my dad is threatening to kick me out because he doesnt agree with me dating a 24 yr old guy...he is trying to kick me out to go live with either my mom or my grandma (one is in iowa the other in west virginia) so i would be out of state but if my grandma is my legal guardian can she legally let me move out of HER house and let me live with whom i choose?
2007-11-02 02:53:37 · 11 answers · asked by deliaisrad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't about your specific question, but I too feel that you are too young to be in a relationship with someone that much older than you are. Older men have expectations that can't be filled by little girls and you are a little girl. it's not to be disrespectful, but don't hurry to grow up so fast because you might just regret it someday. Just trust me when I say that I was your age one time, I did the same thing's your doing and I regret it to this day. Don't set yourself up for failure, set yourself up to succeed because there is always time for boyfriends. Take this time to be selfish and think about YOU!!
2007-11-02 02:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying that I totally agree with stepmomster22.
Before you go doing anything drastic ask yourself, why a 24 year old would date a 16 year old? Let me guess he told you that you are "really mature for your age" and Im sure that he told you "You understand him better then anyone else his own age" Am I right?! Sweetie, most girls have been through what you are going through, and believe me your father is ONLY trying to protect you! I know that the question wasn't about all of this, but what is your hurry to grow up, to be in a seriouse relationship with someone much older then you?
You are 16, regardless of how grown up you act or how mature you are...you still have a lot of changing to do, almsot EVERYONE I know has made huge changes within themselves between their teens, to their early twentys and even into their 30's. People mature, grow up and start to want and value different things. Honestly, I think your boyfriend might have some issues, because no self respecting man I know that is over 21 would date a 16 year old, no offense!
I am not trying to lecture you at all, But just like stepmomster22 said, I've been there I dated older guys when I was 15 and 16. And I know look back and realize how stupid I was. Look, if your boyfriend really Loves you, hell wait for you. School is the only thing you should be worried about right now, don't do anything to ruin that.
Good luck!
2007-11-02 03:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your dad. His friends will think he's a pervert ( I do ) and your friends will think your a fool. If you continue this relationship with this man then be prepared to go it alone.
Also, you have to reach the age of majority, which is 18 in most states, in order to move out on your own.
Forget about the 24 year old.
2007-11-02 03:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie what are you doing with a 24 year old man? Your only 16, If you stay with him he will only steal away your youth. Believe me I know I was in the same situation at your age, and it isn't good. He is too old for you, listen to your Dad he is only trying to do what's best for you. He doesn't want to kick you out, he is just trying anything to get you to understand. Please listen to me I really do know, If you stay with this guy you will realize in about 4 or 5 years that you didn't get to do any of the things young girls should do. Like go out with your friends and have fun. Go to ball games and flirt with the guys. Have sleep overs with your friends and laugh till all hours of the night. Ride around with your friends and talk to guys, when each of you get your license. Live your life now honey don't let it be taken from you . I know it is cool to say you have a 24 year old boyfriend, but it isn't going to always be cool. and you might find yourself in a situation you wish you weren't. Be a Girl, your boyfriend got to have his teenage years. Now is the time for you to have yours.
2007-11-02 03:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by thornfieldaffens 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, 24 is way too old for a 16 year old and as much as you don't want to hear it, your dad is right about that. To answer the question, you can go to court and get what is called emancipated. In the context of emancipated minors, emancipation is essentially a legal procedure whereby children become legally responsible for themselves and their parents are no longer responsible (financially or otherwise) for their children. Thus, emancipated children are freed from parental custody and control and essentially become "adults" in many ways.
2007-11-02 03:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Clinton W 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl. . .you need to worry about school and making a future for yourself and keep those legs closed. You don't need some man to make you happy, you need confidence in yourself and to develope some skills that will keep you alive in the future.
I have a 16 yo daughter who thinks that she is old enough to sleep around, but I wonder who she's going to turn to when she flunks out of school or gets pregnant? Hmmmmmm, thank goodness for mom.
But I know that this is not what you want to hear right now--you want justification and permission for what you want to do.
Let me ask you something--are you willing to be 40 years old and still be trying to get through community college while trying to work full-time to feed your kids, and still have to get public assistance? It's a cold cruel world out there, and your 24 yo boyfriend is going to stand by you only until times get tough--at the first inconvenience, he's going to dump you and move on, trust me.
2007-11-02 03:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by colebolegooglygooglyhammerhead 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I live in NC too and I think you are making a horrible decision to try and move in with this guy (since by asking if your Grandma could let you move out I'm assuming you mean move out to move in with HIM).
If you really like him, date him, but no more than that. I even disagree with having sex with him, although I am impressed you researched the legal age of consent. Do more research and learn how making the choice to distance yourself from your father, mother, and grandmother will make life so much harder on you.
By the way, in Iowa (according to Wikipedia) he would be violating the age of consent law since he is more than 4 years older than you, even though you are 16 (which is usually the age of consent there, except for restrictions, such as his age).
Stick with your family for 2 more years and finish high school. If he really loves you he'll wait just a measly two years. Please do not become a street statistic just because you disagree with your dad right now.
You write well which leads me to believe you are educated and an intelligent woman already. If you truly are that smart, you'll look around with fresh eyes. Isn't your dad just threatening this because he loves you? I don't think he wants you to move out, and he's saying you'll have to move away since he thinks the boyfriend won't follow you there. He's handling the situation poorly, but people make mistakes! Especially parents who are concerned their daughter is being tempted to step away from them - and her education - and disappear with a strange man who is 8 years older than her! Your boyfriend might promise you that he will work and support you with your college goals, but he has no obligation to do so! What will you do if you get pregnant? I know you are probably using contraceptives, but only abstinence is 100% foolproof. Will you be too proud to crawl back to your parents then, damaging the life of your child with more stubborness?
I wish I knew the magic words to explain this so that you understand the levity of your situation. And you probably think I'm being too harsh and heavyhanded. But the truth is I might just be some faceless user on Yahoo Anwsers here, but in person I have known people to be in your situation before. And it just never works out well. So please talk to your father honestly about this, rationally, calmly. If you can't, request the two of you seek counseling. Ask your school counselor for help, too. You probably think only your boyfriend has your best interest in mind, but it's not true. Lots of people do. Listen to them.
2007-11-02 03:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by musethefirst 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bad girl. What if this guy kicks you out, then? Do you really believe that he will go on loving you forever? And such guys ask for strange things. No matter what he tells you, do you really think he will accept to live with you, work for it... This will end sometime. And then? Just try to think neutrally, this guy is not for you. Discuss with your dad. Hope your best mate matches your life better.
2007-11-02 03:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by RandomChildishWall 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is quite clear from your question that reaching a state's legal age of "consent" does not guarantee that someone has good sense.
2007-11-02 07:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kraftee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, not till you are 18
2007-11-02 03:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋