i recently fould out that i was pregant however i lost the aby whih i feel was a good thing because im only 14 but im in love and and wanna run away with my boyfrind and be happy my parents dont like him at all but im deeply in luv wit him thats the thing no ne seems to see so all i wanna do is have a baby wit him get a house and me and him can be happy yea ok its the easy way out but i luv this boy so much i lost my virginity to him and he means the world to i just wanna run away and be with him happy and have a baby what do i do plz help . . . .
2007-11-01 22:18:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
yes he really duz luv me we are deeply in luv trust me ppl
2007-11-01 22:29:27 · update #1
You must be the Dumbest Person on the Planet. You are 14.
You can't even get a JOB!
How are you going to take care of a baby when your boyfriend splits because he wants to have a life instead of a pregnant girlfriend.
2007-11-02 01:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by kelloggs322 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wait. That's all. Stop pretending to want to be a grown-up and understand how it really is. Just because this is your first love, doesn't mean in the next year it's going to be your lasting love, and if you have a baby, then you have a baby and you are alone. No house. No boy. It's not all sunshine and roses being in love and being young and trying to make it on your own. It's not at all an easy way out. You think if you run away people wouldn't come looking for you? You are 14. You have idealistic notions of running away and having this romantic life, but you are a 14 year old runaway with (I am guessing) a teenage boyfriend, it's not going to be hard. And if he's an adult with such a young child? He's in a lot more trouble then I think he is going to want to deal with.
Think about what you are going to need if you run away with this boy.
You are going to need a place to live. To have a place to live, you need money. To have money, you need jobs, probably both of you. To have a job you need a place to live. See the circle there?
You are 14 years old. Get to know yourself before you try and devote yourself to the first set of wants that you come across. Stay in school, get an education, find out who you are. If you still want a baby, and if your boyfriend really does love you, he'll be there through it all. You need to learn how to be responsible for your own life, before you can be responsible for someone elses.
2007-11-02 07:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters.. no one is giving you a house a 14.. i think you need to be at least 18 to get approved for a mortgage or to even rent a place. second, believe what you want to believe but you're still a baby yourself, and are so not ready to raise a baby.. babies are much more work than you think. You're 14, focus on school and your friends and your future, not running off and getting married and having a baby. TRUST ME when i say that you are not ready for a child. Babies are a lot of work. You should be worried about school, not moving in with some guy. Stop trying to grow up so fast and stop having sex, you're only 14.
2007-11-02 09:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Geltrude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you've found love and all but i think you should hold off on the pregnancy part. I know b/c i'm 16 and 7 months pregnant, it's not easy being young and pregnant. God does everything for a reason that's why i accepted it. There's SOO much to learn right now, when you're older i guarantee you'll feel real different about trying to have a baby right now, TRUST ME!
2007-11-06 00:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you need to stop focusing on having a baby with your boyfriend and finish school. You are still a child, there is no way on earth that you are capable of being a parent right now. Who will support the baby?
Children shouldn't have babies. Finish school, find a job... become a responsible, mature adult before having a child.
2007-11-02 09:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by AV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please slow down. I know you don't what to hear this but you are 14 years old. You have the rest of you life to live. A baby won't "fix" any other problems you are having. How are you going to support a child? 10 years from now you will realise that you don't know what love is. Please, please, please have safe sex. You don't need a child. Take care of your self. What kind of life are you going to lead being a 14 year old mother, your life will be over. Once you have a child that is your life. It might be something that you want badly but please listen to a voice of reason and have safe sex, no babies. You need to go to you local health department and get on some kind of birth control. If you are not grown up enough to do this than you shouldn't be having sex let alone tring to bring a life into this world.
2007-11-02 05:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by jenn81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur 14 u dont know what real love is yet. if u DO run away, u better pray to God u dont get caught, cuz u will go to juvy. ur dumb if u think having a baby at ur age is smart, cuz its not. wait about 10 more years, then u can have all the babies u want.
2007-11-02 05:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you leave home at 14 to live with your boyfriend, you will be making a HUGE mistake. Stay with your parents and get an education. If you have a baby and DO NOT have an education, how will you support your baby if you and your boyfriend break up? I know. You're probably thinking that he loves you so much and you love him so much that you will never break up, right?
Wrong. That's what almost all couples think in the beginning, but they are wrong....very, very wrong. Those that don't get an education first usually end up sorry they missed out on those things because then they will be living in a tiny, dirty little trailer while they work at a fast food job for the next 20 years of their life while the baby's daddy goes out and makes more babies with other girls and never pays you one penny to help take care of the child the BOTH of you made together. Maybe you're thinking that you could always go back to school later? Think again. Do you know how hard it is to go to school and do well while you're working a full time job to pay the bills, pay the baby sitters and raising your child all by yourself? I'M STILL DOING IT! And I'll tell you right now that it is very VERY hard. I have three kids and I have never received a penny from the father to help me take care of them. I'm 37 and just started back to college last year and it is so hard to do all of this by myself that it drives me crazy. The difference between me and you is that I was 21 when I had my first kid. I had graduated high school. Went to college for a year and got the chance to go to my prom, to have fun, to be young and find out what life is all about. I WISH I had been smart enough to finish college FIRST so that I would have a better way to support my kids by myself, though. I WISH I had been that smart, but I wasn't. I thought I was in love too. I imagined a happy little fantasy where me and my kids dad would live happily ever after and have kids and a home and love each other forever. It didn't happen that way. What really happened was that as soon as my ex-fiance's found out that I was pregnant, they started cheating on me and then eventually left. Too bad, so sad I guess, but that left me alone with a baby on the way and not enough money and NO HELP in raising that child. DON"T MAKE THAT MISTAKE.
What you SHOULD do is use protection. Date the boyfriend if you love him so much, but don't run away with him and don't have his baby and don't quit school. Be smart. Think of the future and think of what kind of life you'd give your kid if you were the only one left to take care of him. I know you think you're in love and maybe you are, but do you know how many girls as young as you stay with the guy they run away with all of their lives?
NOT very many. Trust me. I've seen it all before. It's happened to many people I've known and it will probably happen to you too. Enjoy being young, sweetheart. High school gets really fun in a year or two. Stay in there and have all the fun you can while you can. You can have a family ANYTIME, but high school days only last a few more years. After that it is nothing but work work work and bills on top of bills, wiping runny noses and cleaning stinking butts and waking up to find that your kid has taken a permanent marker and marked all over the walls in every room of the house, then killed all of the fish in the aquarium by dumping in everything they could get their hands on. PLUS, after you have a kid, you will NEVER have enough money for things for you. Maybe your boyfriend will have what he wants. The kids will have what they want, but YOU will not. Mothers are always giving up their stuff so they have enough money for the kids and their man and the bills, etc. If you get an education first, THEN have kids after you have a job, then you will know that you can always support yourself if everything goes wrong with your relationship and you might have enough money for yourself sometimes too. Personally, I haven't bought myself any clothes at all in three years. My kids and the bills take all of my money. Babysitters cost a lot and school loans are eating at everything else. Wouldn't have been this bad if I had finished it way back when I was young because then I could have worked more hours to pay my way, but now I have to have time to come home, clean house, cook dinner, wash clothes, wash kids, brush their teeth, do my homework, go to the grocery store, pay the bills. I don't have time to work more hours. That is what you're life will be like if you run off to start a family now. Instead, give yourself a chance to be a kid, to go to a prom, to go to school games, parades, dances, parties, etc. ENJOY BEING YOUNG. Once it's gone, you'll never get it back again. If your boyfriend loves you, he'll wait. If he doesn't wait, he would have left you in the future with a baby to raise by yourself. That's a fact.
Good luck and please do what's best for you and the family you want to have someday. You'll be glad you did the smart thing instead of the emotional thing.
2007-11-02 05:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb u would b best off waiting a bit longer at least till ur 15 and does he really love u? or this is just a little relationship?
2007-11-02 05:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Letarnya B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get on sum bc and leave him alone
2007-11-02 11:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by lilms.wipemedown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋