when he loved me, i didnt like him more than a friend.
once i started to, he had already started seeing another girl. even so, we went out but he decided he wanted to be with her. i was devastated.
now hes saying he's made a mistake, that he loves me but only likes her..but he wants me to wait for them to break up. he says: "i dont wanna be with you and have feelings for another girl but i dont care if im with her and i have feelings for you, i like u more." during all this, he says that its ok if we kiss and stuff (even tho he has a girlfriend) and its ok because we have something special.
whats he doing? hes one of my best friends and i really wanne believe he loves me but i cant be sure..
should i wait for him?
should i try and get over him? does he even love me??
please help me!
2007-11-01 19:46:39 · 12 answers · asked by Vertigo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is using you. If he cared like he said he would already have broken up with her. Hes just hoping for something on the side.
2007-11-01 19:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh giiiirl... you must be a teenager.. that's okay- I remember those 'helplessly in love' days... here's what you do.. don't sweat him- be chill about it and be his friend- LET HIM COME TO YOU. If he loves you than he WILL BREAK UP WITH HER. here is the biggest secret about love.. if you treat yourself like a queen you will be treated like a queen.. if you treat yourself with disrespect you'll get the same treatment okay? Act like a diva even if you don't really feel like it... And just be nice to him-- but for heaven's sake, don't kiss the boy when he has a girlfriend! (maybe if he's doing that to her, imagine what he could do to you someday) you might want to seek out a different guy...but this advice you won't understand, or follow probably, untill you are older. Good luck.. and don't trip over love- Life is too big to have your head in the clouds all the time.
2007-11-02 02:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by angelmessenger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me begin with, are you a minor? I mean in School still or are you on social security? It seems that the questions are the same in both category.
When one is starved for affection, the world seems upside down.
Look up the word Covet, tell yourself the truth. Is it him or what he represents to you.
Personally, he sounds like a player, he will only hurt you in the long run. Stay away, for Friend's don't play with Friend's emotions, the comfort them when they fall.
Next, look up the word intimacy and seek a man to share it with. This is not the guy...
I know its hard to walk away when your scared, but its harder when your hurt.
2007-11-02 03:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Sex and Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get over him. Don't wait. If it's going to work out, it will. But you shouldn't either (a) wait for him or (b) make out with him while he's still with the other chick. From what you've said, it sounds like he's got it made right now.
2007-11-02 02:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by modoodoo76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for them to break up if ur feelings are that strong. But dont make out with him and all that.
That seems to easy for him. U ll never know if he means it or not.
if he wants u this bad he can make a choice and leave her and then be with you.
Also rememebr though. the way he is treating her he might treat you later.
2007-11-02 03:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must really be concerned to keep asking about this. Honey, if he will cheat on his gf and kiss you, what makes you think that he would not cheat on you. He is a jerk. Now just be glad he is not your bf, kissing her and telling her the same lies. If he really cared for you, he would have already left her. Sorry, but you wanted the truth!!
Have more respect for yourself than to allow him to keep kissing you and BSing you like that.
2007-11-02 02:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be wise and save yourself any agony. If you feel so much that he longs to be with you, he can work on it. Let him go tell his girlfriend his true feelings towards her or end it in anyway he chooses. Its his lookout. You are not responsible for any of his decisions with his girlfriend. Please make yourself offlimits for any physical interaction. Don't strip yourself of the dignity you have. You are 'first' not second at any point of time to any man.
2007-11-02 02:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine.... would you like ur boyfriend to say that to another girl behind your back? i sure don't.. so don't make it okay...
if you really love him, and want to wait for him, then go ahead..
but make sure he knows what he currently is doing is wrong..
it could end up as a terrible habit...
2007-11-02 02:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by (C)T Heartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not OK if he has a gf... don't play a part in his game... he is being stupid, tell him to man up... make a decision and live up to that... don't wait for him and let him know if he really thinks you two having something special he will do something about it and show you that he means it.... don't wait for him... life is to short....
2007-11-02 02:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget him, cause if he dumps his gf for you what are the chances hes not gonna dump you for another girl he claims to like
2007-11-02 02:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋