am i too tight or is there something wrong?

Question

hi everyone,well im pretty tight down there - and my boyfriend is above average.we have done it around 15-20 times but over a year,and it still hurts for me.im not too sure if its mind over matter but it does hurt at the start, then i start getting use to it alot more it gets better.im usually silent during sex and just say "i love you" every now and then.my bf is so sweet & loves me alot, its just that sex hurts for me,and sometimes after he fingers me hard & a fast i hurt a little.when he goes deep i feel like i can feel it in my stomach,is there anything wrong or do i just need 2 get use to his size more?by the way, im always on top now - him on top just hurts too much.

Answer 1

You could just be non compatible. Hopefully you can grow to accept more of him one day, but it might not happen. You might just be small.

He should really try to take it easy, you don't want to damage yourself to please him.

Answer 2

Every thing on everyone comes in different sizes!
Get some lubricating gel (KY jelly or some such) and use LOADS of it. If you are anticipating pain you will tighten up. More foreplay..... really get "in the mood" and he must be gentle with you.
Then of course there is always oral sex if his hands are big too.
He won't be able to be rough with his tongue or put it in so far, if that's what is causing the discomfort internally. If you are having sex you should also get a smear test. Your Dr will give you a pelvic exam and will be able to tell you if everything is where it should be. There are cases of women with two vagina's right next to each other that are smaller than one, until you get a medical you may never know.

Answer 3

All great solutions - yet some persons do get tight whilst it extremely is been a whilst. perchance the actuality which you're nonetheless a splash on your era makes you sense much less comfortable too. As all of them reported - lots fo foreplay will do the trick.

Answer 4

I'm sure the fast and hard fingering isn't helping! Tell that jerk to be careful. Also you got to move and moan more girl, its like he's with a corpse if your silent. At that time who cares if your saying 'I love you' he sure doesn't!
Get into it girl and stop being to rigid, the more you relax, the less it will hurt and start to feel good

Answer 5

There are many different sexual positions, and maybe you haven't found one that suits you well. You should try and buy a kama sutra book and try different ones to find which you like better.
Also, it is normal to be tight down there if you don't have sex that often.
You just need to get used to his size, and try to go slowly so you are sure not to get hurt.

Answer 6

first - i would recommend getting some sort of lubricant to help. that can help loosen things up or at least make it smoother when he enters you.

2nd - i would ask him to be gentle at the start for a longer period of time and not go so deep

3rd - i would get him to do more foreplay to also loosen things up before he penetrates.

4th - consider performing some oral sex at times to change things around.

Answer 7

I'd get a gynaecology check-up hon, you may have a prolapsed or partial prolapsed womb. Get it checked out anyway. Have a great day.

Answer 8

Maybe it's not you, it sounds like he is unusually oversized. Be careful years of that will make your uterus & bladder drop

Answer 9

Sounds like you're already on top of the problem ......

Answer 10

strange story
dunno what to say
try another guy ,,maybe he who has a problem :)