My coworker is nosey and involves herself in ALL of my conversations, whether business related or personal. She is a "know-it-all" and I am constantly being included in her numerous mistakes. I have been in my position for a few years and she just started this year. My manager doesn't give the impression that he is aware of the problem. I want to firmly put her in her place, before I lose my temper and go upside her head.
2007-11-01 11:59:02 · 11 answers · asked by On-the-Move 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If it was me I would go to the manager and ask him for suggestions on how to handle this problem. Tell him you want to handle it in a way that doesnt upset the team spirit of the office and you want his input.
2007-11-01 13:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is especially a problem if your office is a cube or divided partitions. You just can't help but overhear what the other people are saying. If you must have private conversations, see if there is a quiet spot available for employees to take personal calls. Employers are aware that everyone has a personal call now and again. If not, just tell her that your conversation is not open for discussion and walk away.
2007-11-01 12:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Proximity might be the problem; if at all possible move as far away from her as you can. If this does not work or you are unable to do this, you will have to handle the problem yourself. Mgrs rarely want to get involved in employee arguments. You will need to talk to ther one on one, in proivate, and just tell her, calmly, quietly, softly, in a low, controlled tone, what she is doing and how it is affecting you and your work. Tell her she needs to back waaaaayyyyyy off and leave you alone to do the job you are being paid to do there, and while you prefer not to involve the manager and HR, you are perfectly willing to do so if she has a problem complying with your wishes. Tell her you are there to do your work, not socialize, and you prefer she not be in your face at all, for any reason. Her behavior and her work are having a bad effect on you and your work and you have NO intention of jeopardizing your job because she does not behave in a professional manner. Say all this nicely, kindly but firmly, and if you get any arguments or hesitation on her part, tell her you tried to work it out in private but you can see you are going to have take further steps. Then leave.
2007-11-01 12:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When ever she engages herself in this behavior, stop and dead stare at her. She will become aware your aware. If she buts in conversations, stop talking, say excuse me to whom you were speaking to and ask this noisy woman what you can do to help her. Don't pick the conversation back up until she is gone. If she doesn't go, grab your conversation partenr by the arm and say excuse me to the noisy woman and walk away. Make it hard for her to do!! She will move on. If she does not go to your boss and say your having a problem you dont want to reflect your job is there something you could do to work it out so that it doesnt.
2007-11-01 12:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by savahna5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello, all u have to do is take her aside & let her know that she's bugging you. it's that simple. here's what u should say to her the next time she interferes with a conversation that u r having with someone & not her. when u r talking with someone & she insists in joining in the conversation all u need to say to her is hey this is a private conversation, sorry! that's quite upfront so she should get the hint & if she does then when u know it she will probably say something like, " oh sorry i didn't know" then u will have put her right in her place where she belongs! good luck, nobrethequeen
2007-11-01 12:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by nobrethequeen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a private conversation with another coworker that may not have the correct info in it within earshot. Perhaps that will set her straight.
But don't go to overboard.
2007-11-01 12:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by patience 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she asks you questions, avoid them with a "why do you want to know that?" Keep personal talk out of the office; it will benefit you in untold ways.
2007-11-01 12:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her know through you actions and speech. Don't talk much to her and don't let her know much about your personal life.
2007-11-01 21:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to get out of my life...plain and simple..
2007-11-01 12:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her !!!! It is called communication.......Don't worry about her feelings she will get over it.
2007-11-01 12:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lue R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋