My boyfriend and I were together for two years. He is an amazing guy with an amazing personality. I fell in love with him fast and grew a serious attachmet to him because we almost had a baby together. Half way through our relationship, I started to get suspicious and felt that I had to snoop through his text messages and emails. I found things that could have meant anything, but not to get too suspicious over. I eventually confronted him and he said he was not doing anything because he loved me; I believed him. Things were well for a while, but then I started getting weird feelings again. So then I did even more hard core investigating and found out that the whole time I thought things were perfect between us, he was taking different people out here and there; probably slept with a couple of them too. I feel so betrayed and hurt because I genuily love him and gave my all to him and he made me feel like I was the only person in the world that mattered, but it feels like the whole 2
2007-11-01 15:39:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
years was meant nothing. I feel like he just took me for a ride and told me what I wanted just to keep me and I fell for it and fell in love with him. Now I can't get over him because I love him sooooo much. How do I deal with this????????? It hurts so much.
2007-11-01 15:41:45 · update #1
This is always the hardest situation for any girl...honestly, its probably going to hurt for a long time, but you will get over it. I have dealt with this many times and every time I have been so crushed and was just sure I was never going to move on, but just keep telling yourself that although the nights and days seem long and impossible now that one day you will be ok and you will get over him. You know that he is a jerk, but the hardest thing is to get your brain and your heart on the same page. I have also dealt with that too, knowing someone is an *** but not being able to get over them. When something like this happens its hard to get the confidence and strength to move on from it, but without even knowing you, I know that you can in time, because you will one day find someone else and one day realize how stupid this guy was and you will be upset with yourself for caring so much...
as for him, he should really be ashamed of himself. its always the same story, the girl is hopelessly in love and would do anything and the guy is a complete jerk, doesnt care, and treats the girl like crap. However, there are some guys out there who are not like that, a lot in fact, and I suggest that you try to take some time to get over it, dont force it just take your time and it'll come naturally, but in the mean time try as hard as you can to hang out with friends even if you dont necessarily want to because that way you will get back into the swing of things w/o him and possibly find someone a whole lot better in the process...
good luck
2007-11-01 15:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say that ignorance is bliss. If you hadn't been snooping around, you wouldn't have discovered the things that upset you. Apparently, he is not trustworthy, and you shouldn't have been playing detective. What does this tell me? You two are not meant for each other. Move on! Find someone you can trust. But if you're the suspicious type by nature, you may not be able to trust anyone, and will only succeed in driving people further away. If you call the name, they will play the game. Let me put it this way. How would you like it if your boyfriend was delving into your private life -- if he were tracking all your whereabouts and reading your messages to others? Whether it was innocent or not, you wouldn't like the fact that he was stalking you, which is what you were doing to him. You have come to the conclusion that your relationship was completely dishonest, without giving him a chance to explain. Maybe he hated the fact that you were snooping, and dated other people in retaliation. At least hear him out and listen to his side of the story.
2007-11-01 22:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's going to hurt for awhile but thank God you didn't get pregnant!!!
He's obviously not what you thought. An amazing guy with an amazing personality doesn't cheat on his girlfriend. You need to take this time and build your confidence up. He was a great learning experience for you. Don't be so needy the next time you enter a relationship...it may have turned him off...just speaking from my own experience here...
It's going to hurt---that's no lie. Just let yourself feel the emotions and try to move on. The right man is out there for you.
2007-11-01 22:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by itsallgood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a self centered lying idiot. He will not change. You are a good person and gave him the best you had and he threw it away because it didn't matter to him. Love doesn't act the way he's acted. That's narcissism. Look that word up and I think you might find a picture of this guy you're talking about. You deserve better.
2007-11-01 22:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry you had to go through that but you should leave him, and go have fun with yourself and your friends, unless you want to give him another chance to come clean abd be with just you but if you pick either be really really commmitted to it
2007-11-01 22:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you have to experience that. But Talk to your bf, he might change.
2007-11-02 08:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by ugaric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date me ^_^
FTW!!!!
2007-11-01 22:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by spiralls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋