how can i control family problems?

Answer 1

Dont CONTROL them. Just focus on something else. You are not the head of the household and are not responsible for the controlling.

If you feel sad or offended about something. Talk to your family members.

Communication involves listening and speaking mildly. Never use word like YOU. Never bring anyone down. Just communicate and it will help. Tell them how it make you feel when something occurs.

I'm sorry i immediately thought you were a teenager. If you are the head of the household Talk things out through communication.

Answer 2

What kind of family problems are you talking about? These can be anything as minor as who's going to do the dishes or take out the trash, or as serious as people being disowned or actual fights at family gatherings.

In general terms, you have to remember that you don't have much control over the actions of others. You can be supportive and help people make good choices. And you can help avoid "mine field" conversation points.

The one thing I would point out from my own family experience is to just be there for people who are going through a bad time. When I was going through my divorce and custody/visitation issues, I didn't even get so much as a phone call asking me how I was doing. Needless to say, moral support is not a strong trait in my family.

Answer 3

Problems in a family will always come up. There is no controlling that. However the only thing you can control is how you react to them. Also you can control if you cause problems. I am not talking about for example if the way you make your bed is a problem. That can be overcome. I am talking about more serious things such as doing things that can harm you or the rest of the family. I do not know how old you are or if you are a child in a family or married, or what. But if you are living with your parents then the best thing to do is to do what they say. If they say be home at 5 be home at 5. That way they will not worry. If they say that you have not washed the dishes properly and then proceed to break them all that is not your fault. Again these are examples, try to apply them to your situation.
For example, I like to run the water when I do dishes. My husband hates it and it causes a problem. He yells and says things that are not nice. How can I control this situation? I cannot control him and he is not willing to allow me to wash the dishes the way I like. They are clean but he wants me to fill up the sink wash them and then rinse them. Since I cannot control him and I hate to hear him yelling and saying mean things I have to wash them the way he wants. If he causes problems for us as a family I have no control over that. Again for example, say he brings home someone that steals. He is hurting me and himself. But the only thing I can do is tell him not to bring people like that home but if he does not listen to what I say what can I do`? Therefore I cannot control situations in which he does something.

Answer 4

i have good and bad news.

Bad- you can not CONTROL family problems. You can not participate, you can leave the room, you can not yell when everyone else is.

What's the good news about that? LOTS of people are still trying to control family and friends and peers ( for their own good) when that person is 60 or 80.

Learn now to be responsible for you, not THEM and your life will be a lot less complex.


Yes, i know you want to help. I know they are hurting themselves. I've been there. but you can't control what other people do, think, etc. Unless you become their jailer.

Focus on what is really do-able ( your behavior, your responses.)

Answer 5

you dont control anything or anyone but the way you choose to look at it. that is the only thing you control. everything else is out of your control and all you can do is learn how to mentality come to terms with the situation. control the way you see things. if it bothers you, learn to care less. help in what you can and realize that there is only so much one person can do, the rest is up to everyone else.

Answer 6

It differs from problem to problems. SInce you haven't mentioned about any specific problem, let me give a overall solution. Whenever you try finding a problem, welcome it. Just analyse, understand the entire concept of the problem and arrest that problem by being an extrovert person. Speak openly to the persons. I shall tell you a secret. To win, there is no harm in acting like as if we are defeated. I practice it in my daily life and it is giving good results. Whenever problems occur, I usually go open the topic, try getting cleared of the situation and arrest it. I don't mind people speaking at the back of me. Try this.

Answer 7

You haven't given enough information here. However, I can tell you from experience that quite simply, in most cases, you can't. In fact, trying to control them usually makes them worse. Instead of control, try to work them out, but if it doesn't involve you, a lot of times its best to just stay out of it and let the people it does involve work it out on their own...

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Answer 8

Be practical and be open to everybody.Do not shy to take advise from anyone.Be calm ,Be cool. I know that those kind of answers are coming from every where. But only you are the best person to handle it.I guess that you have best friend talk with him he/she will give you perfect ans.Share your problems to your friends those are the best way to get rid of it.bye 4 now

Answer 9

We don't know what is your family problems all about.

Answer 10

Every one have some or other family problem.
Your explanation and time is imp to solve problem.