Everytime I go out with my girl she always talks about her exboy who is my close freind.I hate it and I always tell her not to do that, but I have found out that they are going out behind my back.I like them both cause 1 is a freind and the other is my girlfreind and my feelings for her are nolonger as strong as they used to be.What can I do cause I cant talk to them.
2007-11-02 01:31:50 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not hers, you can't shut her mouth about herself. A woman should be an assistant to a man, and not a wagging tongue.
2007-11-02 01:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by ds4ugust1na 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to talk about?
You have a cheating girlfriend and a backstabbing buddy whom you've been calling a "friend."
When someone or people do you wrong like that, it's a clear sign you need to run for the hills and don't look back.
Anyways, the only way you can express your emotions is if you talk to them...because they're not psychic you know.
So here's the deal.....
*You either take a big step forward into reality and see the situation for what is and you see your g/f and your "friend" for the type of people they turned out to be. Use your common sense and dump the ******* and move on with your life, and quit wasting your time and emotions over something so easy to brush off.
OR...........
*You continue to keep your feelings all bottled up and never have the balls to say anything by confronting the both of them about this. Thus leaving you to drown in your own misery and guilt and it only is going to pull you down deeper and deeper in your pool of emotions.
& you can continue to date this cheater and stay friends with that backstabber...knowing good and well that they're messing around behind your back, all the while you are to scared to say anything or to move on.
........Which.....in the end leaves you lonely, depressed, having feelings of guilt, angry, and you'll essentially keep yourself stuck in the past in the hopes that maybe it might change someday and you two will be back together again and everything will be fine.
2007-11-02 01:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attempt to distract your self from the area. Paranoia isn't exciting. i'd convey an iPod, your telephone or any form of MP3 with you and only blare some track into your headphones everytime you enter circumstances you would be able to nicely be uncomfortable with. do no longer enable your self provide into unfavourable suggestions and emotions. Reassure your self that persons are much extra worried approximately themselves than persons, and that they maximum probably do no longer even care you're there! xx stay constructive :-)
2016-09-28 04:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by southand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok talk to her, tell her that u just want to stay friends, before it's too late... that u will not lose ur fiend, and u won't lose her as a friend either... u admitted that ur feelings are not as strong, so move on, u'll find someone that u'll really love and care for, and someone who will not cheat on you... trust better thing await u.. but honestly a firend would not date ur girl behind ur back, so i would just stop talking to both of them, i mean that's if u want... i mean it's not like u were deeply in love with the girl or something right? but still, what if u keep him as a friend right? and u find another girl u really like and love, and he does the same again? hell naw, just get rid of him and her!!! forget about keeping them as friends, you deserve better...good luck
2007-11-02 01:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's dating him behind your back than she is not the one for you. And if your feelings are now not strong because of what she's done, than it's time to move on. Plus, if this guy was supposed to be one of your close friends, I think you were mistaken. Not only did you date his ex, but now he's with her behind your back. Separate yourself from both of them. Sounds like they're perfect for eachother and you need to find someone good for you.
2007-11-02 01:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a real friend wouldnt creep around like that, and a girlfriend has no business going out with an ex-espcially in your situation!
while you can, get out of that mess. life is too precious to be dragged down by all of that drama. there's a lady out here who will appreciate you more, and give you the respect of not competely with her past.
2007-11-02 02:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them both together and put her hand in his, and tell them to have a good life. Turn and walk away, telling them you'll see them around. That is why you never date friends exs, because everybody knows everybody, and the bonds are never broken.
2007-11-02 01:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This scenario has heartbreak written all over it. Tell her that until she can totally forget him and put you first, this is not going to work.
I would also query the term "close friend" for a man who takes your girl out behind your back.
2007-11-02 01:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by Gaspode the wonder dog 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maz, just back away slowly. Tell her you've enjoyed being together but it's clear she's not really your girlfriend at all, so it's over.
She's not really your girl if she's going out with her ex, your friend, behind your back. (Is that how true friends behave?)
"Ax" (typo in the subject line) is not really a solution. (Tee-hee)
2007-11-02 01:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you CAN talk to them (you apparently choose not to) and if they are dating again, then leave the situation. It's your choice to be cheated on, and by your girlfriend and your buddy. What's up with that?
Move on dude...you already said you don't have strong feelings for her anymore (who can blame you?)
2007-11-02 01:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋