i have a fiancee that already married to 3woman(all muslims) but i really love him despite of his situation and im a christian.We have a long distance relationship since 1month ago but we still have an active communication and he's supporting in all matters, in everything.We love each other and we planned to get marry after i finish my studies.Everythings run smoothely but i dont know what will happen after the wedding and the situation that i have to lived in one villa along with his 3 other wife.
2007-11-01 15:59:41 · 9 answers · asked by feris h. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is acceptable and normal for them to marry 4 times. with regards to feelings, i guess there is but you can't expect him to have fair and equal feelings for you and the rest of the wives. I saw this feature once on tv regarding this. He had all of his 4 wives stay in one house, each wife was given a designated floor, (the house was 4 stories high). But jealousy and complications get in the way especially when the husband is away. Partiality is always given to the first wife. He even had his wives pregnant at the same time. It's a bit weird and off but I guess if those women really love the guy then that's their decision.
You better think hard if you want to get in the same situation. If you can live with the idea of sharing your man to others, and not have him at your side 24/7 then I guess you can go ahead with it.
But please, if it means anything to you, love yourself first and think a hundred times before doing it.
2007-11-01 16:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by shange 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man! They are never satisfied with one....and this guy has three...I would suggest you to think once again.. Yes they do have such thing in their religion and there is more to it. You should be well aware of the religion as well.. In certain things love is not the only one thing. Imagine you staying with his other rest wives, how fair enough he will be. After he gets satisfied with you then he would hunt for some more that time??? Think practically and logically my dear...Coz now you can do something after marriage your way would be narrowed down coz thats what their religion speaks...No woman rights.
2007-11-01 19:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by JB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you living in America? It's not the norm, nor legal here. Well, my uncle is a muslim and he married 2 other women in the mosque and my aunt is the only legal one. He has done nothing but hurt the kids by doing this because they retaliate in other ways by being murderers, troublemakers, their marriages don't survive. I wouldn't deal with it, love him or not. There is someone out there that you can be with solo. Especialy with AIDS going around, so is he going to use condoms with all of you??
2007-11-01 18:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by SoSickWitIt! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really prepared to live in a place where women live as 2nd class citizen? You'd better start reading up on the culture that you'd be moving to because it's not usually easy for an American woman to handle. Also remember it's easy to be supportive on line when you're looking for a 4th wive but once you marry him you'll be expected to do exactly what he says, when he says it.
2007-11-01 16:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a muslim. yes we can marry up to 4x times as long we can financially support them all. remember that both of you need to ask permission from the previous wives. Thats the hard part ecause you will need three YES responses.
2007-11-01 21:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ryaski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, most muslim men are not in polygamous relationships, but it is allowed by their religion. (In fact, it's allowed by the Bible as well, but that's another story.) If this is even a real question, why don't you talk to him about his expectations of your marriage and how you will fit in with the other wives.
2007-11-01 16:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
muslim men are allowed to marry more than once if the woman they are marrying is poor, or dependent on a man and he MUST treat them all equally.
if your christian and he hasn't asked you to convert or if he's engaging in sexual activity with you i'd be very very cautious as you may be another notch,
2007-11-01 22:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a fool, and a cheap christian, and headed down a dangerous road. Plan on converting to a Muslim, because it his duty to convert you, or you could live a short life.
2007-11-01 16:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by tom 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Well you sure are brave, i couldn't stand being one of 4 wives!!!
2007-11-01 16:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Summer 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋