what should i do.. i really need help..?

Question

My boyfriend.
I love him so much. I just can't take what he's been doing to me. He tells me he loves me and that he'd die if we broke up. Tells me he wants to be with my forever and get married, and all this nice stuff. Tells me i'm pretty, and beautiful.. He's perfect.

Except for he lied to me already about a girl that he was hugging i told him the first time he didn't that it made me feel bad.. and to please not do it again.. i don't care if he was friends with her just don't flirt.. and hug. So, a couple days later my best friend tells me he was huggin her again and saying oh i feel so sorry for all she's going through and he lied and said he didn't do it.. then he finally said he did.. i can't take people who lie.. i was like you can't do this to me..


today.. i found out that yesterday my friend had a halloween party and i went and i told him that she invited him that we could go together but he was sick so he said he'd just call me later that night and then my friend told me that he invited 2 girls with him and his friend, and then his friend invited his girlfriend and 1 other girl.. this one girl was hanging all over him.. he lied to me.. again, and said he was sick and now he just went with them.. and didn't invite me.. or tell me he was leaving..

whenever this happens and i'm really sad he said he's gonna kill himself if we break up.. whenever something like this happens he cuts too.. and i told him to stop and he's tried.. but he still does it..


please give me advice..

i really need help.. i feel like crap.

Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Girl, he is a first-class manipulator and liar! Kick him to the curb as fast as you can! You deserve to be with someone who will treat you right, not lie and go out behind your back.

Answer 2

You have a situation here that is simple yet difficult. I say simple because you claimed that he has lied to you on some occassions , though he was aware of how upset such actions made you feel. I say difficult because it appears that a friend of yours keeps reporting these facts to you that I am beginning to doubt her motives.Lying in a relationship destroys trust which creates more problems for a romance than needs to be. While he admitted each time, apologized each time, you need to forcefully let him know that it does not make it alright to lie just because one admits and apologizes. Plus he is using emotional blackmail to get you to forgive him by cutting himself and threatening to commit suicide. Tell him to just stop with the lies instead of all the drama when he is caught.I also would examine the motives of your friend who is always so quick to tell you of his lies.While you may feel justifiable pain, disappointment, and anger over his lies, you should not feel like crap since you have done nothing wrong.I suggest that you sit him down and let him know that as much as you love him, if he does not stop lying to you, you are going to end the romance ,and nothing he says or does would make you change your mind. Hence, if he truly loves you like he says he does, he should prove it by no longer telling you lies.That he should tell you the truth even if he thinks you are not going to like it .But you should also learn to accept a certain amount of hugging and kissing since it is part of our social mores.I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

Honestly, he's lying to you about that, who's to say there isn't more? Life's too short to be with someone like that. You need to make yourself happy and feel secure with your relationship. As for him cutting and saying he would kill himself, get him some help before you break up with him. Talk with his parents or a close friend. But if you don't trust him, you can't be in a relationship. Good luck

Answer 4

u should talk to someone so that they can get u through this, then move on