An old friend of mine phoned me tonight and we had a nice discussion. I haven't spoken to him in about a year.
He mentioned that he was a bit bummed out about something.
When I asked him what was going on and why he was so very upset his reply was nothing for you to worry about I have just been going through some internal conflicts and I will be working it all out on my own.
When I told him if he needed someone to talk to he could always talk to either me or my husband he replied I have it covered thanks and then hung up the phone.
Did i say something wrong?
I am bit concerned?
2007-11-01 12:12:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he knows i have husband he came to my wedding and everything husband and i been together 20 years
2007-11-01 12:18:47 · update #1
I believe a lot of people don't know how to express sadness or depression. My husband shows anger when he is sad. It's really hard to decipher what his problem is when he is out of sorts.
Also, some people like to isolate the problem for themselves before describing it to anyone else. I like to get it analyzed, and afterwards talk it out with friends for feedback.
2007-11-01 12:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by carol g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, you did nothing wrong. He was fishing for a hook-up and you used the h-word (husband), which told him you were unavailable.
His "problem" is you, and because you didn't respond the way he wanted or hoped, he hung-up to avoid embarrassment. He also quietly hopes you got the hint and will do xxxx with him.
Edit: Because he already knows about your husband and your 20 years together, does not change my answer. You're still with your dh and apparently not interestined in cheating. This chased him away (sounds like a good thing for you).
2007-11-01 19:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he didn't know you were married and was hoping to hang out with you. Or maybe he just has issues. Men deal with problems in a different way than us women do. They like to hold it in until they explode. Just give him time. When he works out everything I'm sure he'll call you back to mend things. You didn't say anything wrong...you were being a good firend. He's acting stupid. Don't stress about it.
2007-11-01 19:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Good Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you said anything wrong. He probably is just upset about whatever problems he is having, and doesn't feel ready to talk about them. He may feel threatened that you would see his emotions when you mentioned he could talk to you, so he felt it was better just to shut you out for that moment. The important thing is that you let him know he has someone to talk to if he needs it. :)
2007-11-01 19:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he ever.. well... admire you at all. Dont listen to me for sure, but i think that he liked you a bit, and when you mentioned your husband, he got angry. I may be wrong, but im just suggesting.
2007-11-01 19:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was hoping you were tired of your husband and was disappointed because you didnt want to knock boots
2007-11-01 19:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by DEERnHeadlights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur okay, if he wanted ur help then he would of asked......we all have problems
2007-11-01 19:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋