My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year. Just recently her sister caught us when I gave her a goodbye peck on the lips. she threatens to tell her parents, which has led to my girlfriend having to tell her mother first. We are sixteen BTW. Im afraid of not being able to see her again if her parents respond the way I expect. At this point, her parents respect me and like me. So the last thing I want is to lose that. I want them to know that I care about their daughter and Im looking out for her. (Im 100% against premaritial sex) I dont have any hidden agendas. I love her more than anything and I dont want to lose her or her parent's respect. any ideas on what I could do to help the situation?
2007-11-01 13:12:08 · 9 answers · asked by sylux 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are very responsible and you know what you want. This kind of attitude should be apparent to her parents, which will lead them to trust that their daughter is safe with you.
Also, it was just a small kiss, and you are 16. I don't think it's anything to get too upset about. But if her parents are very concerned, then perhaps you should sit them down and explain to them everything you just mentioned.
That should calm their fears a lot.
2007-11-01 13:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine a parent losing their minds over a peck..even if it was on the lips. I mean, that's pretty normal for 16 year olds. Unfortunately for the parents, if they do forbid you to see her or whatever, they will only make things worse because sheltering your kids will never help them in the end...she will either go buck wild when she's 18 or be so developmentally delayed that she could be affected for years (I was because of this very thing). But anyway, if they do come unglued, just try telling them what you've said here and hope for the best. If you go to school together, you can still see her at school.
2007-11-01 20:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a peck on the lips is nothing. it is just a norm for dating couples. the parents will understand. the sister is just so busybody. you dn't have to do anything yet. wait to see their reaction first. talk to your gf and find out hoe they reacted. if they are cool with it, then good. just make sure you show more care and concern for their daughter and less of touch and intimate action. just innocent kiss is ok. after all you guys are still young, so you two got plenty of time to slowly develope your relationship. maybe get to noe each other better and hang out together and enjoy each other accompany. dating can be fun this way. i am sure the actions would reassure the parents that the daughter is safe with you and they will trust you.:)
2007-11-01 20:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by cheer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friendly and respectful towards her parents. If they see that you're an ok guy, they won't be so freaked out by you liking their daughter. Just don't act all secretive and suspicious around them. If they see that their daughter is happy, they will give you a chance. And don't do a lot of kissing around them. Seeing that you have your hormones in check will help them feel more at ease.
2007-11-01 20:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by randmthots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is her sister like 2 years old? and if so who cares!! if u have been going out for about 1 yr then it should b fine!! and if her parents trust u dont worry!! i dont think ur going to loose her over a peck on the lips..
2007-11-01 20:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is for you to handle this responsibly and repectfully in regard to her parents. If you continue to show that you care about thier daughter and will respect her as a human being, the odds are in your favor that your relationship will not be compromised over one kiss. Besides, if you both are 16, her parents might shrug it off. Good luck man, all the guys in your place. myself included are pulling for you.
2007-11-01 20:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Michael R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised two boys (men now) and to be honest, I have a lot of admiration for you....you are a "real" man.
BUT I would never expect that after dating for almost a year that you haven't just "kissed" before and I'd be surprised if her parents would freak out about that.
2007-11-01 20:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell the parent the truth?
If they don't like it, it obvious then that you doing something that is not approved. What if you going to ask the parent for engagement then what?
2007-11-01 20:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww you sound very sweet!
You.ve got nothing to worry about-once her parents get to knoe you i'm sure they'll like you and be ok with the relationship!
2007-11-01 20:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pixie-Flames 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋