i like this guy but to a lot of people hes a dork and kinda nerdy, but i think hes really funny and smart and most traits a guy can have......but when i told my friends i liike him they were like "You like him??!?!? How disgusting!!" then itold them i was just kidding and wanted to see their reactions....but i really do like him and i think he likes me.......but how do i make this realtionship work if my friends act like this
PS more than just my friends said this.....i try not to care about what other people say but i can't change this
2007-11-01 13:17:09 · 42 answers · asked by xXsarahXx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PSS they do know him quite well and so do i
2007-11-01 13:21:51 · update #1
I think there are a couple of factors that are present here... If you really like this guy and your friends don't, you need to ask yourself if you think that your friends might learn to like him after they hung out with him (assuming you guys did that when dating). Often people mock what they don't understand--maybe that's the case with this--If you really like him, give them a chance to get to know him. Also, you need to weigh how important your friends's opinions are about things that really concern only you.
Hope this helps.
2007-11-01 13:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by C. W. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really awful to like someone that everyone else thinks you're crazy for liking, but you might want to consider WHY your friends think that liking him is "disgusting". Is it because he has un-hygenic habits and picks his nose? Because he's mean to squirrels and runs over them on his bike? Does he spit on people he doesn't like? Or is it for superficial reasons like (here comes the typical nerd stereotypes) he has a funny haircut or is really short or skinny or always talks about Star Wars or has a lisp or some other reason that's not really a GOOD reason. You shouldn't feel you have to hide your crushing from your friends, because chances are your reasons for liking him (smart, funny, nice eyes, whatever) are more legitimate than their reasons for thinking he's a dork. Tell your friends the reasons you like him, and if they're not air-heads they'll at least see where you're coming from. Besides lots of "dorks" in high school grow up to be good-looking and hold well-paid jobs. Trust me, the most of guys that are popular now are not worth it.
2007-11-01 13:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Engaro 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your probably young and this type of stuff will happen all through your school days... and its happened to me when i was a kid, try not to listen to your friends as hard as it is. If he makes you happy what does it matter, your friends wont stop being your friends for it, seems like they might kid around with you at first but, what does that matter? Would you want a guy to not like you or not go on dates with you, if his friends thought you were dorky or disgusting? How would that make you feel if you found out, just do what you want its the best choices in life... because there your choices noone elses. Plus he sounds like he'd be a fun guy to date, the best ones are the ones that can make you laugh never stop smiling.
2007-11-01 13:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by rjwood2122 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously considering not giving this guy a chance because of what your friends think of him?
Your friends aren't dating him, you would be. And if he makes you happy, then that's what counts!!!
Don't let what people say about someone else affect how you think of that person. But if their opinions really matter to you that much, maybe you should let your friends see how great of a guy he really is, and get their "approval" that way. Although in my opinion, good friends would never care what the guy looks like, as long as he treats their friend right, that should be all that matters.
2007-11-01 13:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea, let me tell you everyone on here is gonna say "then they're not your real friends." Well, honestly, they can still be your friends. But go for him, some of the most amazing people in the world are 'nerdy.' Girls used to think i was a dork until they got to know me. Just go for it, if yall connect well, then stay with him, if not, then break up and everybody's happy (except him). Your friends will still be your friends no matter what, don't sweat it.
2007-11-01 13:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy you shouldn't care what other people say because if you only date guys that your friends approve of then you will never be happy and one day you will resent them. If they were your true friends they would support any decision you made and maybe you need to express that towards them. I know if i really liked a guy and he had all the things i wanted i wouldn't care what others thought because my happiness would be top priority not theirs. Do what you feel not what others want you to.
2007-11-01 13:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course youll feel insrcure if people you care about treat other people you care aout liek this..but at the same time dont let other people decide love for you, maybe you guys could have a really good realtionship and youll never know because your worried about what theyll think... you should tell them " Actually I do like him and if we go out you should be happy for me" thats the best you can do, dont let people control your love life
2007-11-01 13:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by miakista 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. Is it actually a "disgusting" thought? Because I wouldn't pay attention to those. It IS possible to have friends who think a guy is selfish or lazy or immature....you know, character flaws that YOU may not see because of the crush. But "disgusting"....I've never had a friend so shallow as to call someone that. Sorry.
2007-11-01 13:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Oh it's me! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, forget everyone else. If your friend is really a friend, as long as he treats you well, it shouldn't matter to them. On same note, however, if you really like him what others say shouldn't bother you. Look at it this way, you discovered a diamond in the ruff and you are one of the few people who has discoverd it's value. Enjoy it!!!
2007-11-01 13:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by True S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends can be a real pain sometimes.If they are real friends they will accept your choice.Maybe they too will see that he is funny and smart eventualy.Tell them that the way a person looks is not generally who the person is inside.Glad you've taken the time to see who he realy is.Enjoy your time with him and grow from the experience.
2007-11-01 13:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋