extremely worried?

Question

I'm 14, i have this probelm. My parents are strugling with money, and it really makes me nevrous, worried and depressed. I love the house I live in because ots the house I have grown up in, and I am afriad we will have to move. What should I do? Does this happen with allot of famileys?

I am not old enough were I live to get a job, and I have told my mom I'm worried and she says its fine but I don;t know if thats true

Answer 1

I agree with the others, home is where the heart is. Let your family know you want to help. You can get a babysitting job and that would help. You probably won't even realize how much that act would mean to your family. You are a really great kid for even wanting to help.

Answer 2

Well, besides emotionally supporting your parents through this, I think the only way you can help is by getting a job (though it is hard for a 14 year old). Then you can buy clothes you want, and other things with your own money, instead of your parents' money, and that might help, even a little. Also, if you make enough money, you could even give some to your parents, and help that way too! Using coupons at the grocery store, buying things on sale, or cutting down on some things, like hot water (shorter showers, etc.) or electricity (turning lights on only when you need them, and turning them off when you don't, shutting your computer down instead of keeping it on standby, etc.) can help cut costs as well. Every little bit counts. Maybe you could help your parents around the house as well, such as doing a portion, or all of the cleaning, then they won't have to worry about it, and you'll feel better because you helped. Yes, many, many people go through this all over the country, my family included. I recommend talking about this to your parents, or other trusted friends or adults. Your not alone.

Answer 3

You're not alone in this. It's hard to have to deal with these problems especially when you're young. Your parents are probably doing the best they can to cope and not let you see the stress they're under. I agree with the other posters that your house is just that...it's a house, a place to lay your head down. What really has helped me in life when I'm afraid or anxious and worried is to take some control over the situation - sit down with your parents and come up with a plan on how money could be saved like maybe cutting back on the cable bill or turning lights off in the house, cutting back on eating out or maybe shopping for groceries at walmart instead of the local grocery store. If you are proactive and take control of the situation you'll find you aren't as scared and anxious and your parents will be really proud of you! Trust me it works!

Answer 4

Sweetie, I know you are worried. My family is going through a similar situation. due to a lot of medical bills and one parent not being able to work, we are loosing the home we have had for twenty years.

Trust your parents. They will do the best for you that they can.

I know if you loose your home you will feel displaced. I feel that way right now and I am 52 years old.

I have a 17 year old daughter who is loosing the only home she has ever known.

The most important thing in a situation like this is keeping your family together. A family can make any house feel like home if they try.

Remember the old saying "Home is where the heart is."

I don't want to move either, but I only have 30 days to get out of this house because it is being foreclosed on and so far I haven't been able to find a rental house I can afford.

Your parents will take care of you. Just be as supportive as you can and try to accept whatever happens.

As long as you can stay with your family you will be fine.

I know you don't want to move, but if it comes to that, try to support your parents as much as you can and let them know that you understand that sometimes change is necessary.

Good luck sweetie

Answer 5

You should not worry about this because the finances are their responsibility. It is possible that you may live there another ten years, so do not imagine what can happen. I'm sure this happens to many families and their children learn to be okay. It's okay to be attached to the memories in a house you grew up in. Those memories cannot be taken away from you simply because the house is gone. Remember that you will be an adult one day and perhaps live in a dorm for college, your first apartment, and your first house with a spouse where you will make many new memories. Life is about change and change brings us to the very next memory that is better than the last.

Answer 6

Lots of families have this problem!
It takes a lot to get to the stage of moving! All other options would be explored before that!
You are probably worried about nothing, but to put your mind at rest, talk to your parents about your worries. Make suggestions on how you could help, such as get a job that fits in with school, ie, a paper round?
You could tell them you don;t want any pocket money, treats, etc, until the problems are over!
I'm sure they'll be really pleased that you are showing such maturity, and upset that you've been worrying about this for so long without telling them about how you felt!
I hope this helps!

Answer 7

I don't know about a lot of families but it happened to us a few times... Well some wasn't all money problems. Just remember that if you do have to move that your parents are doing the best they can. I know that sometimes it is hard because you like what you are used to... When i was a softmore in HS my mom and her husband split up. We moved to a 2 bedroom apt. My brother got a room to himself and my mom and i shared a room. Although at first it seems like it is an inconveniece to do what you need to, when you are a little older you will learn to appreciate times like these. Your parents know that this is a struggle for you. Try to remember it is for them as well so you cannot blame them. Sometimes things happen that we can't control and we just have to learn to be happy with what we are given. If you do have to move, try to decorate your room, make it cozy and inviting for you. This will help you to adjust. I hope that your parents get their money situations taken care of. The best advice i can give to you is that all things happen for a reason. In a few years you will probably be greatful that this is happening. It doesn't feel like it now though. Good luck to you and try to be helpful and supportive to your parents. I am sure that they don't want to move any more than you do!!

Answer 8

I grew up with little money and my parents actually separated when I was young due to money problems. I thought my life was over and that everyone would look down on me for being POOR. But as I have grown up and look back at my life that was the beginning of who I am today. You have got to take life one day at a time and always remember that tomorrow is another day. Every cloud does have a silver lining it just takes a while to find it sometimes. Hang in there sweety an deverything will be alright.

Answer 9

Having things is nice, but even if you lose it ALL you still have your family and thats enough to be thankful for. I know how you feel because when I was 9 we lost EVERYTHING and I thought the world was coming to an end, and it was hard.. But I learned to appreciate the small things in life more and my family. I hope it doesn't come to that for you. But no matter what you'll be ok, and as far as a job how about baby sitting?? Good Luck...

Answer 10

I had to move out of state when I was 15 and then we went through a time where my dad got sick and we lost our house and everything. So I know how scary this feels for you. People might tell you not to worry about it, that your parents will take care of things and everything will be fine. It's okay to worry, it's natural. Just don't be too afraid, sometimes (even as adults) we don't realize that the scary things are often the things that help us grow. If you believe in God, ask Him for peace. It helps! Contact me if you want to talk to someone who has been there.