Hi, I am an Indian guy studying in USA. I am 26 yrs old. About a year and half ago I met this girl on orkut who also happens to be my school mate. Now we have been dating on internet, phone for that time.
When I showed her pictures to my family, they said you can get a better girl than this. Since we are of the same age, Recently her mom forced her to get commitment from me. Now I can't go back to india at least for a year.
So my question is, how can I give my commitment to a girl whom I haven't even met? 'Casue seeing through internet and seeing personally makes a lot of differece.
2007-11-01 17:13:24 · 8 answers · asked by Vicky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't,,, unless you have no self worth and want all to play you
2007-11-01 17:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by At peace with myself 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, Vicky
Commitment for life long.. This is very dangerous. Now a day Internet love is in go, but pls don not commit to a person whom u have not seen in person.
They are many things which has to be taken into consideration. There are lot of differences when u talk over fone and see someone in person. The way they behave, talk, walk, dress, eating habits and many more things.
Sometimes, these things mite be simple, but all this will coz problems. This is a life tome relationship. Once your committed, its very hard to get out from it.
Think about it. Marriage is just not love, they are many things which also matters. Families consideration, mental stability, flexibility etc.. Its only u need to decide how u go abt it.
But please take a decision before considering all the above factors.
Take and all the best
Shillllllllllllll
2007-11-02 01:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question lies in this question.
Q) How many marriges have you seen that last raly long, compaired to the marrige of your parents who say and taled to each other on the first night AFTER their wedding for the first time.
It's you who have to decide not any one of us here.
It's your whole life not ours.
SO how can we coment on that when we don't even know you, atleast you have talked to that girl on the phone, we have not even seen your face. HW CAN WE and Who are we to comment or suggest you on that.
NOBODY
Just think marrige is a life long subject not like a job that you gave the interview and got appointed but after some time you feel this is not the right place or you got a better company so you switch and start over.
Relationships and ment to be made and kept for ever, like your relationship with your parents. No matter how much you fight with them or do something that hurts them, but you never break your relationship.
you are MAN now so stand on your own feet decide and have the guts to live with it all your life.
Friends come and go but a wife should be with you forever "Until Death do you apart"
GOOD LUCK BROTHER.
2007-11-02 01:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Baldev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is you can't. You can try but in the end it might just get really painful for the both of you. Just don't give commitment. What will be will be. There's not much else you can do. Tell her this too. She needs to relay it to her mother so she can understand too.
2007-11-02 00:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U had dating & all other things which u mentioned is clearly indicating that, she is right in terms of whatever she is expecting from u,,,and moreover now suddenly why r u thinking that what yr parents thinks abt looks of yr life partener?...had u consult yr parents before dating with that poor girl on net ?...i think u hadn't...so why to consider what yr parents thinks abt her look?...man...it was net but...that was not only id ...it's a human with that net id...so i request u to re-cosider yr dec'n and try yo convince yr perents on this issue.,,otherwise it might ruin someone's life.
2007-11-02 01:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't... just tell her that you are not ready to give her that. And when you can go back to India then tell her you will try it out and see where it goes.
2007-11-02 00:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by RaeRay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd break it off,you're right,a person could have all kinds of issues once you meet them in person.
2007-11-02 00:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is and i have "met" a few ladies online and it just did not work out face to face ---- i have yet to meet my lady but i do feel there is a true connection that will survive our meeting --- best wishes
2007-11-02 00:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋