My boyfriend & I have a great relationship. He treats me so well, even though he has a very unhealthy relationship with his mom. She has been terrible to him since he was a child. He needed new shoes when he was 11(his were being held together by duct tape). He asked for new shoes, & she bought them but guilted him about them and how much they cost. (lots of things like that happened for years) When he was 17 (he's 22 now) she picked up and moved out of town and took his little sister without telling anyone. She came back, but left again a year later. She has turned her whole side of the family against him, telling them that she had to leave because he was violent and that he was on drugs and dealing (none of this is true).She even tried to commit him to a mental hosp. He has asked her to go to councelling w/ him but she won't. He's thinking of cutting her out of his life. It tears him up inside. He has problems expressing himself. How do I help other than just listen and offer advice?
2007-11-01 17:43:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just love him and give him the support do wat you think is right , just dont hurt him and never give up on him
2007-11-01 17:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by lokesh k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude, but did you see this for yourself? The reason I asked this, is sometimes not everything said is true. A person in my family wanted attention from others, and almost had their mother arrested for kidnapping them. The child was saying all sorts of things ( was also stealing from everyone, including friends.) and the mother did not know. And soon she had to prove that that was her child. The child went to a hosp. for depression. And then, when the child was home for awhile this started again, this time the child was angery because the mom did not believe them much. And neither did others who found out about it. It almost makes me wonder if it is the same person. (I say child, but they were older. I say it this was to make it easier to understand, without saying who it as.) I wish you luck!!
2007-11-01 18:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kay A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by cluff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really sticky position that you are in. I think you should just listen and make sure he knows you support him regardless of what he decides to do with his mother. No matter how many bad things she has done to him and how strained his relationship with his family is, they are still his family. If you give him advice to stop talking to his mom he may come to resent you. Family is for life, you aren't permanent yet. Just support him. Hope this helps =)
2007-11-01 17:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by grace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to do this for himself.....and I don't think he can do it without some therapy.
He's had a hard relationship with her and it won't change until he wants it to change.....and is willing to do the work that it will take to make that happen.
2007-11-01 17:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should do a trial cut out. He should stop talking to her completely. If she begs to talk to him, he can talk and if she goes back to her mean ways, he cuts her out again. Also, yelling at her about how bad of a mother she is, etc, may work. (My bf did that to his mom, she felt very guilty about it)
2007-11-01 17:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a mother like that???but a great father to make it up for her......well tell him everything well be ok tell him he has you he'll feel safe i mean thats what i would want my boyfriend to do but i got my dad....tell him no matter what you well stand next to him through it all ....and you love him....tell him he is 22 has a great girl next to him, to forgive his mom, and let go thats all you can do,
hope its helps
2007-11-01 17:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by sunsetbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, this guy has you eating out of his hand. I'll bet he inherited mental illness from mommy dearest. Leave that guy alone and move on.
2007-11-01 17:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it give him morale support this is an issue for him and his mom to deal with
2007-11-01 17:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by doug f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should cut her out. She has some serious mental issues.
2007-11-01 17:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay out of it, it's none of your business.
2007-11-01 17:46:09 · answer #11 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋