My daughter is dating a guy who is not of the same religion as we are and he is a nice guy but I guess no one will ever be good enough for me. how do I let my daughter go while still protecting her from herself and her lovesick heart?
2007-11-01 16:34:16 · 14 answers · asked by thedadof7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Allow your daughter to make her own decisions, but spend some time having honest conversations - there should be nothing to hide, and then if she ends up hurt she will feel like she can talk to you about it without judgment.
2007-11-01 16:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents tried to protect me from everything. I found it oppressive. Finally when I graduated high school, I packed my bags and moved 200 miles away to attend school and learn how to live my own life. I spent 5 years away from home and had the best time of my life. Sure I made mistakes but I learned from them. I had broken hearts but they healed and I became stronger and had a greater sense of respect for myself. Every battle scar shaped me into who I am today so I've learned to not regret my past mistakes. Here I am at 29. I live on my own, have a great career and I know that if anything happens I am strong enough to see through it. Why? Because my parents let go and let me live my life as I saw fit and were there to lend support when I doubted myself.
Growing up means making mistakes. You can't protect your daughter from everything but you can be there when she needs you.
2007-11-01 23:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was lucky and didn't have to raise any girls, and for that you have my deepest sympathies.
If it was my daughter I would be worried about other things besides religion.
Your religion is yours and may not be your daughters. Using that as guide will confuse her and hurt you in the long run.
Just make sure you have instilled your values in her, and pray that she listened to you while growing up. By the age of 17 if you didn't do that, it is to late now.
Best of luck!
2007-11-01 23:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lloyd H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm only 14 so I don't know, but my mom always tell me,
'you have to start letting go from the minute their born. no matter what, you want to put it off, but you can't. you have to start letting go, bit by bit, immediately'
get her some mace or something,
thats what my dad did to my sister to make himself feel better,
or she could have a pocketknife.
And get her a cellphone.
Even if the plan is like dead or whatever,
most phones let you call 911.
2007-11-01 23:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by cambrexia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hope for the best. Be open-minded. Just because he isn't the same religion, doesn't mean he isn't good enough for your daughter. Maybe you'll feel more comfortable if you got to know him also. Gluck.
2007-11-01 23:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by juleyana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remember how badly you had your heart broken? Well, everybody has to go through that to find true love. You're doing her a favour by letting her make her own choices, make her own mistakes. If you've raised her well, she will make you proud. Have faith!!
2007-11-01 23:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by jenabel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You just have to go with the flow. She is almost an adult, having to make her own decisions. If you feel you raised her to be a smart, confident woman, you have nothing to worry about.
You will always be her dad.
2007-11-01 23:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Introduce her to a World Class Player and
all of her troubles will be over!
2007-11-01 23:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by WorldClassPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im not old enough to answer ur question but im 17 what religion are u? j/k ur probable a million miles away lol
2007-11-01 23:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to trust that you have bought her up right and that she knows right from wrong. stand by her and give her confidence along the way and guidance and be there if it falls apart but don't interfere to much as you can risk pushing her away and then you will have no involvement in her life
2007-11-01 23:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by mezzina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋