I am 31 and am happily married for 6 years and my mother still will not get over the fact that I married a non Jewish man. What is honestly the big deal? She is telling my younger sister in college the same thing. Now that I and my husband (atheist) are planning on having a kid she is freaking out even more. Why? Why does this matter? Why won’t she be happy for me? My husband is the nicest guy around and makes a great living and treats me like a princess. Why does she make me feel like a whore? Sorry so ranting, I shouldn’t type when I'm crying.
2007-11-01 13:21:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Reassure her that you'll raise your child as a Jew. She'll get over it as looks forward to celebrating all the Jewish mileposts with her grandchild.
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2007-11-01 15:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hatikvah 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you are happy, but I can understand your mothers feelings though she should not be treating you this way.
Clearly being Jewish is something important for your mother, and she is upset that you do not share this view point.
It is one of the most devastating things for a person that is proud of their Jewish heritage to see their offspring discard it. The fact that your asking this question shows your parents likely failed to communicate this to you, and that you never learned what it really means to be a Jew.
Like many you probably suffered though some classes as a kid and had to attend services a few times a year.
You did not do anything wrong, but if you want to understand why your mother is upset about it I strongly suggest you do some more study into Jewish culture and History.
Dont worry so much about the theology. At least you owe it to yourself to learn more about your heritage.
2007-11-01 20:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Gamla Joe 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your mum truly is still this unhappy, six years on, then frankly she needs either counselling or anti depressant medication. I don't mean this horribly, but she's upset over something deeper than the fact that your husband is not kosher!
Most Jewish parents only care that their children are healthy and happy. Yes, marrying non Jews is an issue because world Jewry is tiny anyway, but your mum sounds troubled.
I don't know her background, of course, so it's impossible to know why she's reacting this way. Try and persuade her to speak to a good counsellor; she may confide things to a stranger that she just can't to family.
Good luck!
2007-11-01 20:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
G-d forbid Jews to marry non Jews, simple as that. Atleast raise the children Jewish. Chabad has programs for children of such marriages to make sure they keep there Jewish identity
2007-11-01 23:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the religion and get on with your life. Your parents subscribe to racist religious beliefs; accept it. But move on.
2007-11-01 20:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Maya 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋