what can you say about a woman who extremely hates men?

Question

let say a woman who's been hurt before and now she finds men are all same? what must she do? is she normal to put a lot of hatred and bitterness in her heart? how can she recover about the trauma and accept men again? is she considered a bi-polar?

no no, its not the lesbian or gay thing...she's just a nice sweet beautiful forgiving woman who's been hurt not only ones but lot of times. she is still accepting suitors but she has this thought that guys will again and again cheat upon and emotionally abuse her. and because of these experiences she became tough but still sweet but and she tends to reject men back...and shes like a fault finder she thinks there are no right man anymore..or its just fate..but how can she stop hating men?

Answer 1

First, not all men are the same. Just because a few or many men have hurt "this woman" (Be honest. Are we really talking about yourself? No one can see your picture so I'm sure it is probably safe to say so if it is you. We've all been hurt by someone sometime in life.) doesn't mean that we men are all the same. I do know that you haven't met guys like me.

At this point, one might consider counseling with a relationship therapist, or do some introspection. What caused the hurt in the first place - cheated upon, abuse, neglect, too busy for a relationship, one of you was not emotionally or mentally ready for a relationship, met a "boy" or "a mistake with a zipper" and not a man? What happened? Why did it happen? What if anything did you discover that can help keep this from happening again?

Is it normal to put a lot of hatred and bitterness in her heart? No. All this will do is internalize the anger and bitterness and unforgiveness into an actual physical disease or condition that will just make you sick. It does nothing to the one that hurt you. Learn to forgive and let it go. It doesn't mean "forgive and forget", but it does mean that you will be more wise and not so easily fooled into this situation again. Then learn to forgive yourself. After this, learn to develop friendships with men and get to know them as friends first. Don't worry about dating or relationships, just yet. That will come in time.

Is she considered bi-polar?: Try this link to find out. Although I seriously doubt it. It would seem that she had encountered a string of "mistakes with zippers on" and needs to work on herself and find out what attracted these "mistakes" to her in the first place, then make necessary changes in habits to avoid them.

Answer 2

Yes . It is due to the bitterness which she experienced from his ex friend. This state of her mind indicates that she was sincere with the guy, be she had been cheated upon by her ex friend. Now she hates all men considering that all are alike which is quite wrong. Tell her that all fingers of hands are not equal. as such all men are not alike. There are persons who are very very sincere and they do not betray the confidence repose in them. So after some time she will come to her senses and she will again start makinglove as a normal human being.

Answer 3

she should accept men again
HELLO THAT IS WHY IT IS CALLED LIFE!!!!!
THINGS HAPPEN!!!!!
just because she stumbled on a jack *** doe not mean she should look past other good men (hey some are very devoted too)
Why would you do that ? it is irrational
believe me I have been hurt by a man VERY BAD also
but that did not stop me from believing that some men are good

Do not look at the world in black and white there are good and bad mixed in this world in degrees

So why don't she give men another chance? after all some men are willing to get past everything to love a woman

she just needs to find the right person

Answer 4

Well I Can understand why you would not like man... We can be big A$$hole at time's or even big baby's.... But you have to try to put the felling and the past behind you and look in front of you because if you are mad at man you well never see the right man you well just pass it up... By the ways I sorry for how they where to you too... and that coming for a guy

Answer 5

you cant steroe type all men... {most of the time} if you have been hurt before, that really sucks and of course will turn you off to guys for a while... but there will be the right guy to come along, and he will make you realize all guys arent the same... he wont just SAY it... he'll show it.. and when he tries to, try not to be too negative to his efforts... everyone has thier ups and downs, but not all are bi-polar. it IS ok to have bitterness and hatred in your heart... but dont let it run too deep, or to all people

Answer 6

No.
She is a woman who hates men at the moment. It's part of her healing process. Let her hate there guts as long as she needs to. It's quite normal really. She is not really hating all men, I mean I am sure she has a brother or father who she loves. Let her be, anger is a good catharsis so long as it's not hurting anyone.

Answer 7

One man hurt her. She may have hurt him as well.

Not all people are all nice all the time. Some of us act like jerks, some are just basically evil. This is true of men and women.

She needs to develop enough experience and understanding of the world to seek out people who are kind and loving and avoid the mean spirited ones.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Hum..anima/ animus problem...
The hesitation, the assertion of probability and the mention of "pioneer work" at the end of the paragraph reveal Jung's uncertainty about the idea. The key statement is the first sentence: "Since the anima is an archetype that is found in men, it is reasonable to suppose that an equivalent archetype must be present in women." Jung certainly seems to have deduced the presence of the animus in women from his hypothesis of an anima in men. Jung never developed the animus idea to the extent of his anima theory. I suggest further development was impossible because he was forcing a mirror image where there was none. He hypothesized the animus in woman to balance the anima in men. The reasoning was that if the unconscious in men was a feminine anima, in women, it must be a masculine animus. According to the Jungian stereotypes of masculine and feminine, this gives women and men qualitatively different kinds of unconsciouses. Certainly this is a startlingly broad assertion based on so little evidence. The anima/animus model and its goal of unification works better for men than for women. The model supports stereotyped notions of what masculine and feminine are by adding mystification to guard against change in the social sphere, where women are at a huge disadvantage. In practice, men can keep control of all Logos activities and appropriate just whatever Eros they need from their women as a psychological hobby. Women, on the other hand, are not encouraged to develop Logos. Instead, they are thought of as handicapped by nature in all Logos areas such as those found at the top of any important profession. Acceptance of the anima/animus theory does not support integration of the sexes, but rather leads to more separatism. Intra-psychically, the theory might do some good for people who have been afraid of experiences that have been seen as appropriate for just one sex or the other. To people with these fears, the anima/animus theory says, "Go ahead, develop your contrasexual element." However, the model is decidedly inadequate if a person is questioning the masculine and feminine stereotypes themselves.

A formal critique and revision of the Jungian archetype is a task to which feminist analysis is obligated. Since it is women who have been most limited by the assumption of absolute determinants at work in human life, it is up to women to question any philosophy which tends to create absolute categories. If feminists do not redefine the archetype, we are left with only two options: The first is to accept the patriarchal ideas of feminine as ultimate and unchanging and work within those; the second is to indulge in a rival search to find our own archetypes this time the true ones to support our conclusions. Quite a few feminists are taking the second option. An example is the trend to proclaim matriarchy as historical fact and to draw conclusions about the superiority of women based on such facts. Although much research into the role of females in prehistory needs to be done" and although there is great psychological value in cultivating visions of female power," facile assumptions about the archetypal nature of feminine superiority should be avoided, I believe. Such assertions of an empirical absolute based on shaky evidence are the very same means men have employed to justify the subjugation of women. While we must recover lost history and buried images of women, we ought not to set up these images as archetypes. If we do, we run the risk of setting bounds to experience by defining what the proper experience of women is. This could become a new version of the ideology of the Eternal Feminine and it could result in structures just as limiting as those prescribed by the old Eternal Feminine. We must redefine the archetype and experiment with new attitudes to myth and iconography. (The traditional notion of archetypes implies that they are better and grander than the dreams, fantasies and imaginal experiences that all of us have.)(...) ~


It is a very complex question. There is so many foctors like education, family, childhood...etc..
Excellent question though!!~

Answer 9

shes been REJECTED,BURNED,BURNED,BURNED,burned!!!!!!!!!!!!!!shes HURTING so BADLY,because men do nothing but break her heart.yes,it is normal for her to feel hateful.shes not bi-polar.shes just DYING from a broken heart,because nobody has ever given her a chance.every time she cares for a guy,he always ends up hurting her,or leaving her for someone better.shes scared of getting hurt again.because thats all shes ever gotten.

Answer 10

A time will come when you will find a guy and whos perfect and forget all about your man hating days.