2007-11-01 12:16:19 · 29 answers · asked by sannaparis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw, Im not getting married!!! If this was a personal issue I would not ask for your opinion!
2007-11-01 12:28:41 · update #1
I'm not a guy but I have something to say on this matter. My fiance told me that he doesn't care if I change my last name or not and I didn't like that comment. I feel like he couldn't really care less about marrying me, if he did, then he'd want my name to be the same as his. As a matter of fact, he also hasn't told his friends that we're engaged cause he's worried they will tell him what a bad idea it is AND he once mentioned that he doesn't like the idea of having to wear a wedding ring. All these things make me feel like he is embarrassed to be with me. So be thankful that your man cares enough to want you to have his name.
2007-11-01 12:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I took my husband's name. I feel it is an honor to do so as he is taking the vows to be with me.
Yes, I know you said guys but I had to throw in my two cents.
EDIT:
Daisy, are you trying to say that any woman who takes her husband's last name is damaged? Screw that. I am not mental nor am I damaged. While I value who I was when was unmarried, fact is, I am still no different now than I was then. I'm still ME only with a new last name.
You're pretty screwed up if you think you're somehow better because you chose NOT to take your husband's name. Sorry sweetie, the men here are not freaky and the women aren't damaged.
2007-11-01 12:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know i am not a guy but i am gonna respond anyway. i personally would take my mans last name but, i agree with if its a last name hard to pronounce or would make you feel weird like "Julia Goulia" from The Wedding Singer. But, i feel like every woman has a right to decide. i think hyphenated last names are just ridiculous especially for kids. when they have a name like Jennifer Lynn Gnan-Schmitz or whatever. but its their choice. if your guy is really upset i think you should truely talk about it. if you cant agree maybe u need some more time to re-think if the marriage should hold off awhile.
2007-11-01 12:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by hiitsjenna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
In response to Johnny below:
I would agree on that principle, if the guy has a name that doesn't seem to match, and they both chose to take the woman's last name I don't have a problem with that. But those hyphenated last names are terrible. It makes it ridiculous at work trying to search for someone.
Edit: Daisy:
You equate a strong sense of identity to you keeping your last name? What a strong sense of identity you have based only on whether or not you keep your last name. (sarcasm intended)
2007-11-01 12:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by jay k 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm not a guy, but me and all my sisters have kept our own name. We were brought up with a strong sense of identity and none of us saw any reason to change our names. It is an antiquated tradition which bears no relevence to life today. My children have both my name and their Dad's name....mine comes last whilst most people have the Fathers last...my name is much prettier and...why should guys get it all? EDIT...oh my God! There are so many FREAKY men here....what a big old load of crud! Mind you, guys like that probably only marry terrified, damaged women anyway!
2007-11-01 12:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes. It's part of getting married.
2007-11-01 12:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your call is on no account lost. it is on your delivery certificates continuously. additionally, in case you alter it and combine so the two names would be honored, you're ending the line of his final call and yours multi functional. so which you would be able to nicely be offending his kin. women persons form of do save their maiden names in a fashion (ex. if a girl's call is Mary Anne Smith, and she or he gets married to somebody with the final call Marx her call is now only Mary Smith Marx) a minimum of thats how i've got consistently seen it. in case you wanna save your final call only hyphenate it, or you're dropping 2 historys, no longer honoring them.
2016-09-28 03:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by hannula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my oldest friends, for 50 years kept her maiden name when she got married at 30 something.... her husband didn't mind... It was part of who she was...
Spanish culture people keep their names.... they are identified by their maternal and paternal last names.... Which I think is quite unique and sensible
2007-11-01 12:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is the big problem with taking your husband's name? does it change who you are? Are you that petty that you think you will lose your identity if you change your last name? Get over the bra burner attitude and love your husband and be proud to be his wife and enjoy each other, that is what marriage is about, after all, not if you keep your last name
2007-11-01 12:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
depends on a couple things. if she was an entertainer, then it'd be ok. rebecca romijn sounds a lot better than rebecca romijn-stamos. i don't want to think of uncle jesse when i want to be thinking of rebecca romijn.
also depends on her name. if she has a great name, lyrical and graceful and all that jazz, it'd be kind of unfair if she had to change it to schmeckleson or something like that. as long as he kept her wedding ring on and knew who was boss, i'd be fine with it.
2007-11-01 12:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Pepito111 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋