How can i stop being shy and get the ladies?

Question

Ok im shy.And im really attractive(girls point of veiw)but im shy so every girl likes me as a friend.And my mom was shy but my dad was really outgoing and i think i got my moms shyness.but i know that it doesnt mean im permanently shy cause when i was younger i wasnt shy to kids my age and i was funny until puberty hit me.So now im self concoius.Im really confident just not really talkative at my age.im in junior high.What can i do to help this situation?I talk to girls but i guess they think im too nice.i dont act really flirty and crazy

thanks for some gay answers guys

Answer 1

The key to conquer your shyness is to remember that you're the best looking, smartest, and sexiest person in the room.

As for attracting women, I have a technique that I've found allows even the ugliest of me (like me) to attract women. If it can allow ugly men like myself to attract women then it should work even better for you.

This is a long post, but I can assure you, one worth reading.


The key to this strategy is that all people crave the attention of others and that attention is just as addictive as any drug, with “regular users” far more addicted then those who only occasionally receive any attention from the opposite sex.

To employ this strategy, the man should enter a bar and quickly identify the ‘Alpha Girls’, the women who have been blessed by nature with the best looks, prominent assets, and who are used to using these assets to get men to ogle over them, without being seen by whichever alpha girl he intends to target.

These girls receive so much attention form men that they have become addicted to this attention just like a rock star who has become addicted to fame.

Since they’re addicted to this attention, and consider it an essential part of their identity, such girls are always surrounded by men they have attracted and are toying with.

The key to seducing such a girl is to remove these “fans”.

To do this, you’ll need the help of a ‘Beta Girl’.

A beta girl is a girl who possesses the sexy looks of an alpha girl but is not addicted to attention as is the alpha girl and, unlike the alpha girl would rather “hunt down” a man as opposed to making a display of herself and waiting for them to come to her. In short, beta girls are the quintessential “empowered woman”.

Despite their denials, deep down, these women are always jealous of the alpha girls.

Locate one of these girls, strike up a friendship with her, and teach her something that would attract the men in your particular environment, such as a bar magic trick.

Since this strategy is intended for ugly guys (like myself), any beta girl would be interested in what we’re saying, and possibly in a friendship at this point in the game but, because she’s empowered, she will know that she could do better. Try to get her number (as a friend) anyway, this will come in handy latter.

With his new friend in his company, the man should then approach the alpha girl’s crowd of admirers (most of which are still intent of attempting to seduce her but, because they’ve been at it for a while, have become a little bored) and impress them with your best show (magic or otherwise).

This will take the attention of the alpha girl’s admirers away from the alpha girl.

Since, like any addict, she craves her addiction, in this case attention, she’ll immediately feel venerable (and a little angry-but this is good, the anger and sex drive portions of the brain are right next to each other) that, for the first time, attention isn’t focused on her.

After performing a few tricks of you own, hand this crowd (which will usually consist of Alpha men) off to your friend (the beta girl) so she can perform the tricks you just taught her.

Because of her jealousy for the alpha girls, and her natural need for attention, she’ll be thrilled to be receiving this much attention from alpha guys.

Now, while she’s still off balance from the sudden loss of her adoring fans, move in and begin paying attention to the alpha girl-but not too much attention-just the attention you would give a casual female acquaintance.

Suddenly left with only one fan (and one who doesn’t appear as pleased as her usual adoring crowd), the alpha girl will do anything to please that one fan (you).

If you can get her out of the bar/club before her adoring crowd returns, you can continue to cultivate this feeling of need and, by presenting the impression that your full adoration can only be obtained by her if she sleeps with you, chances are that she will do just that.

****************NOW FOR THE DOUBLE PLAY****************

As an added bonus, call the beta girl two days after meeting her at the bar/club. Chances are that the alpha girl has come to her senses, realized hat she can do better and left you with a sheepish smile. It’s just as likely though that the beta girl, thoroughly enjoyed the attention she enjoyed the night before and knows that you were the one that helped her get that attention.

When you call her, tell her that you thought the two of you made a good team and that you’d like to show her more tricks.

Since she’ll want to be able to grab the attention of men the way she did the night the two of you met and will agree to meet you.

While she usually wouldn’t consider a lowly man like you, the fact that she saw you seduce the alpha girl the night before will make her think you’re much more valuable then you looks suggest, thus opening up the possibility of dating her.

When she’s at your apartment, teach her a couple more of these attention grapping tricks and then suggest that she practice by trying one out while you serve as the audience.

After she has performed a couple of tricks, allow your interest in her to show.

Since, as a beta girl, she enjoys being the seducer, allow it to appear as though what she’s doing is making you fall for her right then (as opposed to the reality, which is that you’ve liked her all along).

Her jealousy of the alpha girl, her want to have what she had, and her curiosity at what the alpha girl saw in you might just get her to sleep with you as well, and what’s even better, since these girls respect a man of intellect and aren’t concerned with the prospect that being seen with you (a sub-alpha man) would lower their social standing among shallow people, there’s a chance your relationship with her might turn into something more.

Answer 2

Have you laid a woman down? It is tough to get the nerve the first time, but after that it gets easier. I am 36 and haven't been laid in a year, but I am a freakazoid about STD's and pregnancy. When I was your age, I was a pipe-laying fool. You know the song that goes "I ain't good looking but you know I ain't shy"? Well, I was average looking, and sometimes shy. However, the worst they can do is tell you "no". If you are just looking for a date, how bad can that be. Listen friend, if you ask 10 girls out, 5 will say yes. Trust me! You are way too young to get picky. Not like you are looking for marriage!

Answer 3

I know so many guys like this!
You said your confident? Well just strike up a conversation with a girl. When you walk into class, sit on her desk and just ask her how she is, how was her weekend, etc. She will be flattered you went out of your way to talk to her. By doing this you establish a reputation as a nice and trustworthy guy.

Now, when you go to dances (assuming your school has dancing), this is where you will shine. Ask a whole bunch of girls to dance with you. Don't be nervous about it. If they are worth your time, they will be pleased you asked them to dance. Just be the life of the party at dances. This is how you can express your fun and crazy side.

You are very young so you shouldn't have to worry about being a huge flirt just yet. Just continue to be sociable and confident when around girls and you will keep their respect. Later in high school, this will be very valuble.

Answer 4

If you get over the initial barrier, and are able to say hi and start a conversation - make it all about them. People are interesting to get to know, because we are all so different.

When you are by yourself sometime, think about who you want to get to know. Think of stuff to ask them about that isn't too personal at first. What's your favorite color, or subject in school could get a conversation going. Afterwards, you could ask her to meet you at a shopping mall to hang out and walk around, and get a snack. Most of the time women like talking with a guy. This is important. Men don't like to talk as much, usually, but remember, you are making these first moments about her.

Answer 5

You just need to take a deep breath and don't worry and do not now i mean do not do stuf that the girl disslikes and don't be wired around her at all and tell her the truth to the questions she asks and if they like you just act normal and try not to staair at her. You need to get a better conection with the ladies now if there is one invite her over for a nice dinnder with her favorite foods and drinks and don't burp round her and if it is more than one throw a party

Answer 6

You don't have to act crazy to get attention. It might sound strange, but talk to girls (or anyone for that matter) like you assume they are really cool, good people. If you find out they aren't and are actually jerks, move on and forget them. Don't be mean, or nasty, just move on.

It doesn't matter what other people think, it matters what you think. So, if you're not happy try to change that. Do things that will make you happy, and you become a happier person without even trying, and everyone like a person like that. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm sorry people are being so mean to you! A lot of guys are shy around girls. That's normal! Just be yourself and if it's meant to happen it'll happen. You don't have to be wild and crazy to get "the ladies" (lol). Actually, most girls prefer more normal, calm guys to tell you the truth! I'm one of 'em. Good luck!

Answer 8

ok I know the feeling first you need to talk to yourself in the mirror, next if you really like a girl write her a note or a letter and explain to her that you are kind of shy and you would like to get to know her so tell her if it is ok that you guys write letters or notes for know and then you guys should go out for coffee or to the movies or something but just like you us girls are just as shy so let me tell you if you do not start now you will always be too shy to get the girl Good Luck

Answer 9

To get on the right track here are several suggestions first obvious but will mention take a shower shave fix hair put on deodorant and try your best to look and smell good. But don't over do the fragerance it shows how hard you are trying. Then approach a woman and compliment her not on here physicall characteristics but her purse or her clothes or her nails. This shows you have paid a lot of attention to her and find her attractive without saying something stupid and sexist. If you can start a conversation ask about her education and the weather and her job. try to keep making her talk by asking questions you don't want to field a bunch of real aquered questions. This lets her know again that you are interested in knowing about her not just interested in getting with her. If she asks you questions answer as simply and as accurately as you can without leaving your self vaulnerable and try to follow your answer with another question about her. By keeping the conversation about her you are keeping the focus on her but not in a pressured way. FYI "Don't pry, don't ask her where she works or anything specific to early; she may not want to tell you for fear of phone calls or suprise visits. After a few dates a small gift is required. Something sweet but not to girly. You should start to know her tastes by now.

Answer 10

Here's your future: you'll meet a nice girl who's really outgoing, get married and as soon as the shine wears off, that outgoing part that got you turns into, "Don't she ever quit running her head"? That's what happens to shy guys. Bob H.

Answer 11

just be yourself man.that time will come and doesn't need to be in hurry. if you think you are shy, then at least try to build up your confidence by hanging out with them, like doing things you enjoy and they will also enjoy. maybe you're feeling shy because you're just aware of their presence. (perhaps you don't hang out with them, try inviting friends male and female, then go party in groups).

Good luck and enjoy life. you're still young..