The unimportant middle child!?

Question

I have two sisters. My older sister is the athlete/model. She seems to have EVERYTHING. she is an awsome softball player and she is a model for barbazon modeling corporation. She has endless friends and a bf that loves her. My younger sister is the cute artist. Everyone babies her and she NEVER gets in trouble or grounded!! Everytime we go to our families house or something everyone remembers there names and always forgets mine. they remember the older one as the model, and the younger one as the cute one. And if we're talking to ppl we havent met, they'll be like to me, "you dont look like ur sisters" I just hate it. i feel so left out and ignored. I tried being like my older sister, but it just made me feel even worse since i'm not as pretty, popular, and athletic as she is. What can I do to get a little reconition around my family?!

Answer 1

MARCIA, MARCIA, MARCIA!!! Sorry you're probably too young to remember The Brady Bunch, unless you've seen the reruns.

I, too, was a middle child. My older sister was the smart one (and the one they had planned for) and my younger sister was the one they tried so hard to have. Me, I was "unexpected". I, too, felt like no one ever noticed me. I wasn't as pretty as my older sister (who is 18 months older than me) so, she got all the attention from the boys. My little sister was (and still is) spoiled rotten and always got her way with my parents. I was invisible.

I needed to find my niche. Fortunately, I found it in being creative. Unfortunately, my parents didn't see it as "constructive" and critisized me for wanting to spend so much time writing stories and painting. They wanted me to take college courses in high school and be smart like my older sister. No one understood me. It wasn't until I became an independent adult that I ralized that deserved to be recognized for my accomplishments. I hope it doesn't take that long for you.

Find something you enjoy doing more than anything else and do the best you can at it. If they don't recognize your unique talent, then they're the ones who are missing out. Tell your parents that you are working hard to be the best that you can and that you wish that they would see that and respect you for it. Tell them how you feel about being left out.

Also, watch the show "8 Simple Rules". You and I are "Kari". And no matter how much we try to be "Bridgette" we will never be her. So, quit trying and embrace what it is that makes you special!

Answer 2

I have 3 children. And I know that sometimes my middle one thinks he is left out. But, the truth is, we work very hard to keep him from being left out.

As a father, it would break my heart for any of my children to feel they weren't as special or as loved as the other two.

Don't worry about extended family or people you meet on the street. Worry about how your parents feel about you and how your sisters feel about you.

My brother that is the middle child is one of my all time heroes. He always thinks of himself as forgotten in the middle. But, the truth is, I wouldn't be where I am today if he had have made a few personal (not dictated my the family-of his own free will) sacrifices.

The middle child is just as special as the others.

Answer 3

Even if no one makes you feel important, there are still unique qualities in you that your sisters don't have. It might be that you're an artist, you love to write, you love to read, you can sing well, etc. I know how you feel. Because I'm quiet and shy, I've always kind of been pushed in the dark. Everyone in my family is the complete opposite, especially my sister. She's outgoing and funny. But if I don't know someone, I'm so quiet that it's like I'm not even there. I've always felt like I was left out and had no importance. But as time went by, people did start noticing me. They noticed me because I absolutely loved reading, and I was always doing my best in school. You do have good qualities, and the good thing about it is that they're unique. They're YOURS.

Answer 4

girl first and foremost...u have to be confident. I have two sisters. One is an athlete and one is a ......idk everything I guess! Now i wont lie I am the oldest and not the middle and I do have many talents...but what makes me stand out is my confidence. In fact, thats what makes all of use stand out. When people mention any of us they speak about how comfortable we are with being us. Dont try to compete or shine harder than the next sister, just do you. I'll tell u something my older cousin once told me....the BEST thing about u..is the fact that there is NOBODY else like u! Just find yaself sweetie....u'll be kool...

Answer 5

i can totally relate to you i am the middle child in my family and i also have a younger and older sister. you don't have to conform yourself or change yourself so that people like you, you should be yourself, develop that special talent that's hidden deep inside of you.and not too soon after that you will get that cute bf that's waiting out there for you and will love you for who you are. If you want recognition in your family maybe you should confront your family about it, maybe it will help your relationships and it might bring you closer to your family. don't worry what people might say about you not looking like your siblings a lot of people tell me that i don't look like my siblings, you just cant let people get to you like that, they probably have insecurities that they haven't dealt with yet. i wish you good luck and i hope that after you finish reading this you will fell much better about yourself.

Answer 6

You could also sit your family down and ask that you try an exercise with them. Have them write 5 things down about each other that they see special or loving in each other. I bet you will be surprised at the things they see in you.

It is hard being places where you feel you are not getting the attention your sisters are. I am glad you stopped trying to be like your older sister. You are special just the way you are. I was number 2 out of 4. I wasn't cute like my brother or one of my sisters. They have brown eyes and brown hair. They were so cute growing up. I was very light blond hair and blue eyes. You couldn't even tell I had hair until I was 2 years old.

I was also very shy and introverted growing up. It was very awkward because I had no self confidence.

I have since learned, no matter what others see in you or someone else, there is not one person who is better than you. I get told I don't look like my members of my family, except my Dad. I have a long face and high forehead along with high cheekbones. It really doesn't matter what others think of how I look. It is about how I feel about myself.

If others think certain things, I know I am the best I can be. I do not try to be someone else or I would lose myself. What things are you good at? I like to draw. I like to do things like make my Grandma a unique gift. Once I took a mug and put all 24 grandchildren on it. I made her a Sweatshirt and put her children on the front and grandchildren on the back. I made her a boquet of "pictures". I took pictures of her children since 2 out of 7 passed away, including my mother. I put them on tongue depressers and put colored pipe cleaners around the tongue depressers and cut out flower shaped construction paper and put the pictures of her 7 children on them. I glued it into colored rocks in an older looking small bucket. She loved it.

The point is, try to find things you really like to do and go with it. You don't have to be popular to know you are a good person and will be a good wife someday to someone who is the most wonderful person you met. Your special thing could be something like a great smile and making others feel good about themselves.

Be yourself. Find what trips your trigger and fly with it. Be confident in who you are. You are special and you need to see that first. You do not have to be recognized by everyone to be special in someone elses' life. God Bless you.

Answer 7

Honey, first off Barbazon will take anyone as a model as long as you pay the fees. To be honest, they'll take the half decent looking girls, flatter them and let them think they're going somewhere when they really don't have a chance in the world to be a model. Maybe you could try to be the "smart" one. Just try to expierence new things until you find something you shine at. It took me 15 years to find out I was very good at speaking Asian languages. When I was younger, I never thought about it. You'll find something to call your own soon enough.

Answer 8

First of all, don't try to be like them just for the sake of being noticed, you are who you are. As for being the middle child, don't forget that there are always disadvantages too to being the oldest/youngest child, and these disadvantages don't apply to you. I'm personally an only-child, so I'm basically the oldest AND youngest, so I probably couldn't tell you the differences, but do try to be yourself.

Answer 9

well if you really want to, you first have to define yourself. what are you? the smart/nice one (okay...that one was weak...). anyway, take some lessons from your sister. ask her how she does it (cause trust me, its not as easy as it looks). ask her to teach you some stuff about fitness - go jogging together, whatever - and ask for advice (fashion, boys, friends, etc) and take notes! also, try to be nicer to your little sister and help her with her art projects. give her mini makeovers, whatever. just become closer with both of them and soon youll be the "model/artsy/athlete/cute" one, plus some more!

oh, and what novbaby said: be confident!!!

Answer 10

I'm the midle child too. I have an older sis and a younger bro. So don't feel bad cuz I understand how you feel.