so you just find out that someone you know died, doesnt have to be that u are close to them or anything, but u decide not to show up at there funeral. why. serious answers please.
2007-11-01 20:33:16 · 12 answers · asked by TheDarkness 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Personally, I feel that funerals are only for the family and close friends. If i think that I understand what you are asking, I would go to the visitation or memorial if there is one.
I know that for me, it always irritates me when people all the sudden act like they were best friends with someone that died for attention. Yes I actually know someone like this. She is very dramatic and does the whole crying bit and everything when someone that she barely even knew died...and it's not because she's and "emotional" person. She enjoys telling others that she has to go to a funeral because so and so died, and she actually misses work and goes to the funeral...tacky.
Sorry, I got off subject, but I would stick to the visitation.
2007-11-02 02:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my dad's brother and sisters died I didn't go. They were awful to my mother and all of us kids. The uncle actually stole a a lawn mower and some expensive yard equipment from our farm (it was old and we didn't live there) on the day of my dad's funeral. I hated those people.
When my favorite boss, a favorite of our entire store as well, died, I worked so that the more senior employees, who'd known him more than 10 years, could go. He would have turned over in his grave if he'd known we'd closed the store for his funeral. He was all about customer service and didn't feel he was that important.
My brothers don't attend funerals. They just can't. Everyone who knows them knows they can only go to close family funerals. Some people just can't do it.
2007-11-02 06:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel I need funerals for closure. I have had a few friends die in the past few years and I skipped the funerals. My father is dying and I'm considering skipping his funeral as well (I haven't seen him in years anyway). It's just something I don't want to see.
2007-11-02 03:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know maybe because your in prison for their murder-possibly in Mexico trying to avoid prosecution. lol I'm just kidding. Well depends on a no. of things, as a child growing up in my culture children don't go to funerals because the elders felt that as a child you could get really sick from it and die yourself to be around death-or that this person who died had such a great attachement to you they'd want you to go with them into the next life-that being the reason for the child getting really sick and passing on.
2007-11-02 07:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Voss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a little vague and so I am not too sure what ya mean? If you choose not to attend then that is soley up to you and if asked, just say "I perferred not to come. Sometimes funerals can be hard on me and I'd like to just remember them as they were." No biggie!
2007-11-02 03:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate funerals. Not that I don't like honoring them. Just that it's so depressing.
2007-11-02 06:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by mk_freak90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the funeral is too much to deal with or the other attendees will be too much to deal with
2007-11-02 03:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was very young; my best friend died from bacterial meningitis.
I was about eleven years old, and she was 14. I absolutely could not handle it. The whole family went, except for me.
2007-11-02 03:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mister Ambulance Driver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't go to funerals never have never will. My first funeral I go to will be mine.
2007-11-02 03:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only someone I know, and most likely not someone I am close to.
2007-11-02 03:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋