I have a 10 year old daughter and two sons 14,13. Now you would think I would be having trouble with the 14 and 13 well thats not the case. My daughter is throughing fits like she is 2 years old,If I tell her to do something or everything is not going her way it is true hell in my house. All the kids lived with there dad for 3 years and now they are living with me. I spent most of the summer fighting for costudy,I spent alot of time and money. This is what they want as well as myself. I know there is alot to adjudt to but the recation I have been getting out of her is a nightmare. Now the sad thing is that her brothers think that I let her get away with the fits and I dont,So if they dont get there way they say I will just act like Hailey. This is all turning the house upside down. I find myself cring alot and just dont know what to do .
2007-11-01 14:29:34 · 9 answers · asked by kathy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not that easy if you have kids and I havent been out of there lives for three years. I was still there,just not living with them. I have found out that she acked this way at her dads house her would spank her and what she was to do in the frist place never got done.
So for I have stuck to what I say and when I tell her to do something even if she throws a fit she still has to listen to me and do what she has been told to do in the frist place.I have sat her down and talked to her she says im sorry and than it could be an hour or three days it is right back to the same way.I just feel like the kids are running me and I want this to stop before it gets to far gone. I have her set up to go to a counslor this coming week. so now what
2007-11-01 14:56:37 · update #1
I took them away from there father first cause they wanted to live with me and second caause of the things that was going on in the house. Im 33 and have seen half of what they have
2007-11-01 14:58:52 · update #2
that was that I havent seen half of what these kids have seen. They would cry when they had to go home and when they told me what was all going on I got them back. I know this is all part of it but if I giving them a better life why would they act out like this
2007-11-01 15:02:45 · update #3
Sounds like female competition. My daughter and granddaughter are like that. It's been hell. She turns 18 this month and is moving out. She has made her own road and nothing we or anyone else has said has changed her mind. I believe not being in a 2 parent family has caused most of the problems.
2007-11-09 12:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Old Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might have been used to getting her own way when she lived with her father and that's the reason she's acting the way she does. You need to sit her down and have a mother to daughter talk with her. Tell her you love her, but you will not put up with her bad behavior any longer. Don't threaten her, just tell her what your expectations are and ask her to tell you if she thinks they're unfair and why. She needs to understand now that there are rules we live by, and she needs to start learning that now and not waiting until she's in her teenage years and gets in serious trouble.
2007-11-01 21:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 65 yrs I raised 5 bys Can I give my advice First I agree with sons She is getting away with way to much When she acting out withdraw some priviledge The big secret when raising kids is to be firm But I wandering why you took away the 3 children from their father /And are yousure your dauther was ready to be pull away from her father And yes all of you need counseling
2007-11-01 21:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by lala 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is what my gf did with her darling. She took everything out of the bedroom but the mattress on the floor. Went to Goodwill and got some clothes. Took away cell phone, tv, music etc. Her darling had to earn her things back by good behavior and showing respect. It worked to her.
2007-11-01 22:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try discipline and growing a backbone ......it really works you may not believe in hitting your children but you can hit them without it being abuse ....try putting her on punishment and letting her know your in charge when she throws the fits you throw a fit too to let her know that you can get a attitude too and it will be 5 times worse than hers....if you don't take control of her know it will hurt you and her in the long run....as she gets older it will get worst and she will grow up to be a bum
as for your sons when they see you taking charge of your daughter they will see that you are not a joke and they will respect you also....
i know this will work so try it.....
2007-11-01 21:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good therapist who specializes in children. She needs to go so she can learn how to better deal with anger and how to stop her triggers before they set her off.
I am sure all of you could do with some therapy to make the adjustment easier on all of you.
2007-11-01 21:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by desiree c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your daughter to counseling it seems that even though she is 10 there is something going on that she cant handle and she acts out on it inappropriately. maybe do something special with her and talk to her find out why she acts likes this. maybe because you havent been there for 3 years she doesnt know how to act around you. give her mommy daughter time.
2007-11-01 21:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a family counselor to talk to you and your family and see what exactly is going on, and see if they can help
2007-11-01 21:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by kelmarie1985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woop her ***...
im not saying beat her...
but you need to show her that you arent going to allow that kind of behavior..
you dont need to cry about it she ten not 2 she should act her age...
2007-11-01 21:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by voney w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋