(It seems that none of us can escape getting a broken heart at one time or another. So, I was thinking if we could get together and share what we have done or are doing we might help each other escape or alleviate some of that pain or confusion.)
2007-11-01 14:15:41 · 34 answers · asked by D Uncle 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Uncle Wayne,
I think some broken hearts can't be healed. I have tried everything and anything that comes along to try to get rid of this broken heart and it hasn't worked at all. It has been a lot of years too.
Frodo (Elijah Wood) says something at the end of "Return of the King" that I think is very profound:
"How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart, you begin to understand that there is no going back. There are some things that time can not mend. Some hurts that go too deep, that have taken hold."
For people who have experience that type of heart break, it becomes clear that the human psyche can only take so much trauma and that each person indeed has a breaking point, that when reached, can never be fix. Some people call it PTSD others call it "losing hope", but I think of it as a sort of waiting process. Waiting for my natural life span to finish so that I will finally have some peace from this heart wrenching pain that hasn't faded a tiny bit, not even after a decade.
I hope the heart break you have experienced is not that type, but if it is, then I'm sure you would know it. I hope you find some relief for your pain.
Blessings,
Vitamin
2007-11-02 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tea 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Press into those who love us unconditionally...
1) God... through various sources: prayer, worship, education (the bible), meditation.
2) Family... visit often... those dead as well as alive
3) Friends... godly ones are preferred but any true friend can be therapeutic.
4) Finally self... the broken heart does heal but to accelerate the process, to make it complete, the scar tissue has to be recognized and removed... during that process, it can be very painful and confused with the original hurt (injury). For a while, the process is continous, and depending on how deep the heart is broken, will dictate the length of time.
2007-11-01 16:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by asgodintended 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the misfortune to witness my supposed broken heart through another, and I was upset at his interpretation of it. He did not understand at all how it felt. The vulnerability of pulling yourself in line for a romantic relationship, and to get treated as something to discard, I knew this person was a *******, and I told him so.
That went down well, am I felt bad, apologised because I didn't like being the one to call someone out like that.
Meant it when I did apologise
But realise he did me a huge favour, if I was still with that one, I would not be who I am now.
And I am happy with me, so God works in mysterious ways, that at the time, one can not see, but I would rather go the way of the Wisdom Warrior, than a mere mans muse.
2007-11-01 18:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Astro 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the type when I'm badly hurt I pull away from others until I can get over the hurt. I think the last time I got a real broken heart I stopped dating for 3 years.
2007-11-01 14:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by genaddt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have a good, long talk with myself, realizing that someone who treats me like garbage is doing so because he is garbage, made that way by a combination of genes, upbringing, environment, and circumstances, that I'm worthy of love and respect (from myself and others), that someone who can offer neither is not worth crying over or losing sleep over, and that I'm thankful I found out sooner than later. Then I set about enjoying my favorite activities, invite a friend to join me, seek opportunities to make new friends, try something new, treat myself to a makeover as a new start, get a pet, count my blessings and find someone to cheer up.....usually those last two make me realize I'm better off than I realized.
2007-11-01 14:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spending quality time with a network of supporting friends, choosing friends carefully ... ones that would "take a bullet for you" and vice versa, these are the ones that will turn your tears to laughter just by going out someplace or talking to as a shoulder to lean upon; or even something like playing a game of RISK or Monopoly.
2007-11-01 14:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for the healing process to make us feel well enough to carry on. But, some things will never be forgotten. A broken heart can make some people stronger. It helps to have other people you can relate to around.
2007-11-01 14:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to let it beat me up pretty bad. I would also drink a lot which just made it that much worse. Now I let go and let God! I am going through a bit of a tough stretch right now but I know that I have made it through worse and it only made me stronger. God has allowed me to let him handle my burdens and heavy heart and for that I praise him. I know this is just a test to see how I handle things and also to see if I have learned anything. I know I'm going to be all right. GOD BLESS!!!
2007-11-01 14:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Allan C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I walk through lands of broken dreams ,where I have visions of many things and i discover that happiness is just illusion that's filled with sadness and confusion
2007-11-01 14:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure... I don't think mine is healed yet. When it just about gets to that point, it is broken again and the process just starts over. I am getting rather tired of it frankly....
2007-11-01 18:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋