Abortion, why?

Question

I'm writing an english paper to compare and contrast a "fork in the road" in my life. I'm nineteen now, but when I was seventeen and freshly a highschool graduate I found out I was pregnant. Rather than getting an abortion I kept my baby and for the past 8 and a half months I've been blessed to raise a beautiful boy while juggling school and a fulltime job. My essay requires me to compare the benefits and negative impacts of my life choice. I have to write it as if I am giving advice to the reader, but I'm stuck. The approach I am trying to take is that my life choice has made a positive impact, but what I really have to write is comparing and contrasting one of the lifepaths I could have taken had I not chosen to become a young mother.

If you were struggling in a situation deciding on whether or not to keep your unplanned pregnancy, what would be your deciding factor inkeeping or aborting? How would it impact your life if you had an abortion or how has it?

Answer 1

I got pregnant at 17, for me as it is now abortion wouldn't be an option except in certin cases. And even though my parents tried to convince otherwise, I decided to go through with my pregnancy. I was still in high school but was graduating 3 months after finding out my boyfriend said he would marry me and we would both owrk and I could go on to college. I graduated high school and my parents made it nearly impossible for me to see my boyfriend so we ended up breaking up. I was going to put my baby up for adoption and the day I went to sign the papers, there was already a afamily and all. I felt my little move and knew that I couldn't give her up.
I had been up crying all night and most the morning b/c I was giving her away but knew that she would have two parents and I remember sitting in the car while my mom was pumping gas and telling her I was only going to do this b/c I loved her and hoped that she wouldn't hate me, thats when i felt her. And I cna't really describe it but it was a deep natural feeling to tell my mom that I changed my mind I was going to keep my daughter and raise her.
I think if I had have given her up I wouldn't have had the drive to work hard and make a good life for us. I would have given up to big of a part of me to make anything of myself.
So I did, she is nine now, and I am married to her father (finally lol) and we are expecting our second child in april.

Answer 2

Before people get on the high and mighty pro life crusade, let me point out the reason why abortions are legal in the first place.

First and foremost, back alley abortion were killing and sterilizing so many girls and women. Dirty instruments and unsanitary conditions made horrible infections, such as sepsis and staph, almost a guarantee. Whoever can honestly say," It serves them right." Is the biggest hypocrite and an even bigger monster.

I have seen a 13 year old girl die of sepsis, in the ICU, from a coat hanger abortion. She didn't think she could come to her parents, so she took it upon herself to take care of the problem.

The first time her parents even knew something was wrong, was when she fell unconscious. They called an ambulance, and she was rushed to the hospital. Upon arrival she had a fever of 104.8 and a white cell count in the lower 80 thousands.

She never regained conciseness.

When we told the parents she was in a coma, and would most likely, never regain consciousness, her mother wailed.

There's a cry mothers make when they realize all hope is lost for there child. There is no other sound like it. The fear, and terror is so primitive, you can smell it.

At the heart of her sadness, was the fact, she will never get to say goodbye.

The antibiotics on the poor girl were useless. Her body was so riddled with bacteria, the internal organs began to weaken. She started to hemorrhage uncontrollably in the early evening. There was nothing we could do. Surgery would've killed her, and our only option was to keep her comfortable.

She passed around 9:30pm.

She was only 13 years old, and forced to endure such a painful death. If she felt her parents would've helped her, this tragedy would've never happened.

So two mothers lost their baby.

Women and girls are still dieing of back alley abortions. Whether pro life or pro choice, a horrible death can still be the outcome.

So keep supporting anti-abortion, and you'll still be sentencing a person to death. Just because laws are passed, banning it in states, doesn't mean it will stop. It just means a lot of women and girls will be the ones dieing.

Either way supports death.

Answer 3

I hope this helps:

In July 2006 I was in my final year at high school.I had dreams and plans and wanted to go to college and graduate as a beauty therapist.
To my surprise, I found out that even while using birth control, I had gotten pregnant.
I was crushed!I didn't want to believe or accept it, untill my boyfriend took me to do bllod tests and an ultrasound scan.
The first time I saw that jellybeen moving around and that little heart beating, I fell in love!
I told my best friend and we were both so excited, we started buying baby-things immediately.

Two weeks later, she came to school in tears.The doctor had confirmed that she too, was pregnant.
Although she was happy for me,as I was in a stable relationship and happy with the man in my life, she couldn't face the idea of becoming a mother at such a young age.
She opted to have an abortion.Till this day, she cannot look at any baby, least of all mine, without starting to cry.
My baby is almost 8months old and I love her to bits, all my plans have been put on hold, I can get my tertiory education any time, but the love I feel for my first born daughter, is one thing no-one will be able to replace!

I know it doesnt really answer your question, but my experience is that an abortion can ruin your life.
Yes, having a baby while still at school might be inconvenient and a lot of work, but I will never go through a day knowing that I have the bl;ood of an innocent child on my hands.

Answer 4

My guideline was what will I be able to provide for this child? And what damage did my lifestyle do to this possible human being?
I would have been a mess of a mother at 18. And was doing things that would have insured a physically or mentally damaged child.
Bless you for the decision you made, and it is a difficult and frightening place to be in no matter which way you decide to handle it.

Answer 5

the deciding factor for me would be that I would feel that it would be the responsible thing to do. If I was responsible enough to make my own decision about having sex then I would have to be responsible enough to deal with the consequences. I feel that by aborting it allows the person to be free from responsibility and gives them an easy out if they should screw up again. By keeping the baby it forces the person to deal with their decisions and makes them grow up and be responsible. If I kept the baby I would not be out on a friday night having fun with my friends at the bar, or staying out til all hours of the night. I would be right at home taking care of my child and being a responsible part of society.

Answer 6

If you had an abortion, imagine the guilt, not knowing what your dead child looks like, not watchign them grow. You could as well become depressed and disorientated and have nothing come out of your life.
I had my son halfway through my high school year, and thank God, it's made me far more focused. I finished that year, single btw, no help from parents, and am now halfway through my journalism degree, and he is two and a half!
So I believe abortion would have being the worse way out. I cannot imagine the guilt!

Answer 7

Hello, I am not sure how to message on yahoo answers, but your reply to my New School University question really inspired me. You seem like an inspirational person. I only wish there could be more kindness in this world. As for your question...hmm...it is really hard for me to answer. I usually tend to be liberal but abortion is something I cannot condone. I really think there is no reason for having an abortion even if it involves rape. I guess you could use abortion as an excuse if you got raped, but even then, it is still very iffy for me. Sorry I couldn't answer your question as well as you have answered mine.

Answer 8

God bless you for making the right choice and though I haven't had an aborion, I know a couple of girls who did. One is now a woman and she felt a lot of guilt about it and though she has asked God for forgiveness, still feels guilty sometimes.

Answer 9

Thank you for sharing part of your beautiful story!

Killing one's child is never the answer to anything. I am sure that it more women knew how beautiful human life is, they would never resort to exterminating their children. The blessings that come from choosing life over death are countless!

Thanks again for your beautiful story!

Answer 10

if i were unable to raise/mother my baby; termination would be kinder