how can i be more self confident girl ? i am 21 and day after day i discover how it is important to be strong?

Question

and self confident , but it is not always in my hands. can anyone help me ...

Answer 1

Here are the 10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence. It helped me, but I had to follow through everyday until it became a habit and do it automatically. Perseverence. You can do it! You have it in yourself! Self Confidence can be learned!

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

Answer 2

first you have to learn to fully accept and love everything about you. bear in mind that nobody's perfect and each one is special. try this: on a piece of paper, list down all the good qualities, talents and skills which you think you possess. afterwards, think of people you know who you think do not possess some of the things who have listed down. then reflect on how lucky you are and thank the Lord for the blessings He has showered upon you. and every night, right before you sleep, tell yourself that you are a wonderful person and that you love yourself. do this again when you wake up the next day. after a few days, you should be feeling more confident and happy with who you are. hope this will help you with your dilemma. goodluck!

Answer 3

I think more than what we guys here can do for you the answer is within you...
"what we see in this world is what we believe" (read it in a nice article recently)
you just need to tell yourself that you're a self-confident woman who can deal with whatever comes in your way!! All the Best :-)

Answer 4

Self confidence is really important. try thinking positive and optimistic. Tell yourself how good you look, and think of the good features you have, not the bad ones. If you have a pimple most likely no one but you will notice. Be happy .
hope i helped.

Answer 5

It truly is important that you have self-confidence and a strong sense of self-worth to survive and flourish in the world today. So many people, particularly women, are taken advantage of because they lack a strong self.

1. No one can take advantage of you unless you allow them to.

2. You are responsible for your actions and their consequences. No one else.

3. Learn to love yourself before expecting anyone else to learn to love you.

4. Learn to take care of yourself. To do things for yourself. To be responsible for yourself.

Answer 6

Join a local Toastmasters chapter. It doesn't cost much, and some employers pay for it. You will learn speaking skills, how to talk about subjects quickly and concisely, and you will learn skills that will increase your confidence and your earning power.

Answer 7

u can be confident only when u dont get nervous n HAVE YOUR OWN IDENTITY ! its very important in life to not get tensed front of people think u r the best n u can do all kinds of task

Answer 8

u gotta hav faith in urself and hav positive thinking always.
i believe this is sufficient for u to b self-confident

Answer 9

Post pictures on hotornot.com and ignore 80% of the people who reply LOL!

Answer 10

my suggestion is coversation with others. i use to be very quiet and to myself. as i got older i learned that speaking with others caused me to be more outgoing and impowered.