6 years.bad last 2 months due to acombinationof things. anyways we brokeup.she kinda said she dosent have thesame feelings after I constantly tried 2 get back with her by texting, email...ect. before that she said we just needed time and she loves me, has nothing 2 due with other guys, just needed some time 4herself due to stress, work, college. AnywaysI think the more I tried to get back, the more I pushed her away.I know some other guy might be trying to get on her, but whatever we are apart right now,and I know it wouldnt mean anything.i have been gold to her and am always there for her.I recently send her a letter telling her that ((I am here for her, we prob need some time apart after 6 years, and I will be here.I told her I was an idiot for bugging her)) When I did bug her i tried to blame everthg on myself which ishouldnt of because i am a nice guy.How much time should i give her before i contact her.week, weeks? and should i do anyth in the mean time 2 show her i love her? or ?
2007-11-01 16:19:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I have been with her for 6 years, 1 month breakup. I dideverything 4her. even though shehas done me wrong, I love her enough to show her I wouldnt just run away and forget about her, and I wouldnt have any hard feelings if it worked out.I just dont know why she's doing this.everything was ok.even if she didnt like some things, I told her I would be willing to work things out.I keep getting mixed things from her.Like she says she dosent feel the same, then she says she dosent want to hurt me and to give her time.even though this hurts me I dont want to be a typical person and move on. when things were good we had soo much. it seems like I just bugged her2much to work things out and it must of scared her or somthing. I know things had to get worse before they got better.Isend her a note on tuesday.shes the shy type and she might think I think she was seeing another guy, even though i told her I dont beleive it (even if it was true)
2007-11-01 16:34:50 · update #1
WHAT DO I DO? GIVE HER A COUPLE WEEKS? WAIT A MONTH? DO WHAT IN THE MEAN TIME? IGNORE HER? GO OUT W ANOTHER GIRL? I AM CLUELESS I NEVER EXPECT THIS AND AM REAL LOST. HELP
2007-11-01 16:35:51 · update #2
You have contacted her enough, and shown her what you want...if she doesn't respond, it is her loss and you should move on. I would not initiate contact with her anymore (as painful as that may be)...if she doesn't try to contact you, leave it be and move on...YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!
2007-11-01 16:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a wonderful guy. And I'm not sure why after 6 years she would need the time away NOW. Because honestly I think 6 years is pretty long. Anyways, you're a nice guy and you're right that you shouldn't be blaming anything on yourself because all your trying to do is keep her. Just let her have some time to herself, she'll come to you. Of course it's going to be hard for you, but just try it...FOR HER. :) Hope it all works out!
2007-11-01 23:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by juleyana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner did a similar thing after we had been together after 5 years. He moved out, told me he still loved me, told me there was no one else, told me he needed some time to himself. Etc.
It lasted that way for 7 months. It was torture. Eventually I had enough. Still loved him with all my heart but started looking after no. 1 aka me. Started spending more time with my friends, taking up new sports, went out and had fun. I didn't meet anyone or start anything new, but I was looking after me and happy.
Surprisingly, three weeks later he came back and told me that he had woken up to himself and wanted a second chance. I made him work for it, but it's ten years later and he is the most caring, unselfish and loving husband a woman could ever want. I think that it all boiled down to a mid-20's crisis.
I'm extremely happy, but I went through hell for 7 months. Most women would have probably kicked his a@@ to the kerb.
I guess the rather long-winded point I am trying to make is that I know how you feel. Its going to be a painful process. She may come back in time, she may move on and not come back, but you can't do anything to help her make her decision. I certainly couldn't with my partner at the time.
Look after yourself, get out and keep yourself busy and try new things and be happy.
2007-11-01 23:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Moneta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand what happened. How long has the break been lasting...6 years? Or were you dating for 6 years and are on a 2 month break? If I were you, I'd just wait for her to get in touch with you again.
2007-11-01 23:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Purple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, i need a time off from my boyfriend too..
Negotiate wif her.. Make this a regular thing.. Set aside a day or two every week to be spent solely for yourselves without your other halves.. I call it me time..
If you are able to fit this in, you might be to avoid sudden desire to be alone and for a long time too..
2007-11-01 23:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by (C)T Heartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a great guy... don't worry too much. let her be the one to contact you though. just wait. it will be hard, but its what she wants.
2007-11-01 23:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by K-jO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋