Catholics please answer this????

Question

How can a married woman go out and have one affair after another, have another mans child, lie, cheat, and still think she will be forgiven??????

She converted a couple of years ago.

Nogodian, this happens to be my daughter-in-law and she is doing these things to MY SON so take your opinion and stick it!!!!!!

Answer 1

please fogive this judgement but apparently she has not truly converted to Christ. she has completely broken the vow and destroyed the santicty of marriage. prefrming the same sin over and over by mistake is one thing. she is blatantly spitting the face of God - I would be fearful for her salvation.

you say it is your sons wife - forgive me but i would say that if he can not get her to stop he needs t get out of that marriage. apparently she did NOT come fuly ot her vows. the annullment should be rather quick.

Answer 2

Has she continued in this behavior since she converted?
If she has, it's a pretty good bet she's been forgiven.
If she hasn't, there is still a chance that she may be forgiven...but she will have to confess her sin and repent...truly intending to put her sin out of her life, with Jesus' help.
If all her conversion amounts to is a bit of "fire insurance", then she isn't really converted at all...
We can't know that she won't be forgiven, perhaps she is just not as far along in her walk as others may be.
To her, Jesus says "go and sin no more."
To the rest of us, He says, "let the one among you who has no sin cast the first stone at her."
To all of us, He says, "What I say unto you I say unto all...follow Me."

I'm not Catholic...I just thought a Christian answer might help you to understand.)

Answer 3

It sound like she is also committing the sin of presumption---when you keep sinning just assuming she will be forgiven and not taking any steps to reform your life then even if you do go to confession there is a "clause" in the absolution formula that you must be serious in trying to amend your life or the forgiveness is not given so it doesn't sound like she is forgiven.

Answer 4

Well, that tends to be the Evangelical/Fundamentalist way of thinking. If you believe that Jesus died for your sins, you are saved but Catholics tend to believe that good works is important to "prove" that you really believe that you are saved. They aren't necessary for redemption, however. One needs to be repentant to be forgiven.

Answer 5

It happens in all religions. Purgatory is for the saved not sinners. Souls in purgatory have just some blemish that has to be purged.

The word "purgatory" doesn't appear anywhere in Holy Scripture, neither do the words "trinity," "catholic," "protestant," nor "incarnation" but this fact doesn't preclude their existence. Catholic doctrine, based on our Jewish origins, is that at the moment of our death our soul, if perfect, goes straight to heaven; if not quite perfect, it goes to purgatory; if totally imperfect, it goes straight to hell. The concept of purgatory is certainly shown in Holy Scripture, so let's take a look at a few of the words of Jesus:
"And whosoever speaketh a word against the Son of man, it shall be forgiven him: but whosoever speaketh against the Holy Ghost, it shall not be forgiven him, neither in this world, neither in the world to come." (Matthew 12:32, KJV)

"Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou has paid the uttermost farthing." (Matthew 5:26, KJV)

Both of these passages imply that some sins, not forgiven in this world, will be forgiven in the world to come. Is this "world to come" only heaven (the place of eternal joy) or is it possible that there is a place of purification (purgation) as well; a place where the uttermost farthing is paid? Again, let's look at a place in Holy Scripture where heaven is described:
"Nothing impure will ever enter it, nor will anyone who does what is shameful or deceitful, but only those whose names are written in the Lamb's book of life." (Revelation 21:27, NIV)
Even if we have the smallest unrepented sin upon our soul, we are impure, defiled and cannot go straight to heaven. That is because this unrepented sin is a refection of our pride, a lack of total dedication to God. It may be the smallest of all sins, but it still constitutes a stain upon our soul. So how do we get rid of it once we have passed into the "world to come?"

"No one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man's work. If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward. If it is burned up, he will suffer loss; he himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames." (1 Corinthians 3:11-15, NIV)

"For our God is a consuming fire." (Hebrews 12:29; Deuteronomy 4:24, KJV)

These verses tell us that upon our judgement, a purification takes place and that God does the purification. That which is unsuitable for heaven is consumed so that only that which is pure remains. Since at the moment of our death we pass from "this world" into the "world to come," this purification must take place in a place other than heaven. We call this place "purgatory," the place of purification. How long does this purification take? No one knows since when we leave "this world" we enter into the world where time has no domain, the Eternal Now.

Answer 6

all sins can be forgiven by going to confession. But she must promise and try her best not to sin anymore. She is empowered by God's grace through Christ in the Holy Spirit. God bless.

Answer 7

You have to be a believer in God and accept that Jesus is your personal Lord and Savior. If this woman was doing these things and truly had a relationship with God then she wouldn't be doing these horrible things you speak of. This tells me she hasn't accepted the Lord and she will spend eternity separated from him. GOD BLESS!!!

Answer 8

God's love and mercy is never ending but He knows the repentant heart.

In Christ
Fr. Joseph

Answer 9

Simple: She's deluding herself. Or rationalizing her behavior. The Church doesn't teach anything of the sort, and I'm sure she knows it.

Answer 10

What have you yourself been doing?...you seem to be overly interested in another woman's activities...makes me wonder what you are trying to divert attention away from in your own behaviour.