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Is it worth the time and energy (and money)?

2007-11-01 16:21:54 · 30 answers · asked by Zoupana 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I can be complicated and fustrating at times. But for me and my bf we think its worth everything. We have been together for 4 years now and have see eachother for about 1 year if you combine the weeks. Money is always an issue so we put money aside so that when one of us has the time to visit we can combine the money and use it. We spend a lot of time together by phone, webcam, instant message, letters, etc. A LDR is hard but we wouldn't have it any other way (except being together in person that is). As long as both people are willing to make it work and can communicate, be trusting and be honest with eachother then they have a chance.

2007-11-01 16:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0 0

Messa, It sounds like you have someone in mind.

I don't know that it would be anymore complicated than have someone close.

For me, it's more about you and what you are willing to accept.

In a healthy and caring relationship distance might only be an issue because of accessibility.

How far are you willing to go with the relationship before you say "it's time! one of us needs to move!"

Time and finance could at times be challenging especially during those weeks when everything seems to be working against you. The time that you would probably really want some company.

Can you trust a long distance relationship? or Would you want to constantly know what your partner was doing and who with?

So, let's boil it down:

1. Can you emotionally handle the distance?
2. Can you financially handle the distance?
3. Can you handle the time commitment?
4. Can you trust yourself and your partner?
5. Will there be a point that you will say "time to move closer?"
6. Have you really discussed this with your partner?
7. Will you enjoy your time apart or become a phone maniac...smile?

Probably most important of all "do the two of you communicate openly and honestly?" If not, let it go!

Good luck,

James

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

2007-11-01 23:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by WealthyHeart 1 · 0 0

Hi considering long distance love,

Long distance love can be great chance to get know a person but it takes two honest people. You have to first make sure you are both on the same page. Ask yourself this

Are you both in love with one another
Have you discussed what your relationship will consist of (monogamy, frequency of visits, who will visit who, who will call who)

After answering those questions determine if one person is doing more work then the other. A long distance relationship should be as equal as possible so one person does not feel that they are working harder then the other.

Long distance relationships can work they just require commitment and open communication from both parties.

2007-11-01 23:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by diversifiedlifestyle 1 · 0 0

Not at all. My BF is at NJ and Im at Hawaii. I find long distance very convenient because (for me at least) I value independence and be more of that "get-up-and-go" attitude. And it is worth the time every time because when you meet up, its magical and enthused and just energized to see each other. I have no problems with it and so does he. Infedelity you might wonder? Well, if you are both adults and have high regard in trust, morals, and ethics; those things seem very childish and worthless. I mean, there are alot going on in life (bigger things) that needs to be accomplished rather than playing games and fooling around. I dont know, thats what my take on long distance.

2007-11-01 23:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by SunnyO.N. 2 · 0 0

I have found that with long-distance relationships comes temptation. The less you see eachother, the lonelier you get. You will want someone to love!!!But If you are willing to work very hard for it, the loneliness will only make the times that you are together, better. Although long distance relationships work out for many people, if you get easily led astray, long-distance probably isn't for you.

2007-11-01 23:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy Skippy W 2 · 0 0

No - very easy - there are no true feelings. Not worth the time, if your spending money - your being taken, energy?!?!? whats a few keystrokes? But look, here's the thing... It's not going to work out. Your best bet is to call it as I see it... friends.

2007-11-01 23:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Joey5687 1 · 0 1

No its not worth it. Okay I can't say that. I can say that it wasn't worth it for me (and it was only 25 miles). I want to be in the presence of the woman I am with. I want to know that I could leave work and surprise her for a nice getaway. Just being able to talk on the phone, and see each other sporadically doesn't do it for me.

2007-11-01 23:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

unless there is an end in sight, then no it is not worth it. if you are just separated for a short time then you might be able to make the sacrifice, but a strong relationship is based somewhat on attraction, and its hard to stay attracted to a person who is s far away.

2007-11-01 23:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D 2 · 0 0

From personal experience....no.....i tried it...and i got my heart broken.....it was a big waste of time and effort (i don't care about the money)....but from other peoples experience ( my cousin) shes getting married to a man she met online and had a long distance (canada and india-long distance).....so use your own discretion....don't set yourself up to get hurt.

2007-11-01 23:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. You are better off to focus on someone who is nearby & you can see each other on a regular basis.

2007-11-01 23:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0 0

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