My divorce is only awaiting the final paperwork, My sister is getting married and invited my Ex-wife, I was the victum of adultery and she is bringing a date. Do I attend and possibly ruin the event by having an altercation?
2007-11-01 20:32:54 · 24 answers · asked by Dr Sex and Soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For you sister, attend her wedding. She and your ex-wife may still be "friends" you cannot force your sister to choose between you two. Your wife was very wrong for what she did to you, and you do not have to ever forgive her (i wouldn't). Your best bet is to ask your sister to place the two of you as far apart as possible, and to avoid your ex. Even if you bump into eachother...Just ignore her and have a good time. If you can, bring your own date to give you company, and take your mind off of your ex.
2007-11-01 20:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your situation and even sorrier that the relationship has broken down to such an extent that it almost seems like an altercation is inevitable.
I believe it is the wrong person here asking "do I attend" This is your sister's wedding not your ex's sister. It should be your ex battling with herself as to whether or not to attend.
I do agree that perhaps your sister should have consulted you first. Could you not talk to your sister and ask her to reconsider asking your ex. If they are such good friends surely they can reach an amicable solution.
Anyway just my opinion. Family always comes first
2007-11-03 08:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Puppy Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should attend after all it is your sister. If she is bringing a date, then you should to! Show her your not afraid to move foward, and it don't bother you one bit that she is out of your life. (even if you do miss her) Having an altercation at your own sisters wedding, (well anyones really) is not only disrespectful to her but what would the rest of the family think? yes i'm sure they know you may be hurting from the situation, but making a scene isn't going to change what has happened and it sure wont make your sisters day very happy.
2007-11-02 03:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pit Bull Owned! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is your sister I would attend. Its a day about family getting together to celebrate the love that this couple has. Just do your best to avoid the soon to be ex-wife. If she tries to start something just walk away and ignore her. Be the bigger person.
2007-11-02 09:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Whit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your sister so i would attend. However if you do not believe that you can behave and not cause a scene let your sister know that you would love to come but do not want anything to ruin her day and you are not sure if you can behave. However if you think you can you should attend and avoid your ex wife.
2007-11-02 08:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by rate86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to bring your own date and have a blast!! Remind your ex what a catch you are...and what she is now missing out on!
You can get through an evening without a confrontation....just think of all the people who will be there that you can catch up with. You'll have a blast!
Good luck!! Have fun!!
2007-11-02 16:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You attend, and for the benefit of your sister do everything you can to avoid embarrasing and upsetting your sister on her big day.
Make your sister aware of the issue, and ask that seating plans be arranged so as to avoid contact between you and your ex-wife.
Basically, if you act like a mature human being then you should be able to handle it. It would be a bit of a childish repsonse not to attend the most important day of your sister's life because of your ex-wife.
2007-11-02 03:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
OK trying to not be rude (which is hard for me tonight). 1) How do you KNOW the ex is going and WITH a date? 2) Your sister has every right to invite anyone she wants to HER wedding. 3) Your ex-wife and you should be adults and avoid each other, if you cross paths YOU be a man and walk away or the pair of you decide who IS and isn NOT going. 4) BE A MAN AND KEEP YOUR COOL!
2007-11-02 03:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If it's YOUR sister, not your ex's, then you have every right to go.
In fact, you SHOULD go.
The ex is the one that shouldn't go, since she's not related to your sister.
But you definitely have to go. Just keep your cool and stay away from your ex. If she starts something, and something happens, it's her fault, not yours.
Why would your sister invite your ex, anyway?
Even if they were good friends, that's f-ed up for her to invite her after what happened between you two.
I mean, jeez, if that happened to one of my brothers (they're still kids, but in the future-), no matter if we were close friends or how much I liked her, I'd probably hunt her down and beat the sh!t out of her.
But that's just me.
2007-11-02 03:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Electric Ocean 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should go and realize that it's your sister's day. She invites who she wants whether you agree who they are or not. Just enjoy the occassion and be there for her. Kill the x with kindness and act like you don't even know she is there. Don't show hurt because that is what she will be bringing the date for.
2007-11-02 03:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋