-11-02 04:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a lawyer. You have to have proof on his domistic violence from the police report. If your unfit mother as he says then he has to prove it. You know my ex use to threaten me all the time on getting full custody of our daughter and it's only to scare you. I went to a lawyer and there was no way that he can get custody. Pray your heart out to God and he will give you wisdom and strength. I know exactly how you feel.
2007-11-02 03:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋