Why are women so turned off to me because I am...?

Question

...a 28 year old, single male living at home. Women seem turned off by this when this fact per se is irrelevant. I have no need to move away from home. I love living with my family, it's close to work and it keeps me financially well off. I can save money if I decide to move one day, yet at the same time I can spend money on fun things that most people can't afford because they moved out prematurely. I therefore have no need whatsoever to move out, and neither do my other adult siblings. My parents are the biggest supporters of this decision. While most parents kick their kids out then regret it it due to their feeling alone and guilty, my parents can enjoy having the family together. After all, why have such a big house when none of your kids live there anymore? I get so much crap from friends, extended family and coworkers about my family's living arrangements. I also get crap from the aforementioned people because I never date.

And no, I don't pay any rent as my parents certainly don't need it. They tell me I'll have the rest of my life to pay rent or mortgages in the future. Also, what is the obsession with "taking girls home"? I don't date and even if I did, why couldn't I bring her home? If you mean for sex that's a big no no. I don't believe in having sex before marriage and I really don't ever plan on marrying or dating again. I went on two dates in my life and I felt it wasn't for me. So bringing girls home for sex is a non-issue. People are so silly. Why is everyone so jealous? It's obvioulsy jealousy as that explains 99% of all nasty comments one receives about anything in life.

Answer 1

I can't answer for all women. But from your statement I see you as a loser, arrogant, childish, insulting and a braggart. I also see you as being one of those creepy guys that we read about in the paper as living in his parent's basement and collecting snakes and body parts and probably a homo taking little boys and teenage boys that are homeless.

You don't happen to live in the hills of KIN TUCKY do you, with ma boy, pa boy, john boy, uncle daddy and aunt granny?

Answer 2

well for one it is not there business. and two: Do what makes you happy if they are ragging you then they are probably wanting a place to hang out, so if you get one they think they will go there, or maybe there jealous because you have more money than them. I have a close family that I love very dearly and I see nothing wrong with it. I am married and I don't live with my parents, but if I wanted to or needed to it would be no biggie. When the right girl comes along you will want to move out and be with her, but until that don't worry about it. If she really likes you then your living arrangements want be a big deal to her. good luck and GOD BLESS

Answer 3

I think it's cool. I'm 26 still living at home and my ex fiance, at 29, actually does the same thing you are. The only problem I had with it during the time we were dating is that he did end up putting his family ahead of me while I was going through a family crisis and needed his support. I guess he chose who was more important to him. So because of that, I might be reluctant to date anyone who is still living at home in his late 20's unless he shows me I am first in his life, which is something I waited for my ex to do for 5 months. I never pushed his family away, in fact, I was there for his family more than I was for my own during that time-mostly because they were going through a lot. He was married twice before... and now I honestly feel, and even he expressed to me that marriage is not for him. It's just not for everyone, and nobody should judge you for that. I think it's good for families to stick close together. The breakdown of families is pretty much one of the biggest issues in America right now. You do your thing and choose who you want as important in your life.

oh and by the way, I've only dated that one man, and I am still a virgin who holds high standards of morality. So, all the more power to us people with self-respect!

Answer 4

wow must be nice!! Yeah I dont think that I would want to go home with you either. It is a privacy thing too. Really think about it if you took an awesome girl home and was getting into some stuff and things got "loud" do you really think that she would want to know that your whole family know how you are in the sack. Among other reasons,you may be well off but sounds to me like you are being cheap. Sounds to me if you can afford a place of your own then move out and cut the cord already. You sound nice but would be nicer with out living at home!!

Answer 5

Funny I know somebody just like you but he is in the closet and is scared to ever come out. As far as the jealousy you are right. You have it pretty darn good and it frustrates people. However people usually will look at you like a free loader and will tend to avoid you because they feel you are irresponsible in not assuming full responsibility of your situation. Ironically they don't realize that you are completely in control and smart because if they had the opportunity to do it they would. I congratulate you on the celibacy. I married my husband when he was 28 years old and he was a virgin although I being 7 years older definitely wasn't. I respect my husband for his beliefs in chosing celibacy all his life and commend you for it as well. It's pretty unbelievable in this day and age but it is still possible as I married one and know this to be true.

Answer 6

If dating is no longer an issue for you...then why do you worry that women are turned off from you b/c you live at home?

One of the bigest things women look for in a serious relationship is will they be taken care of....if you are still living with your parents, then you haven't had the "full" experience of being on your own and comming into adulthood. So it's a turn off

Answer 7

" I really don't ever plan on marrying or dating again"-maybe it has very little to do with where u live (hey luv it makes u happy go with it my pholiphy live and let live) but if u send of the vibe that u dont want a reltionship girls arnt going to jump out at u we need a little incorgent and may be ur not giving it. or maybe the girls miss inturpet u living at home as showing that u cant sopurt ur self(wich im not saying it does luv i dont no u well enuf to make a call like that) and if u cant suport ur self how will u sopurt them? but hey, if there not comfie with u and ur choices then it wasnt ment to be.

Answer 8

Have to say one thing.When you do decide to move you should have enough money saved to do whatever you want.Nothing wrong living at home as long as you and your folks don't mind.Most females don't think you are ready for a relationship with you living at home.Guess they figure you can't afford to and want a guy who has his own place as they feel more secure if he did.Females don't want to go to your folks house as they feel like your folks are watching at all times.They want to be alone with you.But if you are happy the way things are then mabe you will meet someone who doesn't mind the way you like to live.There is always somebody for someone

Answer 9

If you don't plan on ever marrying or dating, what does it matter if women are turned off by your living situation? If this extended adolescences pleases you, why do you care what others think? This is an awfully long explanation for some one who is happy the way their life is and doesn't intend to change.

Answer 10

People are strange in that they think once you are past a certain age you should be out on your own living your life.

There aren't many guys still at home with mommy and daddy.

I've heard that men who do still live at home at a later age tend to be shy around girls, have low self-esteem issues