I am tired of paying for other people's kids.?

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Does anyone else feels this way? I am tired of paying for idiotic single "mothers" who did not use birth control and therefore I am having to pay for their mistakes. I am all for shutting down benefits to these brainless bimbos in the form of Medicaid. Does else agree? Whenever I hear someone is a single mother, all I want to is throw up. oh, and I am a woman myself, but am not about tho have babies that I cannot support myself, birth control is definitely cheaper.

I am not talking about women who become single mothers because the husband died, or, whatever. I am talking about those who become pregnant when they cannot even feed themselves and have no steady income, then they have a kid that I help raise with my tax dollars.

Little Ba ,I am not going to pat your back since you didn't my tax dollars to feed your kids in the fomr of welfare since that is what I expect you to do. I never said ALL single mothers in my write-up either, please read b4 what I have written. Again I am against brainless females getting pregnant without a thought in their head and then expecting someone to help them out financially in the form of welfare.

I hired a 19 year old college student this past summer, 2 months later she tells me she is pregnant by a guy she has barely known for more than a month. I asked her didn't they teach you about birth control in high school she said NO, and I then asked her did her parents,...her mother not tell her about birth control and sex, etc. She said she would never even think to ask her Mom about it. Her mother is 39 and also had her when she was 18, never went to college and got married to the father and then divorced.blah ... blah. YOu would think the mother would not want her own kid to go through all that and talk to her befor ehand about getting on birth control. Now, I am you guys who are tax payers will be paying for this kid about to be born in Spring throuh Medicaid! Oh, and this girl has also got a cousin who just had a baby and tax payers are also paying for that one!!! When is someone going to see the light???

Parents need to speak to their kids whiel they ARE kids about sex and birth control. I am not a religious freak by any menas just a REALIST. The REALITY is kids are having kids when they should be getting an education so that we DON'T HAVE to outsource our jobs else where since we are not skilled enough in anything other than having babies on welfare. Americans need to wake up and smell the coffee!!

God, if there is one, helps those who help themselves. All those right wing fundamentalists who think abstinence is the answer are so wrong! In my opinion all High schools students should be on some form of birth control before they graduate so that they can then go to college and actually graduate without getting pregnant and have a full time well paying job in their chosen profession before having babies. If they are able to do this then their student loans should be forgiven as a reward for not bringing in a welfare baby which I think would be more expensive for the tax payer, then paying someone's tuition.

Some great answers out there and some just did not get the point! Thank you to all.

The point is PARENTS MUST teach their kids about SEX and prevention of pregnancy by using birth control because nobody else is going to do it for you including the school system. Living in the fairy tale world of "oh, my kids don't do that or will not!"" is no longer working in the real world where morals have gone by the wayside (no I am not a republican!!).

YOU, THE PARENT MUST GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND and accept the reality that your kid is going to have sex and teach them about the responsibilities that come with having sex. Not talking to your kids is not going to make the problem go away!! Oh and don't forget about the communicable diseases such as herpes, AIDS , etc.

Answer 1

I am tired too of paying for these bimbos. What can we do about it as citizens? Nothing will be done until the country is run into the ground with everyone sitting on their asses waiting for a hand-out to feed their hungry babies, and themselves. All you have to do is go to Walmart on the 1st of any month and you will see all these single mothers on welfare with their welfare checks and food stamps buying shopping carts full of stuff that is definitely not food and definitely not necessities of life.

One time I asked one of these women what they do for a living, and they said "nothing, I have too many kids to look after and anyway the state gives me more money than I can make getting a job"!!!!!

I am not saying ALL single mothers fall under this category, but a majority do! There are genuine cases where one became a single mother and therefore on hard times after the husband died. But even then, poor educational and financial planning is what drives them into poverty.

Like OP said, get an education and a real job before getting pregnant. At least you can fend for yourself if your husband leaves you!

Answer 2

Do you have anything else to ***** about? I was a single mother for many years. MANY MANY YEARS! And I can promise you this I did not depend on the system for a damn thing. I also know that there are ppl out there who will be so highly offended by your statements. How can you say their children are mistakes? Are yours mistakes? And as for shutting down Medicaid to pregnant women who are low income how would they get medical treatment? How would their babies be taken care of? So your all about letting innocent children suffer? I know that my husband and I for a family of 3 pay over 300 a month just for health insurance, not many people out there are able to afford that. Im more concerned about getting drugs off the streets then I am keeping low income pregant women from access to medical care.

I'm all for welfare reform but for you to sit in judgment you have no right at all. You never know when the time will come that you yourself might need assistance. Assistance should be a helping hand not a hand out

What about the families who work 50+ hours a week and still qualify for medicaid? I have a friend who has 3 kids, she works 55 hrs a week at a job paying 16.50 an hour which is good pay for where she's located and she still needed assistance. Get a ******* clue pull your head out of your *** and face reality. Odds are sooner or later WE will be paying for your kids, you'll die a miserble life or someone you know will end up on assistance.

Answer 3

I feel somewhat like that. But I feel like you're getting it all wrong. You see some single mothers DO take care of themselves and their kids. And remember that some families (mom & dad present) are still on the give away programs. And there are a lot of people out there who are on these programs and don't have anyone to support but themselves but they're are druggies and are to lazy to get up and work and get off the drugs. And any job they have had they get fired from because they can't pass a simple urine test. Anyway though. . Just try not to be so one sided about it. There are LOTS of people that aren't single parent's who are on these programs that you and I have to pay for. And don't get me wrong I don't have a problem helping someone that is just down on their luck for a little while but they shouldn't be A) in front of me at the grocery store buying liquor B) be having more kids and C) smoking. I actually did the math on the smoking one. If a smoker does a pack a day they can save almost 2,000 dollars a year if they quite. Just think that is a semester of community college for their kid. Or it's rent or anything else. Good Luck. I understand your frustration.

Answer 4

People like you need to get the pole out of your asses.
You can't judge everyone who is a single mother. Yes, accidents happen, if you haven't yet realised.
I am on welfare right now, because I am doing my uni degree, and raising my child; and have a little bit of a guess -- it's twice the amount a student would get in my country! So basically, I get twice the amount for TWO people, so bascially I'm getting similar to what they're getting.
Seriously, how do you know everybody's situation? It's not like I'm on welfare forever, nor did I plan on my boyfriend abandoning us. So what exactly are you suggesting they do to us, bring in the gas chambers?

Answer 5

So you're ok with the government wasting your tax dollars on stupid things like first class plane tickets for themselves but not ok with helping someone in need? That's pretty messed up. The way I look at it, money doesn't really matter. When you die, you aren't going to need those few dollars every paycheck that went to help the "brainless bimbos". Why don't you just get over yourself, have a heart and start taking an intrest in things that matter.

Answer 6

I agree, but in all fairness I can relate to that 19 yr old girl in the way that my mom got pregnant (with my only sibling, a half-sister) when she was 19 and married BUT she never talked to me about sex or birth control or anything, I wasn't even expected to THINK about it. I ended up having sex when I was 15 (ALWAYS with protection) , my school didn't have sex ed either, not getting pregnant and I'm 19 now. I think it is the parents responsiblity but SOME parents just want to live in denial and think their kids aren't going to grow up and have sex just like they did. Someday, when I do have kids I will def. teach them about BC etc..

Answer 7

i guess you didnt know this, but women on welfare HAVE to work or go to school and they can only recieve welfare for 5 years. it's not called medicaid, it's medi-cal and welfare. my mom raised me on welfare, before they put restrictions on it because my mom has schizophrenia and she COULDNT work. she was extremely ill. i understand that it can be frustrating because many women do abuse the system, but i think if the system was better organized and actually checked in on these mothers then it wouldnt be as bad.



oh and by the way, the government doesnt even give them enough money to pay the rent so most of them do have jobs. food stamps can ONLY be spent on food. my mom recieved about 250 a month for each child. added up, it doesnt even begin to cover rent, bills, clothes or anything. we lived off thrift stores. most women on welfare recieve 500-600 a month. that's below the poverty line.

Answer 8

some people are single mothers not by choice. My son's father walked out on us and never came back so I was a single mother. Another woman I know, her husband died in a car accident, therefore leaving her to be a single mother. You can't group all single mothers into one category. Don't be so hateful. Edit-I just wanted to add that I worked and went to college while I was pregnant, but the place I worked for (a hospital no less) didn't offer me benefits since I was not full time staff (although I worked 40-50 hrs. a week). When I was pregnant I was on Medicaid and I don't feel a damn bit sorry for it. I worked and went to school, I just needed help with my medical expenses. I took WIC too when my son was born, so I could help buy his food-what a bad mommy I must have been!

Answer 9

BS. I am a single mother. I was married 8 years to a man, we decided to have a baby (he was main provider) and then he left me one day for another woman. Should I then be homeless with a young child? I do what I can for us to survive, but it is not enough for my son to get care any where. So should he go without a dr? Point is, a lot of single mothers are single because their marriages broke up and their ex-husbands left the picture and won't pay support when ordered. I have epilepsy and am not allowed to drive or work anymore, so I have to take the help. How this makes me a bad person in your eyes is beyond me, and I really don't care. Don't be so small minded. You never know when you may need help one day.

Answer 10

Why don't you rephrase your question to be a little bit more specific about which single mothers you are talking about.

The single mum that was abused by her 'loving' husband and had to leave him or die?

Or the single mum that was raped and doesn't believe in abortion?

or is it the single mum who just ended a marriage that wasn't working?

Or maybe even the single mum who's husband died, maybe fighting in Iraq??

hmmm I am sure if a proper survey was done in % amounts actual women who went out and fell pregnant just to get on welfare would be the lowest amount.